If a mother leaves the state with or to meet a boyfriend, why does she get child support.?

Question

If she leaves the state or the area with a child, isn't she saying she can take care of the child without the father's help?

Answer 1

No she is saying she needs to put some distance in between the two of you... Out of sight...out of mind... You have to pay support until they are 18, regardless of where they live...

Answer 2

Uh--NO! Both parents have a legal obligation to take care of their child regardless of where the child lives.

I don't know if this is actually YOU we are discussing---but I'm gonna phrase this as if it was---so don't get offended if this question isn't about you-----

Most divorce decrees say the parent can't leave the state without the consent of the other parent or consent of the Court. If your decree didn't say that--then you are SOL. If you found out she was moving, you could have filed something to stop her---saying the move was not the Best Interest of the child b/c it would harm your relationship with the child, no stable support for the mom in the new town, etc.....if you didn't do that, you are SOL. If she left the state without even telling you--drag her back to court----the court will lose jurisdiction of custody issues after the child has lived in another state for 6 months----at that point, you will have to go do all your dealing where she is--added expense for you and such with traveling, time off of work.

I don't want to lecture--so I'll just say, a non-custodial parent has a legal obligation to support their child until a Court says otherwise.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, there are no circumstances in which a non-custodial parent doesn't pay child support. Even if she gets married to her out of state boyfriend, and he buys her a nice house and supports her child, the father STILL has to pay.
The real issue is, what are you going to do to stay involved with your child? Don't let her stop you from seeing your kid! You can take her to court to keep the child in the "home" state, which is the state where the child was residing for the last 6 months.

Answer 4

You can only leave state with the children if the Judge allows you to(without the other parents consent....In that case.......theres a Good Enough Reason in the eyes of the Law to allow her to take the kids elsewhere to live.....I would suspect it's to get away from the "father of the kids" for All of their protection~ Otherwise.....NO you can't leave a state with the children, without the permission through the courts, or unless you had the other parents signature.
And........YOU are responsible to pay CHILD support till your children are 18* that is also The Law* It is to go towards the childrens clothing, food, schooling...for them to get through life* If your ex is spending it on herself and the children are being neglected....no food, clean clothes etc.....you can take her back to court* but will need to PROVE that she is spending the child support on HERSELF and not the children~
GOODLUCK*

Answer 5

no she is not. Child support is for the child not the parent. Even if she takes the child out of the country the father is obligated to pay support. However, the mother cannot legally take the child to another state to live with out permission of the child's father. He can always take her to court to stop it. If she still takes the child to live in another state she could be arrested.

Answer 6

Um, because it has nothing to do with your responsibility (half) to the child. Why would you want your child not to eat, have clothing, or a roof over it's head just because she ran off with someone else. I always find it amazing when men look at it like if the mother does this or that, she shouldn't get child support. The child support is for the wellbeing of your CHILD. She doesn't get out of her half, why should you?

And as I say this, I am a Mom who's children (teens) happened to chose to live with Dad in another state, and I am the one paying my child support (a big hefty sum, I might add) with NO ONE'S help, because I know it's my responsibility to my CHILDREN.

Answer 7

I agree that she (or the father) should not be allowed to just leave with the child and move to another state. It's not just her kid, so she shouldn't be allowed to make a decision like that. It's different if he's a deadbeat, then his opinion shouldn't count at all. But, if he is a good father and wants to be involved, she shouldn't be allowed to just move off and take the child away from him. You see it all the time,though, and yes, you still have to pay child support.

Answer 8

Would it be ok with you if she moved to take a better job? Sounds like the issue is that she moved to be with a man. Her moving is in no way a statement that she can care for the child herself. It's simply her being able to make choices in her personal life that you now have no control over.

You are responsible for supporting your child wherever that child lives and whether you choose to be a part of its life or not.

Answer 9

Not at all. As the father you will remain responsible for the care and upkeep of this child until such a time as they are either out of school or wherever you live says you are not responsible any longer. Even if your ex was to marry a millionaire does not take away your responsibility as a father to this child.

Answer 10

no, and it doesnt matter if she can take care of the child herself. she is just going on with her life. in my case i went where ever mine went and raised mine on my own with out help, but the father should help because he loves the child, and it is just the right thing to do unless the mother isnt using the money on supporting the child like using it on drugs you know bad things. when a guy helps even if she gets rich he can be proud to say i help support my child, i am a good father.

Answer 11

and what did the child say? Is the child able to support and care for his or herself?

Child support is not about the mother - its about the child. You can't hold a child responsible for being born to a stupid parent.