is it out of anger that he says divorce? I told him i was leaving to work on our issues and to work on our marriage. when i left in his eyes that was it. I've never said divorce and still love him and work it out...do you think he will ever get over the anger? I'm not sure if i should hang in there or not. Help!
2007-01-25 03:54:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Put him to the test. Leave. Do it because you are in charge. If he then wants you back then it's up to you to make a choice about what YOU want. Don't let him make your choices and don't hang on to something that isn't there. Problems aren't gonna go away.
2007-01-25 04:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Missy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight… you told him you are leaving to work on your issues and your marriage? Issues, ok, I accept that, but how the hell can you work on your marriage with HIM if you leave????? Did I miss something???
You don’t have to say the word “divorce” to make it clear you are divorcing him if you pack and leave, doesn’t matter what you said, your actions speak for themselves.
If I understood correctly what you typed here, and it is as I just said, and you do still ove him and want your marriage and family to work, then get back to him, apologize for leaving, make him understand that you made a big mistake leaving, and that you do want things to work out, and that both of you must make it work out, TOGETHER.
Nobody is perfect, and nobody was made a perfect match for nobody else. It is understanding and the ability to give in some things and to understand other things what make a couple a real couple. You could be surprised how much you can solve by just sitting down and talking each other issues.
Please note I’m not saying is your fault, or his fault (whatever is or are the problems). You two must work it out, and it takes time, honesty, and understanding to do it. If you two are not willing to work it out, make sacrifices for each other, and try to understand each other, then don’t bother, cause at the end your marriage will fail.
Is not easy, but it is possible I would say in 99.9% of the cases. Is all up to you two to make it happen.
2007-01-25 12:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In his eyes, you leaving is a slap in the face. He probably like most typical guys thinks that you are attracted to someone else or that there is someone else. Thats just how they think. Also you shouldn't of just up and left. That was wrong. I know you and your husband are having problems but leaving was not a good thing. He is probably so mad right now that he cannot see straight. And yes, you need to work through this especially if you love him. Never give up!!!
2007-01-25 12:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by squeaky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you leave, to work on issues and your marriage. That's just a cop-out to say things like, that when your marriage is at home looking at you (his eyes) This is why he's anger.
2007-01-25 12:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may need time and space to get over his anger and want to work on this marriage and situation with you. See if he is open to marriage counselilng with you and if he is not you go seek counseling and help and try to change yourself to be a better wife to and for him. You should hang in there and love him where he is at.... I am here if you need to talk... Here comes lots of hugs to you today.
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2007-01-25 12:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and have a heart to heart about what each of you is feeling and what you think is going on in the marriage. From there you may proceed to a divorce or work or rebuilding your relationship.
2007-01-25 12:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
you remember when you were a kid, many times makes silly mistakes, and in return your mom and dad scolds you sometimes serve u one tight slap. )
At that time did you run away from home???
No. you never.
Now you are grown up, you know WATS Good and wat's really bad.
You can understand your husband better from any other person on this planet. Give time to yourself, your relationship.
Keep your feelings in front of your husband., I m sure he is just waiting for a start from urs. Man's are bit egoistic never mind., women's are not.
That's the women who complete a man.
women makes a family to be called family.
Stop running for the best just try to make it BETTER. )
God bless. $
2007-01-25 12:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by flameofsun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well it was just out of anger and well he didn't mean it just talk at dinner and well bring up divorce see what he has to say
2007-01-25 12:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be out of anger. Being a man I have said many dumb things to my wife in that state. Keep on talking with him.
No on ever wins in divorce.
I am marriied for life.
2007-01-25 11:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by knightwing992000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your need to get away to think about everything, but to him it just sounds like your abandoning him and leaving for good. i think you should try to stay at home and work it out..if you guys can't seem to work it out on your own, try counseling. if he isnt ready to go, then you should go ahead and go by yourself. it never hurts to have an understanding un-biased ear..and who knows he may see improvement in you and in turn want to also try it out. good luck and hang in there ;)
2007-01-25 12:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by JKlein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋