I posed a question here regarding the discipline of my 16 year old son. I am a firm believer in spanking but a lot of you seemed to think it is inappropriate to spank bare bottom at his age. It got me thinking if I might be harming him psychologically. I approached him about it. He said he agreed he probably deserved to be spanked on occasion but was very embarrassed for me to see him naked. The last thing I want to do is humiliate my son so I've permitted him to wear briefs for future spankings. I can still monitor the redness so I know I don't overdo it by pulling the briefs up in back before the spanking. Kind of a thong effect. He gets to protect his modesty in front and I can still get to the bottom of his misbehavior. Seems to me like a reasonable compromise. Thoughts?
2007-01-25 02:07:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sorry, you have problems , just look for professional help. Anuway, I'm completely against spanking
2007-01-25 02:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Steiner 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all your son is to old to be getting spankings okay because he is sixteen, and I do not know of any parents who discipline their kids with spankings at this age. I mean heck the last spanking I got from my mother was probably when I was about 12. So there has to be another way to discipline him besides spankings. Maybe you could try talking to him, and explaining to him that his actions have consequences, and if he understands the consequences of his actions he has more knowledge to make a better decision. Also that bit about him being psychologically damaged you are not psychologically damaging him because every kid needs discipline so they learn how to behave appropriately. But the ways they are disciplined changes as they get older.
2007-01-29 04:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong-all the way around. Spanking is for little kids IF you decide to do that. For a 16 year old, it sounds kinda sick and perverted. Ground him, take away his privileges, make him do chores, anything but spanking. I stopped spanking my child 6 years ago, she is now 13. I would never even think of spanking her now, it's so outdated. Plus it is a physical form of punishment, which I think is wrong. I try to never raise my hand to my child because it only teaches them to be physical with their own children in the future. It can be a vicious cycle. Sorry, I just don't agree.
2007-01-25 10:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has to be spanked-then do it fully clothed. That is way too humiliating at his age. I don't condone spanking for just anything-at his age (or any age) it is a last resort, severe infraction punishment. If it is effective then continue to use it but you may have to change how you punish him at that age. Some kids don't pay much attention to a spanking at that age so you have to find something else. Some kids still "fear" the belt but as far as it pyschologically scarring them-bullpuckey. If you take it to the point where it's abuse then yes. And limit the swats to a specific amount so you don't need to "monitor" for possible injury.
2007-01-25 14:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by HiTekRednek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanking a 16 year old is wrong! When I was little I was spanked with a wooden spoon...but that stopped when I was 8! He is just going to rebel even more!
2007-01-25 15:38:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spanking a 16 yr old is still wrong...what about grounding...taking his video games or tv away...or even a smack across the face in the heat of the moment if u have to...but to pull a 16 yr olds pants down and to spank him...that is just wrong on sooo many levels..and in some places considered child abuse...u need help
2007-01-25 15:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by eyesopen16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two teenaged daughters and the way I discipline is by taking away privileges. Take away the cell phone, the computer, bed by 9:00 p.m., but spanking? and bare bottomed at that? You ought to have him do chores for a month, dishes, cleaning the bathroom, throwing trash, dusting vaccuuming, picking up after himself and everyone else.
2007-01-26 22:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Brown eyed girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion 16 years old is to old to be spanking a person, they are already in high school and driving at that age, mommy doesn't need to be spanking him. Just disipline him by taking away the things he loves like cellphone, tv, car keys, he will stop doing whatever it is he is doing, plus he is 16, he is going to rebel a little.
2007-01-25 10:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by echc 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Spanking a teenagers bottom is very wrong. As a teenager I would never let anyone do this. I think he should have his privacy and you should choose another method of punishment.
Something normal like grounding, banning things, etc.
2007-01-25 10:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by Gracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son could be into S&M at this point and he agrees because he sports wood every time mommy spanks. What you are doing is getting your son off. You and your family are ^%*&^ up.
2007-01-25 12:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋