How do I get my patience back?

Question

I used to be the most patient man alive. Then, I had two children. Now, my patience is completely gone, GONE! I love my boys dearly, but the two of them have drained my soul of patience and it's starting to effect my marriage. I blow up with just a simple question from my wife. She feels like I'm attacking her. I've just lost the slow, calm, detailed side of myself to this short fused and angry man inside of me. I exercise regularly, I eat healthy foods, I rarely drink alcohol, dont do drugs. I've seen a therapyst before and he handed me a worksheet, like I was in grade school - not for me. What do I do now? How can I get my patience back? Anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

Maybe some "alone" time. Not doing anything bad, just clearing your head. Time away from the family and stress can be quite helpful. Just time to think and regroup. I know you'll be okay just need to relax alittle.

Answer 2

Sit back and wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration.

Let go of your need for immediate gratification.

Display tolerance, compassion, understanding, and acceptance toward those who are slower than you in developing maturity, emotional freedom, and coping abilities.

Accept your human frailty in the pursuit of personal, physical, emotional, and spiritual growth. Accept the set backs and reversals inevitable in your quest for personal growth.

Believe in the concepts of permanence and commitment. Be calm and considerate as you handle the growth issues in your committed relationships in marriage, family, career, community, or church.

Hang on to a relationship when trouble arises that may take some time to resolve.

Feel peace, contentment, and satisfaction that you are on the path to recovery and personal growth.

Temper your enthusiasm, energy, exuberance, and excitement after you have experienced a renewal of spirit, received revelations or insights.

Accept the non-enthusiastic reception of others to share in your ``new found truths.''

Accept that there is no need to rush yourself or others in facing the challenges of emotional growth.

See that overnight reformations are rarely long lasting; gradual change and growth have a greater durability.

Couny to 20 or 100..

Answer 3

Sounds like you may need parenting classes and anger management too.... You will need help and counseling or you will only get worse and ultimatley even become abusive and more angry and lose your wonderful marriage and family over it. PLEASE seek and get the help you need so that you can be a better father and provider and husband to your loving wife. I wish you the best and will be thinking and praying for you and your family in this situation... Here comes lots of hugs you way today:)
At least you are crying out for help and wanting to change and i give you alot of credit for that... wish more people were like you.

Answer 4

There is an underlying problem here besides patience. It sounds like perhaps you are having a problem with parenting or the way your wife is parenting. Are you doing your share? I think you need someone to talk to who can maybe help you find the problem. Maybe you can do it yourself with introversion. If there is someone you respect, who are what you consider good parents, maybe you could talk it out with them? Obviously you are intelligent since you realize that eating healthfully and exercising is important. You realize you are angry. Now you need to find out what you are angry about and figure out what you can do about it.

Answer 5

Try meditation or prayer. Try to refrain giving answers when you are angry and rather try a calmer, quieter approach.

outside of that-relax-take the kids out to the park and let them run around like crazy-they get tired and would sleep when needed.