2007-01-25 04:58:12 · 23 answers · asked by pinkerton22002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What is the difficulty in breaking away? That's the key question really. Knowing that, will help you decide what way to choose for ending it with him. When I decided to leave my husband I went to a counsellor and told her what I wanted to do and why, and that I needed a plan. She helped me work through my feelings and decide what to do. Without that help I don't know where I would be now, honestly. I suggest you seek out a personal counsellor and get started. No matter what issues you are struggling with, please remember there really are answers for you! You should not EVER have to feel like you HAVE to stay because there's no way out. You can make a new life for yourself and find happiness. I wish you the best of luck. :)
2007-01-25 05:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this will be, just walk away. Don't accept phone calls, do not see him for any reason. Do not let him give you excuses. If you two reside together either move in with a friend until you can afford your own place or ask him to leave. Tell him you will not be hurt anymore. Lies hurt, being cheated on hurts and this is just an assumption but you dont trust him as a result of his lies and his cheating? Move on sweetheart there are good men out there.
2007-01-25 05:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Easy, if you live with him, pack up your stuff, call your best friend and load it up in the car and leave. I wouldn't stand for that crap, no woman should. It's time that women start taking a stand and not tolerating the stuff men put us through. I know it will be hard because he has been in your life for 10 yrs now, but sometimes you just got to pick up from where you left off. I mean I have no idea how old you are, but I am sure there are better options out there, and until you find someone that treats you like you hung the moon, then don't give them the time of day. Good luck on everything your going through, I hope that you do get the strength to leave.
2007-01-25 05:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seems like 10 years is far too long for you to be patient. You could build a martyr monument for yourself already. Do you have kids? Its always hard after a breakup especially youve been together for too long but it has to stop somehow and so far you reached a point that your relationship seems questionable and you want to break away. Try moving to a faraway place or a change of work where you will have to move far and dont try to leave a contact number. Or talk it out with him if whats his opinion about bith of you parting ways. You didnt mention if youre married. If you think you cant take it anymore, just leave.
2007-01-25 05:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by mareko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well have a really nice dinner for him when he gets home one night and in conversation let him know that you have proof he lies, cheats and that after your nice meal he can do the dishes because he is all washed up and you are moving on. Pretty simple. Go see a therapist after that though. I know how long relationships can be and then breaking it off. So just relax and get some prof help and kick his butt to the curb.
You are better than to deal with that guy. :)
2007-01-25 05:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to just "leave" a relationship that has such long roots but it IS 100% possible. First you have to believe that you deserve better than him. Second, you have to build up your confidence in yourself enough to believe you will be GREAT on your own. It's hard (and terrifying!) to suddenly be single again after 10 years...I know! But it's one of life's adventures and you will feel better once you've moved out and moved on. Spend time with your friends and yourself and get back in touch with what it is you like and then do those things! Remember that there are thousands of single men out there and there are lots of them that WILL treat you right.
2007-01-25 05:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by what? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guy,s will lie at the same time as they recognize they could smash out with it cos they in many cases want there cake and eat too no longer care who they damage. I were with a guy for 6yrs on and off cos mendacity one evening when we had damaged up had a three direction meal at my position then stated he become going to a friends had a sower and shave, infrequently shaved.besides get a component contained in the mailbox, he had were given stuck dashing attempting get to girlfriends position cos it become after 10pm and he might want to of been **** ten himself cos he might want to of lied to her too. justice, so I despatched the letter decrease back to police no longer at this handle, i imagine it took a minimum of 4mths to regulate handle so he might want to pay extra
2016-12-03 01:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some confidence,"HELLO" thats how I did it,& girl 8
months was enough for me!!! You've taken ten years of
it? OMG! You just don't feel good about yourself and you
don't want to try and put in all the effort to have a better &
new relationship with another guy! Face it,until you learn
to respect yourself,you'll keep getting abuse!!!
Just say,"NO" more abuse,& leave!!!
2007-01-25 05:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It took you 10 years to get to this point? Why didn't you break away a long time ago? You just say "I'm leaving" and pack up and move on.
2007-01-25 05:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No one deserves to be lied to or cheated on. Those are two of my peeves. Get rid of the jerk, you don't need his drama in your life.
2007-01-25 05:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋