2007-01-25 01:37:36 · 14 answers · asked by Solnishko 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was in love with a man 24 years ago and I had to move out of state and never heard from him again until last year. I found him thru the internet and found out that he had spent 10 years looking for me. He gave up, got married and has children now. We still love each other and have gotten to see each other twice in the past year. I know that we can't be together. He has another family now and a life. His wife doesn't deserve to lose her husband as she has been nothing but loving toward him. He respects his wife and I respect him. So I have had to learn, again, to be without him. But, in the long run, I know that I am doing the right thing. I believe in Karma, and I won't break up a family. I have to feel right about myself and be able to look at myself everyday and be ok with the decisions in my life. Good luck and let it go. You will thank yourself later!! I promise!! Something good is out there for you.
2007-01-25 01:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, will you be able to put up with the grief that causes knowing you were the reason for a family wreckage? The conscience (if you have any) is something that won't rest. It will haunt you for a lifetime. Not to mention you get the risk of appearing worldwide on the TV series CHEATERS. If that happens, you'll have to wear a brown paper bag for the rest of your life. People will point at you and say: "Hey, there goes the whore that broke a marriage!" Shame won't let you be.
My recommendation is you better learn to live without him. Besides, there's plenty of good guys out there. Is just that you apparently don't go out much. Wake up and smell the roses. Meet a lot of people. You'll see!
2007-01-25 02:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by M'lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't want to be hurt for the rest of your life, find a single person who's not married and fall in love with. This man is already married, there is no future in him, his attention is to his family, can't you see he's far from you? That should ring bells in your ears.
2007-01-25 01:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by meandmineownself 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can live without him. If not, you're going to spend the rest of your life pining away over someone who will never leave his wife for you. That's what happends when you go for married men. Not to sound cold or anything, but what do you expect? It's karma kicking you in the butt.
2007-01-25 01:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, stop creeping with the married men. If he is creeping with you now, then he will creep on you someday as well. He has a wife, put yourself in her shoes. That's why I won't get married you women today are whacked. Either your cheating or messing with someone elses man. He probably already has one freak to deal with, now he's dating a clingon. Some guys love trouble.
2007-01-25 01:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you could life without that person. if he is far away from you go to where he is . but i think that the situation here is that he is married, so forget about him, loOK to another side ok, married men are nonononono
2007-01-25 01:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by RED ROSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can and you are living without him. Reexamine your relationship with him. And know if he is leading you that he would do the same to you as he is his wife if you two ever got together. There is no honor in that.
2007-01-25 01:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is married, and far away, so it seems as though you will have to live without him.
But you say you cannot live without him...then it looks as though you will die.
Everything happens for a reason.
2007-01-25 01:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by white.sale 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had best find someone near to you and forget about this other married guy. You are only asking for your heart to get broken....
2007-01-25 01:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can live without him. Don't lie to yourself. He is not meant for you. He is married to someone else. Make the choice to move on and find someone unattached whom you can have all to yourself.
2007-01-25 01:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by Thia R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋