Okay. so my 3 month old daughter is in daycare (i know it sucks but I have to work for financial reasons) well everything has been going ok (there have been a few things that bothered me such as her clothes having spit up on them even though I pack a million bibs in her bag for them to use etc.) Last week my mom and grandmother came into town and watched her a couple of days. Well I took her back to daycare on Tuesday and her daycare teacher was pissed because she is off her schedule? She was complaining that she just wanted to be held all day and did not want to play and that all she wanted to do was take a few ounces, cat nap, wake up and take a few more ounces. Etc. Isn't that what babies do? Then she complained that she had a temper tantrum earlier in the day. I don't get it. Sounds to me like a normal baby? But this lady seemed really mad that my mom and grandma came and "spoiled" the baby. Is this weird? Does it sound like to you she can't handle a baby or what?
2007-01-25 03:43:46 · 11 answers · asked by ktbblb 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
A temper tantrum in a 3 MONTH OLD? Are you kidding? Sounds like she knows next to nothing about babies. I say try and switch day cares, maybe find someone who does it out of their home, or just shop around the larger ones.
You can't spoil a 3 month old. I know all my baby did at three months was want to be held, eat, cuddle, etc. I know it's nerve wracking and heart breaking. Please don't feel guilty that your baby is in daycare. I was lucky to stay home for a year and a half but my son is now in a wonderful home day care that he loves. I hate that we mothers are made to feel guilty to having to work. Hang in there.
2007-01-25 04:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by aliaspice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the daycare is lazy. Of course they want a baby to eat a bunch then sleep all day, it makes their job easy. If she says anything again remind her that YOU are PAYING HER to take CARE of your baby. And taking care of a baby requires that you deal with a baby that may be having a bad day. Also exactly how bad could a 3 months old temper tantrum be??? Sorry i don't even know the lady but if I was you i would be pissed. Tell her that you are sorry that she actually had to work for her paycheck.
2007-01-25 04:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd find a new daycare provider ASAP. First of all, you don't force a 3 month old baby to be on the schedule YOU want it to be on. They eat sleep, play, etc. when they want/need to. It sounds to me like she has her hands full and she needs to hire someone else to help with some of the kids. I really would look around for a new provider.
2007-01-25 08:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the lady wants to sit and collect your fees without doing much work.
I agree - that does sound like a normal baby. Yes - a baby will get off their schedule when another watches them (it happens to my kid when she visits her aunt or her grandparents). But it is something that is dealt with.
It sounds more like to me that she was pissed that she didn't watch the baby those days. She acts like she is the one that has to care for the baby and that is it.
I would say something about the spit up on the clothing. It is going to happen from time to time - bib or no bib. But if it is something that bothers you, and it is happening more than you would like it to, and you are sending things to aid in the prevention of this, then she should be taking steps to work with you. YOU are paying HER to watch your kid, so YOU are the customer. If you go into a store, and you expect fresh bread, but get home and find mold, are you going to shrug it off and say "Oh well.", and go to the same store and buy another loaf and hope it is good? No - you go and tell the store what happened and what you expect. Why should your daycare be any different? If she isn't doing what you expect, tell her. Your silence is compliance. If you don't say anything to her, then in her mind it is fine, and she isn't going to change.
How to say something? "I have been meaning to ask you. Do you need me to send more bibs along with (baby) when I drop her off? I've noticed there has been spit up on her clothing when I have picked her up, and sometimes that is next to impossible to get out of those clothes. The bibs I don't mind getting dirty so much." Put it on yourself. In that you have addressed the spit up on the clothing and did not accuse her once of being lazy or doing something that pisses you off. It is on you at that point, and she is less likely to feel attacked.
Good luck, and if things don't change, then I would find myself another day care. . .
2007-01-25 04:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't spoil a 3 month old baby. I was told by my pediatrician that you can't spoil them at this age and they need to be held, touched, talked to ect.. for them to feel safe and know that they are secure. I would take my child out of the daycare. I agree babies are supposed to eat and fall asleep like that. Good luck
2007-01-25 05:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by shorty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No Offense, and im sorry to say this if this daycare lady is your only option,..but you need to change providers. It sounds like this lady is not really a genuine baby lover and jsut doing daycare as a job...she doesnt seem to understand babies. Try changing providers to someone who you know will understand her needs , or rather any babies needs better, youll feel better knwoing that too. Once again im sorry if this is your only option i hope i am not making you sad if it is by saying so.
2007-01-25 04:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by klumzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be ticked, you can't expect a 3 month old baby to be on such a strict schedule. And you can't "spoil" a 3 month old baby. From what, holding and loving her too much? It sounds like your caregiver doesn't want to be bothered with paying attention to your baby. I'd find a new babysitter.
2007-01-25 04:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by Basil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would change your daycare. I would not even want to leave my child there for a minute! She is acting like your daughter is her own or something. I would mention something to the director of the daycare. This woman needs to be told this is not the way she should be acting.
2007-01-25 05:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off I would look for another day care. You can not expect a 3 month old child to be on a strict schedule it has to be felixable. I guess its been a while for the caregiver, because infants eat, shyt, sleep and spit up all day long.
2007-01-25 05:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by mother of twin girls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this were my child, they would have one less child in that daycare!!! If this is what she expects out of a 3 month old, then what will she expect when your daughter is 1 year old? I think its time to research another option for childcare.
2007-01-25 04:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋