I just took 2 pregnancy tests this morning, and they both came out positive. Im not married and my fiance is a Pastors Son...I dont know what to do..please help me.
2007-01-25 03:49:16 · 31 answers · asked by Deena 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I guess you first need to tell the father of the baby and the two of you need to look at your options--abortion, adoption, or keeping the baby.
2007-01-25 03:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I got pregnant with my first child when I was in the process of a divorce from my first husband. The father of the baby is not my ex husband and is also a pastors son. I freaked out too! I wasn't still dating him and was living with my parents when I found out but when I told him he was totally supportive. We told our parents together and everyone was in shock at first and telling us that we had to get married. But we worked through it on our own. After he got his act together and started working full time to prove that he could be a good father and caretaker we deided to get married. I was 8 months pregnant and we got married at his fathers church. Almost three years later we are expectiong our third child and love each other more than anything in the world.
I just wanted you to know that even though it seems like the end of the world now it will all be OK. Just stay calm and get through the next few months and it won't seen so bad anymore.
2007-01-25 12:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, we do not live in the 1950's. This is your life, and who cares if you aren''t married. If you really want to be married when the baby comes than you have the option of pushing up the wedding date. You could have a nice, small ceremony for close friends and family, for very little cost. Don't worry, everything will be fine. Talk to your fiancee. Life doesn't always go the way we plan it, that is what makes it so fun. All that matters now, is that you take care of that beautiful little human being growing inside of you.
2007-01-25 12:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by karina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either get married and tell your fiance's family later, or you just have to tell them. I highly doubt that your fiance's father thinks you weren't having sex. And I am sure he will be very supportive if you decide to keep the baby, or give it up for adoption. As for an abortion, well if he ever finds out, I don't think he will be too happy. I didn't know how my parent's would react when I told them I was pregnant, but my dad was so excited he cried (and he came from a religious family). Talk to your fiance about it also. He would have a better idea of how his parents would react. But, you really do need to tell them.
2007-01-25 11:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well sorry to say it this way but here you go...
If you were old enough to make the baby your old enough to own up to your actions and that'd be talking to the father first off. But if your in the planning of getting married I'd say your on the rigth track... Though the pastors son..is a bit of a sticky situation.
It shouldn't matter what others think though, it's you, your baby and it's father right now. That's what matters, deal with the others after you two deal with it.
Besides God is always forgiving!
2007-01-25 11:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by Bugster 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your fiance and ya'll need to plan your next course of action. I can tell you pastor's know their children are not perfect and don't expect perfection maybe ya'll should sit with him and talk it over before the backlash happens. Just remember to be honest it's always best. Your up for a challenge. Good luck
Congrats!
2007-01-25 11:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by neicee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are pregnant -- why don't you and your fiance go and get married? Have a quick wedding now and then later, after the baby, have another celebration. It might not be quite what you planned, but you and the baby and your fiance will be a family.
Good luck. Make a doc appt. ASAP.
2007-01-25 11:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you can't change anything if you are pregnant. Talk to your fiance and discuss it. Do you want to be a mother? Does he want to be a father? You have options. You didn't state your age, but I am assuming you are an adult. Babies are a blessing, if your family loves you (and his family too) they will love the little one regardless of when he/she comes into the world. It may be difficult now, but it will work out for the best. Take care of yourself and relax. I have been there.
Good luck.
2007-01-25 11:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor or local clinic to confirm. If you are in fact pregnant the best thing to do is be truthful with everyone involved. Together you can come up with a plan on what you want to do. Remember your not in this alone...it took two people to make the baby not just you. Good Luck I hope this helps.
2007-01-25 11:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
talk to your fiance,this is not something you should deal with on your own. and if you are worried about the family, maybe you can move the wedding up to a date before you start showing, eventually, though i think they will find out by doing the math, but if you are already married, it shouldn't become a great big deal
2007-01-25 11:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
time to talk to your fiance, maybe there is an option to move the wedding up or possibly elope, if you're that concerned about it. Although just keep in mind that anyone who may be upset that you're not married yet, will get over it when the baby comes along.
2007-01-25 11:52:33 · answer #11 · answered by J K 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋