My sister is not at all intersted in marriage. she is 25 right now and settled too. she never had any affair,the thing is she is not at all intersted in males. she treats all males as devils and ghosts.she has the fear that she will be harresed and will be killed.when ever we put the marriage proposal she will be upset and go into deep depression. Please any one suggest me how to make her interested in males and how to convince her for marriage
2007-01-25 03:52:33 · 19 answers · asked by kool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Leave her alone. Why is it so important that she be interested in marriage. Let her live her life in a way that makes her happy and doesn't harm anyone.
2007-01-25 03:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by missourim43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that instead of trying to get her interested in males or convince her that marriage is for her, I would focus more on why she feels the way she does. I could be wrong, but what I'm getting from what you'd posted, it sounds like something or someone has happened to her. She needs your love and support right now more than anything. Maybe she is just one of the many females that prefers not to be in a marriage, its not uncommon any more.
The fact that she "treats all males as devils and ghosts.she has the fear that she will be harresed and will be killed" has bells ringing that there is something far deeper going on for her. Thats where you need to begin. Suggest counseling for her, offer to go with her if that would help make her feel safer. I wish her the best of luck
2007-01-25 04:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by spunkyshell2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will be interested in marrying a man when she feels comfortable with a man.There is a specific reason or reasons behind her negative perception about men.Through her journey,she might have come across men that has misbehaved or portrayed thier devilish nature.But its a bad idea to generalise the nature of men based on few coward men. The best suggestion is to discuss about a lot of men that are known for thier generousity.You need to pick or choose the characteristics of men that have contributed to the wellness and prosperity of the society or the world as a whole.You can also choose a relative or someone local,popular that has worked for noble causes.Gather some information about thier humble nature and set a conversation with your sister whenever possible.You need to create a pleasant environment during convo and get rid of her deep seated beliefs or prejudices regarding men. You should make her feel comfortable while talking about men.Your efforts and time will redefine your sister's interpretation about men.Let her know that not all men are abusers. When the right guy comes along she will feel good about him and would also share her life with him wholeheartedly.
2016-05-23 22:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
25 is a very young age. i think you should try and talk to her, but don't try to force her into marrying. sure, you have a small say in her life, but remember that it is in the end her own life. she is free by law to do whatever she wants. you wnat the best for her, right? so someday she will meet a guy who makes her change her mind about men. perhaps she has had some bad experiences with guys. she probably needs to see it to believe it. so talk to her - if you want - and just say that it would be nice if she started seeing men as nice people. give a few examples if you can. and also remember to tell he rthat it is totally her decision, and even if it not so agreeable to you, you will respect whatever decision she makes.
please don't force her!
2007-01-25 04:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please leave her alone. Maybe she just wants to be alone. Some people do live out their lives without ever getting married and are very content with that. Could she be a lesbian? Maybe she is and doesn't want her family to know. Just lay off and stop trying to force the issue. There could be many reasons why she isn't married or interested on males.
2007-01-25 04:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is so scared of men, then I wud try 2 show her that there are some good men out there. Try 2 find some man whom your sister can marry and trust and introduce him 2 her slowly. But if she keeps on protesting, I wud just leave her alone.
2007-01-27 10:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by тн¡иК™ツ- proud ¡иd¡αи 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u can take her to any consular or pshychtrist, because this is a mental tension, she may come across some bitter feelings when she was young, or any other mental torchres by some bad guys in her college or day to day life,
because girls usually get kinda probs with males, u may ask her personally, or u can take her to a doctor, asking her in person with much confidentiality is the best way instead taking her to a psychatrist
2007-01-25 04:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by lakshmi d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are sooooo sweet..... its nice to have a thought of helping sisters............
i think your sister might have heard/read about many cases now& then which tells us about the way women have been harrased.........b'coz news papers highlight them a lot........so she has i think completely convinced that all the men are alike........so better if you keep such news away from her...........& now i think it would be better if you try to show her the men who really love their wife so much........ you can do it easily b'coz those sorts of men are also not less........... better if you show her live examples........... & it would be more better if you can bring a amiable person in your sisters life who can change her(with your parents permission)................ & i think the only way is to make her believe that many men are not of that sort what she is at present thinking......................
hope you succeed in changing your sister's mind..........
ALL THE BEST
though i can't help you i can defenitely understand you b'coz even iam a girl who loves her sister soooooooooo much
2007-01-25 04:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by Reshu 18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very sweet that your trying to help ur sister...but im starting to think that by what you wrote she might be hmm...i dont want to say it too bluntly so i'll say non-straight...or maybe something happened in a past relationship with a man that is haunting her...and making it hard for her to want to get into an even bigger commitment or relationship
2007-01-25 03:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by icingonthekake99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's thoughtful of you to want to help her, but remember that this is her life, and not yours. If she wants to come around, let her do it on her own time. Be there to support her, she's your sister, but don't push for something that she may not want.
2007-01-25 05:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋