so my best friend is living with me and she just had a miscarriage the other day. im not to sure as to what to say to her or to how to comfort her. i have a 5 1/2 month old lil girl and i dont no how to help comfort her! i think that mylil girl can help, but wont that make her miss her baby more? (seeing my baby all the time) i want whats best 4 her. she saw her sonograms nd everything! please give me some advise! thanks!
2007-01-25 02:38:26 · 8 answers · asked by youngmama 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
In most hospitals, when a woman loses a child (after delivery)they will usually put her in a room with a mother that had a healthy child. I have heard many stories from many people on both sides and it always goes the same way. The woman who lost her child will ask if she might hold the baby or the woman who has a child will ask if the other wants to hold the baby. I'm pretty sure that this helps with the grieving process. I could be wrong though.
2007-01-25 03:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can say or d really even do. Yes, seeing you baby will probally make her more upset but that is apart of life. If you lose a baby, everyone around you can't hind theirs. I am sure that she will probally have a chance again. This will be something that she will face and just deal with. I as feel really bad for thoughs mothers that have lost any kind of child. Being only 4 weeks to having the child die. But there is really nothing that heals that pain. She just has to more forward. Good luck and hope your friend has a healthy baby next time.
2007-01-25 02:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by mamato5Boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years ago I went through IVF treatment and was pregnant with triplets and after 3 months lost all three . My little niece taylor was a big comfort to me! Without her I do not now what I would have done, she is 3 years old and I love her so much. I would send time with her and yes it help alot. As for your freind, when she is ready she will talk about it , just be there for support!
2007-01-29 02:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by kelly d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just being there for her right now is the best option you can give. She can only heal herself and having you and your daughter there should help. Just make sure your there to talk and try not to push anything on her. Just be a friend!
2007-01-25 02:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by ashylee921 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far along was your friend?
The best thing to do is just be there for her and let her decide how much contact she would want to have with your daughter. Everyone is different and she might just want her space right now.
All the best for the both of you!
2007-01-25 02:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sara M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just support her and let her grieve. there no magic answer for this so i'm at a loss for words. the best thing i would suggest is sort of share your baby with her. let her do something if she asks. like give her a bath and feed her.
2007-01-25 02:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there, support her and listen to her. but also if she wants time alone give her this.
its hard to say how she will feel being around your daughter,she may have times that she just needs space.
it will take her time to come to terms with this but she has you and sometimes just knowing someone cares is comfort enough.
2007-01-25 02:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let her know that you are there for her anytime she needs a shoulder to cry on.
2007-01-25 03:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋