For the past several weeks, I've attended a poker game at one of my friends house (small stakes, nothing out of control). Well, my wife is NOT a fan of gambling of any kind, so she wouldn't allow me to go.
One of my friends gave me the idea of putting some nyquil into her drink at dinner (the recommended dosage, nothing more). Well, much to my surprise, she passed out almost immedietly after dinner and I was able to sneak out and play poker.
Well, last night when I tried this...she passed out again...but woke up in the middle to find me gone.
When I got home, I had to explain my actions. She found the nyquil (as I accidently left it out) and is IRATE with me. She spent last night w/ her parents and is threatening to leave me.
I don't know what to do...her parents are encouraging her to leave... how do I change her mind?
2007-01-25 03:34:01 · 20 answers · asked by Ted Arcidi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you did was ridiculous. You drugged your wife to fulfill your own selfish wants. Your wife had good reason to keep you from the poker game. Gambling only brings trouble. She was just trying to protect you from making a mistake like becoming an addict or losing important savings money in a game. But what you did to her has shattered her trust in you. She will have to start going back to the dating rule single girls follow. Never accept a drink from someone, get it yourself. That rule is supposed to be for scumbags who dope girls to rape them but what you did was just as scummy. If you really want her back you better suck up good and stop gambling, and also show her you are a changed man. And let her heal on her own. Gaining back trust takes years.
2007-01-25 03:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So um, what's your wife drinking that she can't taste a few ounces of NyQuil in it? If it was strong enough to mask that taste (and green color), it would probably be enough to put her out without your handiwork.
Which makes me think you're making this up. For attention, I guess. Which is fine. The story is mildly amusing. But maybe you should get out more and interact with real people.
Now I'll play along and pretend to believe your question:
Drugging your wife so you can sneak out is a good reason for her to leave. Then again, you're probably better off getting left than remaining married to a wife who controls what you do (when she's conscious, that is.)
If you want to stay together, be a man and tell her you'll play poker when you like and if she doesn't like it she can stay with her parents permanently. Tell her not to worry about NyQuil anymore, because you're sick of sneaking around and you're going to do what you want when you want no matter whether she likes it or not -- just like she's free to see her friends and engage in hobbies she enjoys.
Then don't call her and wait for her to come back to you.
2007-01-25 11:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
To make it simple, you drugged your wife, which could be illegal if she decided to press charges. You are showing her that you silly poker game is more important the her and her feelings are. It doesn't matter if you sneak out to play poker or if you sneak out to have an affair, either way you are cheating on her. In your case your cheating on her with your poker buddies. The fact that you did it twice makes it worse yet. I wouldn't blame your wife for leaving you, however, I would hope you have the sense to sincerely appologize and beg her, yes beg, to come back and NEVER do anything like this again. Unless poker and your buddies are more important than your wife and marriage.
2007-01-25 11:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding?You weren't man enough to tell your wife where you were going?You had to resort to a low down trick like that.That tells me that you have a gambling problem and won't admit it.She has all the right in the world to mad at you.You deceived her,and on top of that you could hurt her,or killed her.It's not her mind that needs changing,it's yours.You need to be honest with yourself.Admit you have a problem,and do something about it.
2007-01-25 21:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all you shouldn't have done that. and second you should have talked to her. (I now you said she is against it) but explain to her that this is guy time (every man needs guy time,(time with just other guys)) If it were me and it didn't happen all that much (twice a month) then i don't see what the big deal is with her. she needs to give a little. try talk with her. and do not start the conversation out with the big picture, be nice and then state your concerns. If you jump right in to why you are mad she WILL get defensive! I hope that it works! and good luck.
2007-01-25 11:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by D.J.4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Mr. Selfish, you think the reason that she's mad is because you drugged her and were not respecting her and her wishes????
Instead of thinking about yourself and what you want, why don't you put your wife and her feelings before your own.
Another thing, you said you put the nyquil in her drink, what if her drink had alcohol in it, you could have poisened her.
Honestly I don't blame her for threatening to leave you. Now she can't trust you, because your not giving her any reason to trust you.
Grow up.
2007-01-25 11:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I am laughing, only because it seems like a joke... you should never do this again. I am deathly allergic to NyQuil, it gives me major heart palps and other reactions that are unpleasant and potentially life threatening... you never know how a person will react to any med, they all have side effects. As for her being mad at you: DID YOU REALLY THINK SHE WOULD APPRECIATE IT??????
2007-01-25 13:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugging your wife is not good for any reason.
You will need to communicate on priorities. If things have been difficult before, you may have committed the proverbial "straw that boke the camel's back".
Good Luck, it wont be easy to recover her trust.
2007-01-25 11:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this kind of IS your fault. You should have used Roofies or something that would have wiped her memory. Also, leaving the bottle out was kind of dumb. Not the most constructive, but that is a really messed up situation. Also yeah, if that really did happen, you'd better prepare for a lawsuit.
2007-01-25 11:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is great. The only problem I see is that if drugging your wife works so well, you should be sneaking out to go bang some hot chicks, not hang with your buddies you h o m o.
2007-01-25 12:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋