me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 yrs. it's been on and off (mainly bc of our differences and i have a habit of breaking up with him everytime i get mad). we always come back to eachother though. one time i hurt him a lot by breaking up with him because he mentioned marriage and i got scared. i refused to see him for 5 months, but he waited for me to come back. we tried to work it out again, but we argued and i dumped him again. it hurt him a lot and he moved on but he was mean to his new girlfriend by comparing her to me infront of her face and continuing to see me behind her back. one time she caught us hanging out at the library (we're in college). she dumped him and soon after he came back to me. i truly love him, but for some reason, i feel like ever since he tried to move on with that girl, i feel differently about him. i still love him, and we don't fight anymore. he's sweeter than he's ever been. but... something's holding me back.
any ideas?
advice please!
2007-01-25 05:01:03 · 7 answers · asked by emrees 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You're feeling jealous, i.e. mad at your slave for daring to stray from worshipping you.
Advice: leave him alone so he can build up some respect for himself, and have a normal relationship with some other girl.
what you should do is learn to control your temper and appreciate what you have.
2007-01-25 05:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did you expect? You treated this man like he was disposable so went elsewhere for love. True, he shouldn't have been deceiving this other girl, but he obviously cares about you. For how long, though? If you can't make up your mind and you can't committ to your feelings for him, one day he will just get tired of your games and move on for good. It's not fair to him to dump him all the time and then want him back and now you feel different and don't know why. How would you feel if someone you loved was toying with your emotions?
2007-01-25 05:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are very afraid of commitment. I'd suggest counseling for you and then, before any marriage--the both of you.
I understand where you are coming from--I was engaged 5 different times (to different guys) before I finally got married--and that only lasted a year and a half. I'm afraid of commitment and I"m a control freak. I need therapy myself.
2007-01-25 05:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it's still him you love or just the the thought of being with someone and not alone? Since you're still in college, still young...give yourself a chance to date other people, get more well-rounded experience with dating.
2007-01-25 05:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you in user-friendly terms want him while it suites you, it is not honest on him.i'm shocked he has took you returned all those situations, however the time WILL come while he will say sufficient is sufficient and he truly will pass on.in user-friendly terms you could elect what you prefer yet you need to head with rapidly with a view to no longer destroy HIS existence.
2016-11-27 01:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what kind of a relationship this is. It isn't love. You two understand the rules and do not get along with others who would not put up with you.
2007-01-25 05:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by olivia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you don't trust him as much, since he basically cheated on his other g/f with you.
you both should move on.
2007-01-25 06:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋