My mom doesn't like him and i'm scared to tell them because it would start a huge fight with my mom. But I really love him. What should I do?
2007-01-25 01:44:06 · 17 answers · asked by Shorty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah i know but shes told me that she will cut me completly out of the family and everything and whats worse is shes my boss at work and thats a whole different can of worms. so just coming clean and telling her isn't really a safe option.
2007-01-25 01:51:40 · update #1
My friends totally love him, they think he treats me like a princess and hes really great to me. which he is.
2007-01-25 01:54:25 · update #2
my dad likes him, my mom doesn't. She doesn't like his family and says that he isn't making enough money for her "baby girl". I"m an only child, so this makes it alot worse.
2007-01-25 01:58:31 · update #3
Congratulations girl!
What's mom has to do with it if you are of age? Nothing. But you should sit down with him and tell your parents sooner rather than later, let them know that you love them both and respects that they don't really like the guy you've choosen but it's high time you live your life as you want.
Ps. Listen to your parents reasoning behind not liking your guy. They may be valid reasons.... but that's for you to decide.
2007-01-25 01:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by singsong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to get married you have to be mature.If you are not mature enough to tell your mom then you don't need to be getting married right now.As far as your mom saying that he does not make enough money bothers me.Love & marriage have nothing to do with money you cannot buy love so why is your mom trying to put a price tag on it.If you and your fiance truely love eachother it should not matter what anyone else think's.You need to live life for you and if you try to live life and worry about how everyone else feel's and you try to make everyone else happy let me tell you a fact of life..You cannot please all of the people all of the time it will never happen.You need to seriously think about what you want and what will make you happy and then go for it.Maybe you can talk to your dad you said that he likes your fiance maybe your dad can talk some sense into your mom.Good luck to you.
2007-01-25 10:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will even more mad and hurt if you dont tell her and you are already engaged. just tell her and soon. prove to her that the two of you love each other and what can be wrong with that. but sometimes moms do have an instinct about these things. if your in the relationship its hard for you to see, but an outsider may see something that could be a problem, listen to her reasoning without being closed minded. marraige is a big step, you would hate to hear that i told you so down the road when you have kids and everything involved. what do your friends think? do they like him? Either way i would tell your mom, she is your mom you know, she will love you no matter what. good luck.
2007-01-25 09:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by loveboatcaptain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to tell them, so hurry up and get it over with!!
But you have to be strong when you tell them. Let them know that you are an adult and that you have made an adult decision. It is not their decision, because this is the person that you will have to wake up with every morning, not them. This is the person that you will start your own family with, not them. You can thank them for their concern and their opinions, but this is your decision. Let them know that you are happy with him and that this is who you want to share your life with. Let them know how much it hurts you that they can't accept him and wont give him a chance. Make sure they know they are hurting no one but you!! good luck!!
2007-01-25 09:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by flowergirlsdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love this guy then it time to change jobs get out from under your mom and when it is time tell her that you love this guy and she will have no power over you at the time you do it. then give it time and your mom will miss you and slowly start coming back into your life. that what i had to do . and now my mom thinks my wife the cool but she still hates
2007-01-25 09:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell her and your dad as well... It is your choice who you marry and not hers.... Do not be scared do the right thing and you will feel better for it and your mom over time will learn to accept and live with it.
2007-01-25 10:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother and listen to why she is opposed. You may learn what her fears are about your situation with him. Your dad likes him. Great.There is a good chance this will work out better than what you expect.
2007-01-25 10:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you're old enough and mature enough to make the decision to become engaged to this person, you're old enough to tell your mother. There are other jobs out there and you may need to find one.
2007-01-25 10:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to stand up to your parents, you are not ready to be engaged. As your Mom is your boss and may not approve, you also need to think about finding another job if you are committed to him.
2007-01-25 09:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are afraid to tell your mother that you are engaged, then you apparently aren't mature enough to be a wife. Perhaps you need a few more years to grow up and be more confident.
2007-01-25 09:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋