another boy.?

Question

im pregnant with my third child and its a boy. my first two are boys. im so disapointed. how do i deal with this? i know its wrong to be upset but i really wanted a girl. i love this baby no matter the sex but im still upset. how do i hide that from my husband? how do i make this feeling go away? i feel like crying.am i a bad person for feeling this way? did anyone else feel like this ? thanks.

Answer 1

Awwww ive been watching for you since you posted yeasterday. You were so excited about your ultrasound. I just wanted to let you know that, i know how you feel. We have FOUR boys, and im pregnant with my last and i really hope its a girl. After this one, we are done. Babies are special no matter if they are boys or girls, and i know when you see your son for the first time you will be happy he is who he is :) Maybe you were made to be a mom of boys, think of all the football games, basketball games and all those fun things you will be involved in :) Its really not so bad :) i love having a basketball team right here at home lol....You get to learn so much about boys, fishing, camping, all kinds of things on bugs lol its really not so bad!!! Yea a girl would be nice but ive had 4 boys and im actually kind of scared to get a girl, at least i know how to raise boys lol. Think of it as being a blessing, even if it is a boy. Look at the two sons you already have and how much happiness they have brought to your life :) Its okay to be a little mad, you will get over that with time. Feel how you want to feel dont hide it from your husband, im sure he will understand. Its all normal. In the end you will be happy and love your son just as much as you love the other two. Goodluck and congrats :)

Answer 2

We have alots in common. I am any day going to give birth to my 4th child. Guess what, I have 3 boys. I wanted my first to be a girl, but it was a boy, that was fine, did bother me at all. Then I didn't find out with my second. I thought I would wait for the mistery! Well it was a boy. I was not upset then either. But When I went for my scan with my 3rd, I just couldn't wait and they said boy. I smilled and me and my husband looked at each other, oh my 3 boys. But my feeling and emotions were so mested up for a couple of weeks. I felt like crying. I loved my baby so much but why. Well it was the best thing ever. I have 3 boys and it is so different. Not many people have 3 boys. I am now having a baby in a week and I didn't want to know. Mainly so I don't have the feeling again. I hope that I don't get a sad feeling after the birth, which I don't think I will because I will then have the baby. Plus I don't feel that bad, I have already prepared my self for a boy. I hung all the boys clothing up. Also with the ultrasound, I swore i seen a boy part so that makes me think I will have another boy. I wish you the best of luck. Remember good things will come out of it as it did for me. Everthing happens for a reason. Also you can try again. As I will.

Answer 3

Of course you are not a bad person, there is nothing wrong for feeling disappointed - you are saying that you do not want your baby boy - you simply feel disappointed - I think that you should share your feelings with your husband and not make a big deal of feeling disappointed - simply let those feelings out.

If you decide to have another child in the future use the Chinese Birth Chart - this is just a superstition - but better to have a little hope than none! - This has worked for me in determining the sex of my three kids, could it just be coincidence, of course.

But meanwhile, let those feelings out and feel no shame but do not stress yourself so much over it -

Answer 4

I know how you are feeling!! It is normal to be upset..You are not a bad person for it and you should talk to your husband about it you need support..I have 4 girls and 1 boy and I was upset because I really wanted all girls..I want 6 kids but afraid of getting a boy again..He is so hard compared to my girls!!

Answer 5

I understand exactly how you feel. I was a little let down yesterday i found out i was having a girl and i really really wanted a boy. But as long as shes healthy i'll be happy. I dont think we are bad people , because soon as we hold our little bundles of joy we will forget we ever wanted a differnt sex. GOOD LUCK AND BEST WISHES

Answer 6

awww your not a bad person at all, I know several women that got dissapointed when they wanted one sex child and got the other, it will soon pass, you will be ok, just grieve it out. Do you want to have more children or is this it for you, everything happens for a reason so dont' look at it as a bad thing. Be strong, for you and your baby.

Answer 7

hi, i know how you feel. trust me!!!
i have two daughters, when i went for my ultrasound with daughter#2, they said it was a girl and i started crying on the table. wow, i felt like the worst mother of all!!!! i wanted a boy soo bad. last weekend i found out i am pregnant again, an oops!!! i still want a boy more than anything, but as long as it is healthy ill take it!!! itll go away, i promise, especially after you have him in your arms. take care of you.

Answer 8

Hi!I would go to babycenter.com and get on there message boards,they is a gender dissapointment board and the're are lots of other women going through the same thing and i think that they would be very helpful to you.Good luck!