2007-01-25 03:14:41 · 62 answers · asked by Nae_Nae_1117 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
WELL HUN, I JUST TURNED 17 AND I CANT IMAGINE HAVING A BABY ESPECIALLY AT 14, MY BEST FRIEND JUST DID, AND SHE IS HAPPY, THAT BABY IS THE LOVE OF HER LIFE!
JUST BE CAREFUL, AND TAKE CARE OF IT. ON THE DOWN SIDE, YOU ARE NO LONGER A CHILD, YOU MUST GROW UP NOW TO TAKE CARE IF YOUR BABY. GOOD LUCK!
AND ONE MORE THING, DONT LISTEN TO THESE PEOPLE CRITICIZING YOU THATS NOT FAIR, AND YOU NEED TO PROOVE THEM WRONG, HAVE THE BABY GO BACK TO SCHOOL, GET A JOB, DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO, SCHOOL IS SO IMPORTANT IN A KIDS LIFE
2007-01-25 03:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 5⤋
I have mixed emotions on this one. I was a teenage mother I had my daughter at 16 and my son at 20. My daughter is 18 and my son is going to be 15 next week. I'm 34. I love my kids to death but it was VERY hard. it wasn't about me anymore, it has been them for the last 18 years. Regrets? None, I learned a lot. I was in the hospital for 4 months with pre term labor with my daughter and she was born 3 weeks early, my son was an emergency delivery.
I won't preach to or judge anyone, because I'm not perfect. However, I will say that just becasue you are a teen parent doesn't automatically make you trashy or dumb. But at the same time, I'm not condoning it either. It is really, really tough and you need to be prepared.
I made decisions in my life that I have to deal with and I didn't ask anyone to help me, nor have I ever asked for sympathy; I made my desicion and made the sacrifices for that decision. I think its better to wait until you are more "ready" - Although that can be dabated as I don't think anyone is ever mentally ready for a child. All I can speak from is personal experience.
It's a lot different when you know people with babies. When you have a child of your own, wow, you are up at 2 in the morning, you have to change, feed and clothe them - friends will oogle over the baby but sure aren't there for you at 2 in the morning. You can't give it back.
Parenting, by far is the hardest job I have EVER done in my life; it can be the most rewarding and the most stressful, heartbreaking thing ever.
I wish you the best
2007-01-25 13:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kim S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care what anyone else thinks about it? Just curious.
I personally think that in American society, it's very sad to be pregnant at 14. But it happens, and when it does those young girls should NOT be put down. It's hard enough to deal with normal 14 year old issues, but then to have to deal with a pregnancy and baby?? Wow. I mean, I'm 28 and have a 1 year old and it's hard for us and I HAVE the support of a husband and have my own home and all that.
Though I was having sex at 14, and even though I made sure to use condoms, I know that I COULD have possibly gotten pregnant. I was pregnant at 17 and miscarried, but after that scare I got on birth control until I was READY to have kids.
So I know where you're coming from, in a way. You never did say what yours plans are, so it's hard for me to really have a solid opinion on your pregnancy. Every situation is so different. You have a very very hard life ahead of you if you keep the baby. But I wish you luck, and I hope you have very supportive and loving FAMILY, because they're the ones you'll need the most.
2007-01-25 05:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Megan V 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I myself am 16, I am not sexually active, and am perfectly happy. I have a boyfriend of over 2 years who I love very much. A lot of my friends are sexually active and I just sigh at them when they ask how I can be in a relationship for so long without having sex. Personally, you are way too young to be doing this. One of my friends who is 14 just got pregnant with a 24 year old man's child. Which is not only horrible, but immensely illegal.
My advice to you is to consider adoption, you are too far into your pregnancy to have an abortion, which is another alternative not saying it is right however, you chose to have sex so you should live with the consequences. My friend who is pregnant is having an abortion because I talked her out of keeping the baby. She was just all, oh I can go to school still, even though she said her parents would disown her if she kept it.
I hope you have a close group of friends, you are financially able to support the child, and the baby's father will stay with you throughout the pregnancy and the child's life. You really need to look at it from their point of view, growing up with a mother old enough to be their sister, probably not having the best life because odds are you will not finish high school having a child so young.
I am not condemning you but please, be careful. I wish you best of luck with your child however.
2007-01-25 08:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by limegreengunfight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first question to you is Where are your parents?
Being pregnant at your age is not good. If you are going to keep this child, what kind of support system do you have? Do you have any idea how hard it is to raise a newborn? Have you thought about giving the baby up for adoption so that this child has a better chance at life?
Your question has raised, and will raise many more questions from others.
I was 23, when I had my first child, and even then it was overwhelming. Heck I now have 4 children, and a husband, and some days its still hard. To balance work, daycare, school.. the works is hard enough. But to be your age and do this is crazy! Think your options through here before your child is born.
Good luck to you, and if you ever need parenting advice or just an email to vent to, heres mine... dvdsnx5@yahoo.com
2007-01-25 03:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by ,,!,,baddest~lil~b!tch,,!,, 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that you want to know peoples outlooks on this issue. You arent the first teenager pregnant and probably wont be the last either. Your the one who has to take care of the child and your the one who is going to have to go through all the tough times. I am 20 and recently had a baby its not easy by any means but it is one of the best things that ever happened to me. Sometimes people wont always agree with the things you do but its your life not theirs. You chose to have sex and in return you will have a baby. Just be the best mom toYOUR baby. Thats all you really need to worry about and keep your head up. And oh yes have safe sex if your are going to continue having sex!
2007-01-25 06:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by Britty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl I knew in school got pregnant at 14. Her parents were old fashioned portuguese and sent her away to her aunts house for the duration of her pregnancy because they were ashamed. She had the baby and life has not been easy for her. She raised the child alone and although she loves her daughter she is 29 now and looks back and sees the HUGE chunk of her youth that never happened. While we were attending concerts and having lots of good teenage fun she was home taking care of a baby. She lost a part of her life she can never get back. I would strongly recommend adopting the baby out to a stable home where the child would have a lot of opportunity to succeed in life. Unless you have LOTS and LOTS of support and are okay with the fact that you will miss out on the best time of your youth, I would adopt the baby to a loving, stable family who is READY for kids. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-25 03:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a teenage mother too. However, I was at least old enoughto drive. My outlook on teen moms is that they have it much harder than if they had waited. As for me, I didn't get help from my parents. I raised my baby boy. I was the one getting up with him at night, changing every diaper, doing his laundry, feeding him, and it wasn't easy.
I feel like i'm a stronger person because of it all. I'm glad that I didn't depend on my parents to raise him for me. On the weekends while my friends were out having a good time, I stayed at home with my son and watched movies.
Just because you're young doesn't mean that you won't be a good mother. You already ARE a good mother because you made the decision to not abort your baby.
Just be prepared for your youth to be much harder then that of your friends.
I don't agree with anyone putting you down for being so young. What's done is done, and this baby you will have is as much of a miracle as any other baby.
Good luck, honey.
2007-01-25 03:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had my first at 19. I was mature and could get a job to support my baby. I had my mother and my daughter's father as my support system. So my "teen" pregnancy was easy. I don't know what your situation is but I will say that it makes me a little sad because so many young girls are giving up their lives to have babies. They think because they can take care of a Baby-Think-It-Over doll for a week that they can become parents. They don't realize how hard it is. Even with my mom and my fiance' (my daughter's father) helping to raise my child its still hard. I work a full time job, I'm a full time mother and I'm a part time student.
Don't let having a baby stop your from achieving your goals. Graduate high school and go to college. Give your child something to aspire to. Don't get hung up on "baby mama drama". Basically grow up and know that your time at the movies, and skating parties is over.
2007-01-25 03:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
omg i cannot imagine! when you are my age your child will be 11!!! If your baby follows in your footsteps... you could be a grandma before you are 30!
Lots of ppl have babies at your age and they are ok, but you have know idea what you are missing out on as a result. Your life will never be the same again.
I am 25 and pregnant for the first time and I am terrified! I can only imagine how you are feeling. I hope your family is supportive and there to help you out...
2007-01-25 03:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by corbin and caysen's mommy♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God Bless YOU! You need all the support you can get! I know because I got my girlfriend in the family way too. She was a lot older then you but it was not the ideal world to bring up a child.
Wanna hear something that I think is wild. The average mother in this country (USA) does not have a husband or father for their kid(S) ..So you probably are right their with the majority of people who have a family..no husband no father.
You will have to grow up fast as your childhood has been taken away from you. You have lost so much but that is history.
You will have to be strong for your baby and remember that many people before you have been in the same predicament.
Be Strong. Pray Often. Thank God for small Blessing.
2007-01-25 03:48:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋