I'm worried about my daughter?

Question

the thing is, she is 17 years old and i know she met a older man on the net i think he was 40, at first she told me it was only chatting for fun, i said to be careful, but then i found out that she gave him her mobile number and i seen sum of the sexual nature text message's, i was surprised, i confronted my daughter about this, and now she is also worried, this man keeps sending her emails and text message's, she also admitted to me that this man know's where she stays because she told him, this man gained her trust by getting in her head and now it has back fired on her, this man has turned for the worse, i dont know what to do i'm very worried about this, is there anything i can do, can i call the police or anything, how can i stop the emails

Answer 1

change her email and buy her a new sim card and if you see anyone strange hanging round your home call the cops straight away....he sounds like he's a paedo or some kind of warped sex predator....keep your eye on your daughter, don't let her out of your sight, but do tell her that she is to NEVER EVER give out her details to anyone else again, even if this person seems OK, usually they are not...in fact keep her messages and emails (print them out) and take them straight to the police....they will trace his whereabouts by his number and where his signal is situated....or you could set him up and pretend that your daughter wants to meet him, then make sure the cops are with her at the time and get the freak arrested.....she may not be the only one who he's doing this to....but make sure your girl does not ever contact him again, i would have him caught though, he sounds dangerous...if and when they catch him they will go to his home and remove his computer for analysis, because if he's doing this to your daughter, it's likely that he's doing it to other young girls....it seems that he's been grooming her and had her believing that he's a great guy, this is not the case, he has other things in mind, don't let your girl out of your sight and if she does go anywhere make sure that she's with group of friends somewhere busy and well lit, or better still tell her father, maybe he can do someting to stop this warpo....just call the cops and get this weirdo off the streets, have done with it....DO IT NOW....

Answer 2

Just give her some space for awhile. Then, don't force her to tell you what happened. Just let her know that you're there and that you want to listen. One time I was sad and my mom just sat quietly at the end of my bed for like an hour until I was ready to tell her whatever was wrong. It was probably one of my favorite memories between my mom and I. It could be a number of things and the only way you'll know is if you ask. When you're a young girl, sometimes things just get sad, even if you're normally not. Hope this helps! And I'm sorry about what happened to you and I hope it didn't happen to your daughter. P.S. Hugs are great, especially after she tells you. Before she tells you, she needs her space, and while she's telling you she needs to be listened to.

Answer 3

Ok you need to first save all emails, text messages, and phone call records by printing them out.(you can send text messages to an email account by forwarding them. if you can't figure it out go to the service provider and they can help you out.) Next you need to delete all email accounts that he knows the email address. You need to buy your daughter another phone and have her put in all important numbers only then later on she can start adding her friends. Then you need to have the old phone number shut-off! Also you need to have the house number chagned and set to private. Explain to your daughter that is will be best for her to never go anywhere by herself for the next few weeks. If he knows where you live then he may wait it out until you think everything is ok and then one night show up. Make sure if she is coming home at a late time to have all around the house lit-up well and a few lights inside the house on. If she ever comes home and has the slightest feeling something is wrong then she needs to leave ASAP!!!!!! As far as the police go. They will make a record of what's going on and it will help if he continues to try to contact her or show up. Good Luck and God Bless!!

Answer 4

Jane I would certainly notify the authorities. Who knows this guy may be some type of pediaphile or something. Also though I would suggest that you have a good talk with your daughter and inform her of the dangers of this type of communication, as I'm sure she's already aware of if she is becoming frightened also. These new forms of communication have been a field day for perverts and/or men wanting to take advantage of young people. Best of luck and I'd certainly report this fella as who knows you may end up saving not only your daughter from harm but other young victims also.

Answer 5

Police departments have actually formed a special task force specifically for internet predators, which it sounds like this man is. Call the police department and they will get you in contact with someone who can specifically help this situation. Especially since he knows where you live you need to contact the police as soon as possible to protect your family. It may take a while to catch this guy, but please don’t give up. You turning this man in may save a girl much younger than your daughter from getting pulled into the same trap and something much worse happening.

Answer 6

Change the phone number
Use a filter to filter out his email, or better yet change the email address. These can both be easily done.
If your daughter uses an instant messenger, block him username
If he gets another username and attempts to contact her again, block it until he gets the point.

Give him a clear message telling him not to contact your daughter anymore.

If anything more serious occurs (he turns up at your doorstep) phone the police.

I have no experience in this area, but just my personal opinion

Answer 7

You can either call the police or go to your local FBI office. If you choose go to the local FBI office then you may get better results. Especially if the man is in a different state or city than you are, they have a little longer reach than police. Most FBI offices also have a specific person assigned to just handle PC and internet crimes.

I would make sure that you save the text messages, emails and so on for extra proof. When you send txt messages and emails it has your identity on it and they can easily track it down to who sent it and so on.

Answer 8

Call the police immediately! This man didn't turn for the worse...........he was wrong and inappropriate from the outset. He should not need to befriend a 17 year old.

As long as you have all of the proof you say you have then contact the police now.

Answer 9

know how you feel hun had the same problem with my daughter, not an older man though just men

what i suggest is getting her a new number for her phone, block hI'm on messenger and emails

im not sure the police will help as she give him her details,but no harm in asking them


please tell her to keep off the computer for a while till it dies down a little, tell her to go out with mates to different places


teenagers never learn, but if something scares them like this she may well learn NOT to give any info out in future.good luck

Answer 10

Call him and tell him to stop. She is a minor and he can be arrested, remind him that he can be charged and will have to live with the Stigma of being a Sex offender for the rest of his life. If that doesn't scare him off, Call the police. Follow through. Save all the emails and text messages, as well as copies of times and the phone bill. Good Luck, I hope you nail him to the wall. Creeps like that need to be taken off the street.