i go to uni part time and there is a guy there who likes me. The thing is i am repulsed by him, i know that sounds unkind but he creeps me out big time. I'm the type of person who likes everyone- but he really tries me out!
I started talking to him because he gets stage fright and i was helping him with it-changing the way he thinks about why he goes on stage etc, and its gone on from there.
At first it was ok, we'd chat on msn about the course, and then he started to come on a bit too strong. i've told him quite bluntly that i am not interested in him, but he really lives in his own world.
In his world:
We are going to go on holiday together, we are going to see a show in london and we will be sharing a hotel room, i am going to become a famous actress and in turn will give him parts in movies and the delusional list goes on.
At no point have i encouraged him but now it's getting too much. i am almost at the point of telling him i am a lesbian just to get him off my back.
Help!
2007-01-25 02:56:37 · 17 answers · asked by Mr Jolly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Trouble is, some men think that all females fancy them. Although you were merely being a very kind soul and helping him with his problems you are going to have to bite the bullet and explain that you are just NOT interested in having a relationship of any kind with him.
2007-01-25 22:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okie i've never been in a situation like this, but here is my two cents. Try to talk to him on his own and not over the net or when others are around. I understand the thought of being alone with him may be replusive. Once alone keep eye contact and tell him firmly but gently and not hurtful that you are uninterested in a more than friends relationship. If he cannot take no for an answer then it is perhaps best to cut of all ties with him nd it may hurt him but in time he will learn and get over you (No offence to you of course) thats all i can offer really.
2007-01-25 15:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by lozzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
That is not a friend I am sorry to say this, but he sounds like a crazy stalker, in a way you have to look at you part in this what really happened.
There is a great way to find out how to let go without lying about your sexuality.
write down Resentment for him, how its affecting you, your part in it, the cause of the resentment, and finely put down your character defecates. I do that when I am angry with someone and most of the time my part in the situation was bigger than i that. because you sound like a people pleaser, you want every one to like you, there is nothing wrong with that until your boundaries get broken and that how we most woman become door mats to men. there is a great saying if you let hem go for good it goes like this.(THE WEEK ONE DID IT WITH A BUTTER KNIFE AND THE STRONG ONE DID IT WITH A SORT) good luck and I hope I did not offend you.
2007-01-25 11:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie, it won't help. Do tell him that if he can't back off then you will have to completely end all communications with him, including the help at uni.
If you have to do this and he still harasses you, tell your uni tutor and see if they could have a word, it might be stronger coming from someone with authority.
Good luck.
2007-01-25 11:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kanst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop but tell him in a way that he knows you mean it - don't get nervous/sound scared. Be firm and if necessary let the uni staff know that he is hassling you. No-one has to put up with this kind of 'fear'.
2007-01-25 11:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lynne E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's never had much female attention before and I think he must of got the impression you liked him, he wasn't used to it. You'll have to tell him that you have a boyfriend. Tell him you are engaged or something. If he carries on block him from your msn too.
2007-01-25 11:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well don’t lie to him, but keep trying to get the point across. If it gets to the point that he can’t speak to you without bringing up that he likes you and it makes you uncomfortable tell him you feel you can no longer talk to him because he makes you uncomfortable. Valid reasoning, and then you won’t feel bad about it.
2007-01-25 11:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i fink he liked the attention u gave him maybe he not use to gal attention , just say look I'm Happy to say hi now and then but we need to stop Chaitin over msn nd stuff i like u as a mates nothing more, i got a bf now x
2007-01-25 12:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, is there knowone at Uni who you can talk to about it, maybe one of your lecturers, who could have a quiet word failing that have you got a big brother who could whisper sweet nothings in his ear, if you know what i mean.
2007-01-25 15:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be straight and tell him to back off!!!
my mate had a similar experience and she humoured him to the point that he wouldnt leave her alone at all
this has gone on for 3years now and ahe finaly plucked up enough courage to tell him where to go
good luck
2007-01-25 11:03:02 · answer #10 · answered by crunchymonkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋