How do you pick yourself up when your going through a down patch?

Question

Everythings getting to me at the moment my friends wont stop bitching at each other and i end up having to sort it out, im arguing with my mum and because of all this my work is slacking and going down hill despite all of it i can cope i jsut need a way to pick me up really!

By the way im not at school were all about 20! (i know my mates should grow up and know better!)

Answer 1

It sounds like you are going through something I went through. Here's a few ways to help the situation:

1. The first opportunity you get, take a break from everyone. Your stressful friends, your mom, your job, school, everything. Take a long walk and listen your fav CD or go see a movie or anything to just be alone and figure out the next step.

2. Stress with friends is tough, especially if you are in the middle, and it looks like they are not there for you to vent to since they have their own problems. Do yourself a favor and why not just take a hands off approach to their problems. Sometimes its not worth trying to fix their issues.

As for your mom, try to have a little more patience with her. Mothers don't realize that they say or do things that irritate their kids and when she is in a calm mood approach her and tell her you are sorry for snapping before, but also they way she talks to you is stressing you out too. I bet she will try harder to be nicer and not stress you out.

3. Do something new that you have been wanting to do for a long time... like rock climbing, or eating at an Ethiopian restaurant, or something different out of the ordinary, and away from the people or things that are causing you stress. Take a friend who you feel doesn't stress you out and enjoy the day.

4. Start telling yourself that things 'WILL' get better, and they already are because you are taking the initiative to fix/change things. I find that once I make a plan to change the direction of what I am doing, it helps my mood. Set a goal in the future to look forward to - like a day to go see a Broadway show, or something you personally love, and just look forward to it.

I hope it this helps!

Answer 2

Try taking some exercise. Exercise produces endorphins, chemical substances produced by the body that make you feel happy and exhilarated. I used to do it by going for a run, now I dig the garden - but any energetic exercise should do the trick. Its a bit like using an anti depressant, but it is harmless and the only side effects will perhaps be a few blisters. It may also help you get rid of some of your frustration at the situation. You may also feel happier if you are eating the right things too. The other thing I might suggest is find someone who would be willing to listen to you and help you unburden yourself mentally and emotionally - but they must be trustworthy and reliable.

Answer 3

Its difficult to pick your self back up specially when things are getting to you and not everybody can understand why your feeling down I think you should let your friends get on with it if they want to act like that then its not your problem you shouldn't have to sort it out! But if you want things sorted out get your friends together with you there and have them talk it out thats what my friend did for me! I think you need to start putting your self first think of yourself more go out and treat yourself! And try and put yours cares aside for a bit also might be a good idea to have a chat with your mum I still live at home and some times my mum can get to me so I just tend to sit in my room and watch telly or listen to music to get away have some time on my own!! Also if you have other mates why not go out with them on a night out or organize somethng with people you work with have a laugh!!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Well....Sometimes in life, you just have to accept that things won't always go your way. Accepting this is a major step towards dealing with it. And deal with it you must, as avoiding it is never an advisable option. Believe that all the knocks you receive in life will help make you a stronger person better equipped to handle the often harsh realities of adulthood. Treat yourself from time to time as a reward for dealing with difficult friends and family.

Answer 6

Hi Chel, just hang in there and try to remember all the good things you have in your life. Your mum just wants the best for you, and as for your friends if the argument has nothing to do with your stand back and let them figure things out. This time in your life will smooth itself out so don't let it all bring you down.
Ask yourself where you would like to be in 5 years and start to work on it. Take Care. =)

Answer 7

sorry to hear your down.. maybe tell your friends to stop cos its effecting you firstly, they're being selfish. When i'm down i make sure i lock myself away for a few evenings, have relaxng baths, pamper myself, eat my favourite foods and watch whatever makes me smile.. usually something like S/ex in the City. Look after yourself and you'll be happy and stronger when you have to face the stressful situations that have been bothering you. Look after yourself and rise above the rest. You'll be more productive work wise as well. Good luck, i hope you feel better soon xx

Answer 8

u definately need some u time friends tend to ***** about each other but you need to make it clear to them that you dont want to get caught in the middle then take a step backwards and concentrate on what is goin on in ur own life the arguments with your mum is that down to what is happening with your friends if it is have a chat about it with your mum and explain that u really dont want to be involved in it all i hope this helps and i hope you sort things soon good luck x

Answer 9

Turn off your mobile phone for a few days - there's a school holiday coming up so you won't need to go to school.

try to make things up with your mother and stay with family for a few days. You need a rest!!

I would have suggested a girls night out but if your friends are constantly arguing, that would turn out more stressful that enjoyable.

Answer 10

You need some me time. It sounds like you have a lot going on. Try doing some nice things for your self. Buy yourself something nice, or if your able to travel take a trip and just relax. Turn your cell phone off and dedicate a day just for you.