When making decisions, should you listen to other's input or go by your gut feel. I have been confused about major life issues and don't know who to listen to.
My child lives with my ex in another state. He is moving due to job reasons. My ex, mother-in-law and daughter want me to move back in the house until my daughter finishes 10th grade.
My parents are saying to take a stand that he must file legal papers or I am not coming to get the child. They do not want to see me hurt again by my ex and his family.
My ex, daughter and mother-in-law think positive and want to see the family together. My parents do not want to see me with my ex again and instead want me to fight things out or ask my ex to live up to his legal responsibilities.
I can not think with a mind of my own and get confused.
2007-01-25 02:43:09 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
E/one is going to have an opinion. It's up to YOU to make a list...
Yes, write it out on paper. What YOU feel is best, on one side. What YOU do NOT agree with, on the other side. You then begin to see where YOU stand. Make a FIRM decision, and STICK with it. Do NOT allow others to sway you. Keep your desires/wishes strong....INCLUDING the reasons for your decisions, as well as the plan for accomplishment. If an attny is necessary, enlist the services of one to legalize your plan. Your confusion will disappear. Your mind will be clearer, and you'll feel so much better for finally making YOUR own decision!
BELIEVE IT!
2007-01-25 03:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly can't make your mind up to being with your own child or not, then I'd have to say, your daughter is better off without you if you can't even decide!!
What is the purpose for her being with dad and not you?
Dad must not be all that bad if the child lives with him and not you.
Sure adults hurt each other in their marriages and relationships, but if dad was real abusive, there is no way your being a good mom and letting him have the child!
Either fight for your rights and your daughters, or give in andmake changes to bettter your ways of thinking!
2007-01-25 02:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consult an Attorny, or a family justice counsellor. When issues arise with children, decisions have to be made on what is best for them. It is difficult when other family members are telling you what to do, but in the end your childs needs have to be met. Good luck to you, it is never easy.
2007-01-25 02:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Bridgette B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow,
What do you want quick don't think just answer
Ok now sit down and write down all the pro and cons on a piece of paper then on another one write down what the people you care about think compare the two and condense your pro and con paper that should help you get it to the thinking level
2007-01-25 02:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by pokey's gumby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think before you act... This is the best way... Do what you know is best to do.... Sometimes people can give us good advice and help but other times we have to follow our hearts and not listen to others... You have to learn how to differentiate between the two... I wish you the best in this.
2007-01-25 03:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You go with your gut feeling. As a mother I know you want to be with your child. Do what you know is best for your child.
2007-01-25 02:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone outside of the situation...that's my advice...you seem unsure of yourself...buck up!....your number one priority is your daughter's well being!
2007-01-25 02:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ŗεŋεε 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What Fuzzy_bare said
2007-01-25 02:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋