I recently found a message that my husband sent to someone on myspace. He was asking this person to help him with a problem. He went on to say that he didn't think that he was gay but that he had always wanted to have sex with a woman with a penis. Now that sounds kinda gay to me. what do you all think? and what should I do about it. He has never, ever mentioned anything of the sort to me whatsoever and he doesnt know that I know about it. How should I handle this? Please help!!!
2007-01-25 03:44:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh my... he may be bi-curious...
Confront him about it without making a scene. I'm sure that this is embarrasing to him, be tactful and listen.
good luck
2007-01-25 03:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda gay? A woman with a penis? I always thought if it had a penis, it was a male. Maybe your husband is bi and just really uncomfortable with trying it out. If he could find a woman with a penis, it wouldn't be so gay. Perhaps he's interested in experimenting with a transvestite.
I think you're going to have to discuss this with him. If he is gay or bi, it's probably going to change the dynamics of your relationship. Try not to be judgmental and understand that this is probably very confusing to him. Good luck!
2007-01-25 11:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't get mad that he told the other women. I believe that would of been just to hard for him to tell you. In also in em brassing. He just needed a stranger someone he has no feelings for, for the em brassing won't be there. Anyhow your husband is mix up. He gots some issue in he knows this. He don't know how to deal with them.There are a lot men who marry in have children but down deep inside they knew they were gay.He is trying to do the normal thing. Trying to be "normal" as we call or think what "normal" is. You really have to find the right time to talk to him. You might just want to sit this one out for a little awhile. In were you found this information. Am sure you will find more. Your going to have to find more before you talk to him. For now act like you don't know. For his sake. Something is not right. Am sure you love your husband in your con-fuss about this. I feel really bad for you. Your husband just might be gay.Even if he was curious a straight man WILL NOT be curious about having sex with a women with a penis.Am sorry.
2007-01-25 12:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me he's trans-gendered curious? My own sister went thru this, where she found a load of pics, and hidden stuff on her fiances' PC, of women with male "parts".....and it wasn't just a curiosity, it was like, ALOT of stuff!
She confronted him, and he denied it, said it wasn't put there by him, and tried going all different directions to avoid it. Now, he wont even speak to her about it. I'm sure its because of his shame.
All people have their skeletons in the closet issues, there are so many different fantasies that people come up with, and what I think you should do, seeing as HE IS YOUR HUSBAND and not just a mate, is confront him, and see what he has to say. If he is so interested that he is considering "going for it" with some hermaphrodite or what have you-
If sexual fetishes mean more to him than a pure, and undefiled marriage union with you; then get out of there and leave him to his sick fetish.
Keep him in your prayers, and wait it out thru separation for a time, if he is ashamed and wishes to be free from that demon, he must give his life to Christ, and be in prayer. The LORD can and will help remove this from his curiosities or desires, if he really gives the problem to GOD and trust in Jesus for renewal.
2007-01-25 12:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by º§€V€Nº 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U HAVE to confront him, not angrily because if he thinks you'll judge him then he wont talk to you. If hes curious about this then ask him if there is anything u can do to satisfy his curiousity, such as a strap on or dildo, if your willing to do that. If he doens want to do that, he wants the real thing then tell him that he needs to go find himself and that you dont think this is the right situation for him, be strong and let him go so u both can find someone that makes you happy.
2007-01-25 11:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by marinewife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a strap on and surprise him! I mean don't pull the thin out and go at it! Just bring up sex and ask if he has any secret fantasies, if he doesn't come out and say it...then say that it is your fantasy to do that to a guy. Make him happy so he doesn't go looking for that!!!
2007-01-25 12:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if you would call it gay,or gay tendencies.Either way,it's all the same thing as far as I'm concerned.Tell him that you read his myspace,and you want to know what is going on.
2007-01-25 20:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to be with a SHEMALE. That doesn't make him gay. Also sneaking around behind his back is not a very good idea. Guess there isn't much TRUST in your relationship.
2007-01-25 11:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have no choice but to speak with him about it. TRY to remain calm. I believe only then will you be able to judge whatever he actually meant. He may either need serious assistance. Or he could simply be trying to be 'different' to attract attn to himself.......possibly a shock value?
Good Luck. ;)
2007-01-25 11:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
strap on a dildo and have a good time
2007-01-25 11:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋