I mean to say friends always stand by u when u r in crisis guide u support u counsel u but when u start expecting more from them(as a natural process) they either stop or become reluctant to continue the same way .Is expecting same consistency wrong? Then why in the begining they support u .Do they think crisis is short time or do they lose patience ,or interest?whats say?
2007-01-25 04:23:41 · 15 answers · asked by vjayashree19 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Just like any relationship, friendship takes work. Sometimes it's not easy being a real friend. It can be inconvenient and a pain in the ***. People who give up on you when you really need them are not willing to put themselves out to help you, or to listen to your problems over and over. That just means they're not a good friend. They are called "fair weather friends." That means they're there for the fun, but split when the going gets tough. THe truth is that people are busy with their own lives and doing their own things. Lots of people only want to be involved with friens on their own terms and when it's convenient for them. Sad but true. THat's why they say that blood is thicker than water. Your family can't run away from you, and will be more likely to help you in times of need. True friends are rare. One true friend is worth more than 100 casual friends.
2007-01-25 04:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is his reputation? Is it something YOU want? If he doesn't have a bad rep then your friends are probably jealous, and not really friends if they are going to ditch you. Real friends would be supportive.
2016-05-23 22:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rough times are the truest test of friendship. If your friends abandon you because you are having an extended period of difficulty - then they were only acquaintences and not friends. Keep seeking new friends, especially ones who can sympathize with your situation now. Then you will have a real foundation to build true friendship on.
When things brighten up you will really know who you can rely on!
Hang in there!
2007-01-25 04:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by Heart is my Art 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends r meant to be forever, when u got a real friend he or she will stay if u have a masked friend, i mean a friend who is only during good times then he/she is not ur friend, & during the time of ur pain n suffering if any one of them escapes they r not fit to be ur friend anymore, trust me. But nowadays u dont find such friends, no one stays as far as some thing concerned to them is around, very rarely u get such friends n when u get such ones do treasure them n donot lose them.
2007-01-25 07:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when friends do something the first time for you they expect you to pull yourself up an improve in that situation ,if you continue to fall over an over in the same situation,you are using your friends by continuing to be foolish with your choices because you think your friends will be there to pull you out.
2007-01-25 12:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends can only give their shoulders for a few minutes as they need it to support themselves, so you really can't say they ditched you only that they couldn't support your problems any further. best is , why look for somebody to lean on when you have your own shoulder to to stay erect?
2007-01-25 04:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by icv65 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those who ditch you when you really need them are not friends but only act as friends.
2007-01-25 16:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by gupta_uncle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes a people have there own problems to deal with and although are willing to help with other's problems they need to time to deal with their own. and sometimes people get sick of hearing others problems ALL THE TIME. i would say its more of a lose of interest. one thing to do would be to try and stop talking about your problems and let them talk about theirs.
2007-01-25 04:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by smile182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bear in mind that you are also someone's friend and it is applicable for you also. Friendship is a delicate relationship and had you won their trust they will not let you down.
2007-01-25 04:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by indianloverofpeace 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they're not real friends. but my question is, do you support them when they need you?
2007-01-25 22:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by rain ;';';';'; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋