I feel so horrible. I remember when I had this friend who considered me her best friend but I never appreciated her, and instead I wanted to be friends with a "rebel" because I thought she was more fun and outgoing and the other friend was dull and uninteresting. So junior high ended, and all my close friends went to a different high school, and me and the rebel went to a different high school in which we knew absolutely no one. So yeah...We started high school like 5 months ago, and I have made NO CLOSE FRIENDS. The only person I actually hang out with is her, and now I realize she really isn't a a good friend. Actually she's fake. She only hangs out with mewhen she has no one else. And when she's with her new friends, I fell left out. You know the saying, "You never know what you got, til it's gone?" Well I think I've learned the meaning of that saying, and now I look back at the ohter high school where all my real friends and real best friend go to, and I see that I've--
2007-01-25 04:55:33 · 36 answers · asked by ♫MizzUnderstood♫ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
made a wong choice that affected my life. I've missed out on all the friendships I could have had, all because I wanted to be cool. But I'm actually a loser. I just don't know what to do...
2007-01-25 04:57:22 · update #1
I can't transfer schools. We go to different magnet schools in which you need to apply before a deadline, and you have to meet requirements. It's too late now...
2007-01-25 04:59:53 · update #2
Welcome to life. Make better choices going forward. You are only in High Shcool? You haven't even really started. On average, only one of your friends from high school will make it as your friend 10 years from now. Don't worry about. Go to school, get an education, and be a productive member of society, and then you can evaluate your life. You can't do that if you aren't even paying rent yet.
2007-01-25 04:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is well written and you have your head on straight. You need to realize now the lesson you have learned and that "it is in the past". What can you do ?? I don't know. Is it possible to transfer back to the other school and humbly return to the place you now regret having left ?? If not, just put your mind on your studies and put a sweet smile on your face ( smiles are contagious).To get comfortable with smiling all the time, practice on greeting the elderly, and little children, they are so receptive. Won't be long, it becomes a natural part of your personality. Soon you will be making friends of your own. Something you can't force to happen. We are attracted to people that seem to feel good about who they are and your letter does not describe that just now.Just hold on, it will with a change in your attitude and with that smile. I find humming relaxes me, if you need that hint. Just don't hum when someone is trying to talk to you. ha ha
I did that once to my Mother when I was 17 and thought I knew it all.!!! OH ! did I ever get a tongue lashing. Needed it too.~~~~
So Honey I wish you the very best and I am so glad you made this discovery on your own before you got into trouble with following the wrong friends.
It takes a friend to have a friend.~~
Good luck, have a good year, and God bless you~~~~~Jill
2007-01-25 05:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is all about living and sometimes you have to make mistakes, it's normal though. You cant change the past, what happened just happened. But If you get another chance with your friend you should make it up to him/her. you can try to transfer to the high school your best friend goes to, Oh I see that you cant from your addition Info you added. Well, if not give her a call and tell her everything, be perfectly honest with her and tell her you made a mistake, I am sure she will understand. If you cant get her on the phone stop by her house, with a "I am sorry card" or some type of gift. I am pretty sure that if you offer a sincere apology this friend of yours will forgive, and that past friendship will re-kindle.
2007-01-25 05:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so you made a mistake. Life is full of them, you aren't the first and you won't be the last to falter.
Now you know, people can be deceiving and not all good times last forever. You have learned a good lesson, are feeling remorseful and hopefully can forgive yourself for being a jerk and moving on.
You will probably have to finish out your year at this school., then you can put in for a transfer to the other school.
Don't expect your friends to fall all over you, cause you dissed them and they have to accept you back into their group.
It will take time, but a little grovelling and apologies on your part won't hurt.....
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, give yourself a good kick in the as* and get on with your school year.
Do the best you can and focus on improving your grades. Do something positive out of something negative.
You will feel like you have made a big step in improving your life.
2007-01-25 05:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have electives at school that is a good place to start. Try and find someone who likes the things you do. I got most of my friends from sports. Another way is just talk to people like ask a question like do you know where this clas is i am new here and see if you feel something. I hope this works and learn from your mistakes a friend will always be there and go to the ends of the earth for you.
2007-01-25 05:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by pegleg24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your other friends aren't gone, remember that. They just go to a different school, so keep in touch with them, and eventually transfer back if that is where you'll be happiest. Just remember, you're still young, and everything you do is the basis for your future. Use every one of your decisions as a learning tool, so you dont repeat the same action in the future. It's not the end of the world, just make the most out of the school you're in now, keep close with your old friends, and ALWAYS keep your chin up, and look foward.. things will get better. learn from your mistakes! dont live in regret!
2007-01-25 05:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by Vinny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it too much, hon. You are very young, and for you to learn such a huge lesson so early is actually a very good thing. In the future the love and the friendships that you will have the pleasure of will be so much more meaningful.
Don't dwell on the past, it will only ruin your future. Stop hanging out with the girl, because she may be the reason that others are not approaching you. Put yourself out on a limb, even if it means embarressing yourself, and make a new friend. Usually when you make one friend, you make several - because THEY have friends.
Again, stop dwelling on the past, realize you just learned a very important lesson in life, and get back out there! I believe in you!
2007-01-25 05:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by C.B. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First relax!! Everyone makes mistakes like this and your one of the lucky ones!! You realize they were mistakes and that you want to fix things! And you realized this early enough that you can change them. You may have even realized it soon enough to salvage the friendships you had with your old friends at the other high school. Try and talk to them, apologize and I'm sure, if they are true friends they will accept that and accept you for who you are and forgive you for the mistakes you made!! Also, start reaching out to different types of people at your new school. You are still new enough that everyone is still trying to establish friends and groups! Start talking to people in classes and I'm sure you will find someone you clique with and then you can meet their friends. And if you are really concerned with the choices you've made, see if you can't talk to your parents about transferring to the other high school to be with your old friends!!
Either way, you have to make the decision now to change back to who you really are!! Good luck and enjoy high school!!
2007-01-25 05:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't consider you a loser just a young girl who made some wrong choices. Welcome to the world of being a teen. Now that you know what you did wrong you can make sure you don't make the same mistake again. I would contact my old friend and apologize to her and see if we can start up the friendship again. Once you learn how to be a friend again you will start making new friends at your new school. Stay away from the "new" girl she sounds like bad news.
2007-01-25 05:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this might sound sort of strange, but as a much older person, I've found that one of life's real benefits is that you always get a chance to change. All you have to do is recognize that you want to change, and then start to work toward being that person you want to be.
I'm serious. So, you recognize that there were opportunities to enjoy friends that you missed. That's too bad, but it's also good, because even though you can't magically get that time back, you *can* work toward better times ahead.
I understand that you're blue about this, but really, friends and good memories are in your future, as well as your past. Think about that and enjoy the change :-)
Good luck.
2007-01-25 05:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋