I have been dating him for two years and I got dumped out of the blue! He still writes me emails everyday telling me that he loves me, he is convinced that I am truly an angel, I am the most amazing person that he has ever met in his life and probably ever will meet, I am beautiful, he will never fall in love with another woman again in his life, etc... nothing but good things and everyday for the past week. He says that he can not be with me because he never wants to hurt me or be the reason for a single tear I cry. He says that he looks back at all the times he has messed up in the past and realizes that he is not good enough for me. I have a great career, bought a house, etc. and he is just finishing up his university, but I know he'll catch up soon enough. I have tried everything to get him to see that he means the world to me and he is the reason for alot of my happiness.... but he just keeps repeating himself. What is really going on?
2007-01-25 04:28:04 · 15 answers · asked by Betty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I honestly do not believe there is another girl involved. This happened to us last year too at this time, where he would only communicate via email for 5 months!!! I thought he came around, but here we are again... this time I can't keep in contact though - I know that.
2007-01-25 04:55:04 · update #1
i'll answer this from a females persepective whom wasnt good enough for her b/f
I was with my ex for 3 years
I cheated on him a couple times (I loved him (but if i really did why did i keep cheating))
Finally one night I knew that was it.
The man I was really really loved me, took care of me. He payed the rent, all the bills almost, and he showed me all the time just how much he loved me.
And you know how I repaid him? I cheated on him, I cheated on a great great relationship, and he found out about one, and took me back, he didnt have to, but he did because he loved me.
Well I knew I had hurt him so much ( never telling him (holding back) the other things i've done. And I knew the only way to rectify everything was to leave him. It hurt so bad. I knew from that point on I would never hurt anyone the way I hurt him, But i knew I had my once chance already to prove that. So I chose to leave. I knew He'd find a girl that would never do what I did to him, and he has. And it really makes me happy thats he's found that.
I myself have not cheated in my new relationship, its been a year and I will never cheat again.
So when he says youre to good for him, maybe its a little deeper than that, and maybe you are.
everything happens for a reason
2007-01-25 04:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by jameses 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ive used that line on men and basically its just an easy way of saying "It not working out". I say you've been dumped tell him your moving on with your life to find someone that your not "to good for" that will treat you how you deserve to be treated. Being dumped "out of the blue" doesnt happen, because he had obviously been thinking about it. Odds are he's got a little hottie on the side, dont be upset by me saying that its just Ive used that line on men when Ive wanted to move on without hurting their feelings. And everytime I used it I either had met someone else I was interested in or had a piece of man meat on the side..lol
I just read your edit. It happened last yr this time and he only communicated with you via email for 5 months! There is a saying sweetheart an ex is an ex for a reason. Leave him as an ex this time why keep putting yourself through this?
2007-01-25 04:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's very very scared because thats an excuse that alot of people use to get out of a relationship when there scared of something, the other reason for that excuse is if hes going to cheat on ya and from youve said thats NOT going to happen, sit him down face to face and say that you dont believe what he is saying and if he really does/did love you then hel tell u the truth. that way you should out whats wrong and if its anything u 2 can fix. good luck hun xx
2007-01-25 04:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,girl there are some rare people in the world,and their
are those with hearts of gold,but in my experience they don't
happen all that often. Ask yourself some things,ok? Does this
man take good care of himself? Can he eat good & sleep well
at night? He's going to a University so he knows he has some
brains but does he think you have any?
If you went with him for two years & he thought he was good
enough then,he thinks so now also,at least thats how it looks
to me. He's trying to lessen your heart-break cause he truly
believes you'll fall apart without him and he doesn't want the
drama or you telling people what a jerk he is,ect.........
He's trying to comfort you so you won't blame yourself or him!
2007-01-25 04:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation, mybf broke up with me because he was't good enough. It because they feel like they are behind u, and they want u to be behind them. It because they are scared that becuase u r better in some ways u will leave him one day. Also the are scared that they will bringing u down, meaning u ll start going down to get tot heir level. But i was hurt and amazed b i the same way. I told him don't u think i should make that decision but he stillwasn't listening. We did getback together after wards, but only after he found him slef.
2007-01-25 04:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by Loco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows himself better than you know him. If he says he's not good enough, then you should believe him.
Maybe he can't stop cheating on his partners. He knows he can't stop, so rather than put you through that, he dumped you. Sounds like an honest guy to me.
Know this, though, if you beg him to come back, and he does. A few years down the line he'll cheat on you and when you get mad he'll be like, "What? I told you I wasn't good enough and you wanted me back anyway, so I don't want to hear your complaining. Now if you'll excuse me, I've got a date."
2007-01-25 04:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
all of that is obviously crap if he dumped you out of no where... i think he has some self-esteem issues if you are "too good" for him. you need to sit him down and find out whats really going on. and i guess he didn't care about you getting hurt if he dumped you for no apparent reason and won't see where you are coming from. leave him alone for a little while and let him see what he is losing and he will come crawling back, believe me. just stay low for a couple of days and he will come around again.
2007-01-25 04:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by ~karma~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he isn’t willing to say anything else I would keep trying to get him back with you since you love him. Eventually he’ll come back or tell you the real reason why he wanted to break up. And remind him that he said he doesn’t want to be responsible for a single tear you shed. Well he is responsible for a bunch of them since he broke up with you.
2007-01-25 04:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either very insecure or this is his way of letting you down gently because he doesn't love you or he has found someone else. Give him some space and if he really loves you,he won't be able to be without you for very long.You need to move on with your own life.
2007-01-25 04:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy Roots 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really happens and it's called "moving on". He doesn't want to intentionally hurt you with his leaving, and he's trying to tell you it's not your fault he is moving on with his life and wants you to know you can replace him with another. You should listen to him and get yourself a man that wants you for who you are and will appreciate you all the more for being you
2007-01-25 04:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋