The only purpose is to hurt that person that I can see. If you hate them that much, leave before you cause anymore damage. That's right, LEAVE. Don't expect the other person to move.
2007-01-25 04:31:20 · 12 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yep, they want to hurt you.
They sound like they need to grow up. Obviously they shouldn't have been married in the first place. Try marriage counseling...Why would you throw your marriage away like that? They married you for a reason, now you need to figure out what it is that YOU are doing wrong. Everyone is at fault, it's not one person. Get real and figure out what YOU need to do to fix the problem.
2007-01-25 04:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the purpose of saying that would be because you want to be honest with the other person. People change, life's events come between a couple, and the next thing you know, you're not number one in each other's lives anymore. The relationship becomes one of convenience, like room mates. While you may still "love" (care for) the other person, you're not "in love" with that person anymore. In that situation, at least one person misses the affections and wants to be happy again. Whoever leaves should be agreed upon mutually, because it took both of you to get where you are. Everything happens for a reason, you can just quit or work on it if you can.
2007-01-25 07:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being "in love" means different things to different people. There is a difference, in that, the person who says he is "in love" is usually referring to a sexual, sensual rush of emotions...while a person who says he loves a person could be referring to his sister, or mother...or his wife, if he no longer feels the original sexual attraction toward her.
It doesn't have to be the woman's fault, it's simply a cooling of passion, which is not at all unusual between humans. The person who was told that needs to decide if that is enough in the relationship to continue staying married. Many people have done so, and grown happy through the years of loving companionship that followed.
If a person is very young, they may still need the fire of passion in their life. If that is the case, then moving on might be necessary. But considerations should be carefully weighed before a final decision is made. There could be other things more important than passion: children, home and family, money and other such things that matter to the person making the considerable decision. One thing they should never do is let another person decide for them...only regret and indecision could come from putting ones life in another persons command or decision.
2007-01-25 04:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by TexasStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The PURPOSE is to try to give an explaination for their own selfishness and unwillingness to work on the marriage. They have no clue what marriage means, or how to love a spouse unconditionally for a lifetime (as they vowed to do when they married you, I might add).
My ex-husband used this as his "reason". He hasn't found anyone else to be "in love" with and God help the woman that he does find. After time he'll not be "in love" with her anymore either and the cycle will continue with each new partner.
My hope is that someday you'll find someone who knows what love is and what marriage means.
Best of luck!
2007-01-25 06:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by Marcjc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They want a way out of the relationship. They don't want to hurt you but can't think of any other way to say good bye. see ya. it's over...
People are not good at breaking up and letting down the other person easily. They just want out and now.......
They should move if they want out except if it was their place first, then you have to move, as soon as possible,go and stay at a friends.
Nobody needs more drama to fuel the already hot fire....
I know it is a cop out for most, but why be with someone in a one sided relationship.
You both deserve more.
2007-01-25 04:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably should have said this before you became a spouse because to me that means that they love you(like a friend) but they are not in love with you like a wife/husband should be. They probably say that because something else is going on and they don't want to come out and say it. Usually that statement can be followed with "there's someone else" or something to that affect.
2007-01-25 04:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they want to hurt you. It's just another way of saying that no matter what i'll still care for you so when i hear something i'm going to call you and find out how you are. It hurts because you want that person to love you too and they don't feel the same.
2007-01-25 05:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The purpose of telling someone that you love them but are not in love with them it to clarify your feelings.
Love - caring, missing the person, important in your life like a friend, a pet, etc.
In Love - you can't be without that person like breathing, you think of them and it brings a smile to your face, when you hear that person's voice it makes your heart skip a beat, hearing that person's laughter causes you to laugh. You change yourself to accept that person the way they are with all there faults. They might even inspire you to do something....go back to school, look for a better job, exercise and eat healthy because you want that person to feel proud of you as you are of them. Sometimes you love that person so much that you are willing to step aside to allow that person to be happy.
The person does not hate you the problem is that sometimes our actions and the way we treat that person causes them to change the way they feel for us. It may hurt for a while to hear those words but sometimes it better to hurt a little and move on with our lives than be there with someone because they feel obligated.
If this happened to you...I am sorry to hear that but the truth does set you free....move on with your life. You deserve to be happy with a person who is in love with you.
Good Luck
2007-01-27 21:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teasers, offers, trades, or coupons for special affections and attention. My answer is in no way a chat, my answer is to complete a survey for the sole purpose of increasing romantic moments with the asker and his wife and is representative of the population in general.
2016-05-23 22:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by Marjorie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did this phrase find it's way into our lexicon???
This is stupid. I think it's an excuse for people to seek out new excitement without having to put any effort into fixing their current marriage.
I think it's the lazy way out.
2007-01-25 04:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋