why is it always the parents fault when a child commets a crime , joins gangs ,etc?

Question

you always here wheres the parents when a child or young adult does something bad like burglary , etc . when in my inpinion its the law makers fault that we have so many of our young in jails etc . what do you guys/gals think

ok heres another thing im not saying its all the law makers fault on this , but when a child calls the cops or department of children services because mom or dad yelled at them or even spanked them for doing something they shouldnt have after grounding and removal of privaleges hasnt worked and they continue doing it , what is a parent to do

Answer 1

I think the parents should be there.
Know where theyre kids are at and what theyre doing,
until the day they turn 18.
then its out of theyre hands.

Answer 2

A parent is one who brings up a child and teaches them how to be a part of the society in which they live. If a child is not fitting into their world the way they are expected to, it is assumed that the parent did not do a good job.

Kids don't come with a manual, so no one really does it perfect, but speaking in generalities, the kids that are doing the crimes are the ones whose parents aren't very involved in their lives. Maybe the father is absent, so the mother has to work all the time to support the family so she doesn't have time to spend with her kids... There are many reasons, but a lot of those cases come down to a lack of good parenting.

Why in the world would law makers be at fault?? So, if they didn't make the laws, the kids wouldn't break them?? That doesn't make sense.

Answer 3

Yes it is 99% of the time the parents fault. Everyone needs to stop looking for people to blame when **** goes wrong!!!! It is a parents job to instill values and morals in their children starting from birth! Yes sometimes even this wont stop a child from turning bad in the long run. But it is definitely more the parents fault than the laws. Give me a break.

Answer 4

Parents can be the best parents in the world, but if the teenager/young adult hangs around other kids that are a bad influence, sometimes that kid will end up doing the "cool" things the other kids do. A parent can only do the best they can, and it is very difficult to know who your kid is hanging around with. The best thing a parent can do is try to keep up as much communication with their children as possible. Mine hung around kids that were not that great. He never ended up in jail, but once he could have because he did what the other kids did. I was able to keep him out. I went through hell with him. Now he is 21, he has a great job, he is very respectful to others and he is learning what the real world is about. If you are a parent of a teenager, all you can do is parent the best way you can, and hopefully he/she will turn out good.

Answer 5

These things don't just happen...they are a spiral of behaviour that just grows and grows and grows until the law has to become involved. Usually it IS the parents' fault. They've bailed their children out of all the little things so that they don't understand that their actions have consequences. I'm watching it at my daughter's high school right now. Shoplifting is recreational. I am AMAZED at the kids that are doing it and even more amazed how their parents will move hell and high water to make sure their little baby pays no price for their fun once they are caught. Luckily, my youngest daughter saw how quickly I came down (and came down hard) on my oldest when she started this nonsense. As a result, my youngest refuses to hang out at the mall again once someone shoplifts when they are together. She's terrified that she might get blamed...not terrified by the legal system but that I will take away her ability to drive until she's a legal adult (like I did her sister).

Answer 6

When children are living at home it is the parents responsibility to make sure that they know right from wrong. Sometimes children do make wrong choices, but the parents have to make sure they learn from the mistakes they made. Sometimes you can raise your child to be a good person and they still do things they shouldn't. After the child grows up and moves out, they are responsible for themselves and you can only hope and pray that they remember what you taught them.

Answer 7

I think it's the child's fault.
I can't imagine that without the child's conscious decision to join a gang, rob a bank, shoot his classmates that the child could do any of theses things.
The blame for our actions always, always,always lies inside ourselves. Until people realize that and stop making excuses for people's poor behavior, people will make the same sorry choices every time, after-all it's not my fault.



As a parent, my own child is 14, I can say that it is without a doubt my responsibility to raise my child with morals and strong concept of right and wrong. And I will answer for my mistakes, just as my daughter will answer for hers.
Now, if you look at what is raising children today, you can see what is wrong with our children. We have adults who have no concept of personal responsibility and therefore are unable to teach this to their children. When people make mistakes a great number of people can be affected by them but only one person is going to stand in judgment for those mistakes.As human beings we are responsible for our own choices as parents and as children.

Answer 8

AH no bc i agree it has something to do with the parents i mean i am a parent so i know they can not be there all the time but still when i was going out with bunch of my friends i had to check in and my mom checked up on me to see if i was where i said i was going to be. TRY A CURFEW that is how you can stop them from being so involved in gangs and try if they are you ground them. Most of these parents lost control of there kids long long time ago and that is why they are going into gangs and comminting crimes. So The parents are partly to blame But it also falls onto the kids bc they should no better. BUt like i said if the parents did not teach them any better then it falls back onto the parents.

Answer 9

If you think about it, the parents mold the children into what they are today. They mock what they learn. Also, on the same token, it is not the law makers fault because the child should know whats right and whats wrong. And if they weren't taught what was right and wrong...now thats the parents fault.

Answer 10

A child is the product of a home environment. I will bet that most criminal kids come from a terrible home The parent a sole reasonable for the up bring of their kids. Unfortunately to many people have kids that shouldn't. To blame the system for bad kid is B.S. put the blame where it belongs. If you found the time to have kids, then find the time to raise them! Do not get me wrong there are kid criminals that come from good home too, but that is the exception not a rule.P.S. your comment on its the laws fault show what a moron you are. Been locked up before have we?

Answer 11

Parents fault in MOST cases, however, some kids never learn. Parents need to be responsible for their children. It's not up to the "law makers" to raise kids.