Is she really a friend?

Question

I was struggling trying to find a job. So my friend told me about this temp agency that helped her to get an job. So I tried it out and lucked up and found a job. The only thing was I recieved an job offer at the same place where my friend works. So I told her and this was her reponse, NO DON'T TAKE THAT OFFER, I GET TIRED OF US WORKING AT THE SAME JOBS, FIND ANOTHER JOB. We only worked at the same place once. Is this someone I need to keep as an friend?

Answer 1

Congratulations on the new job. Keep your job. Tell your friend you are your own person. And let her know what she said was hurtful. If she responds in the way as before then she has issues she needs to resolve. Any friend would be truly happy for you.

Answer 2

No. If you need a job and your friend won't let you accept an offer for selfish reasons she is not someone you should trust or be close to. She is either jealous of you or is afraid you will find out something about her she doesn't want you to. In the best case scenario, she just finds you annoying. But do you want someone like that as a friend?

I would take the job if I needed the job, but never talk to her except as it relates to stuff at work. Let her initiate any social meetings, and keep them seperate from your daily work activities. If she wants to have lunch together, for example, consider if that's something YOU want to do carefully, before saying yes. If you do, then go out to lunch away from the office, and when you come back, go back to being nothing more than co-workers on the job.

Answer 3

Tell her to deal with it...but in a nice way....say you are grateful you pointed out the place but your getting the job at the same place was coincidence. Leave it at that. Start the job but be VERY careful to be UTTERLY professional with her. Also for a while minimise out of work socialising with her.
Then perhaps she will feel you are giving her some space. Jobs are hard enough to come by. True friends would be happy for you regardless of where you worked.
ps congrats btw on the job:)

Answer 4

Take the job see the atmosphare. or your friends reaction. Just tell your friend that u want to try at least if u like the job u continue. or u left that. well try to convence your buddy. when u saw the whole atmosphere u will atumatically knew that is she is honest with u or not. ok best of luck. Don't suspect her just Try to find out the truth. Because this world is really very mean....................remember my words ok. just be careful. have a healthy life.

Answer 5

well. i had a friend that did exactly the same thing to me. trust me she isnt a friend anymore. if she was a true friend then she would have said "that really good i'm glad you have a job and we can be together, maybe go on lunch" that sort of thing. a real friend would back you in what ever you did. to me that says she doesnt value your friendship as much as you do hers.
good luck in what ever you choose
gemma
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Answer 6

i don't think she consider u a good Friend because of what she told you. she should be encourage you to take the offer because you need a you in my point of view i think u should stay away from her because is she was able to tell you she can really do some bad stuff that can hurt you.

Answer 7

She may be afraid that you will show her up at her job and may steal her thunder. She is insecure and either she can get over it and be friends or just make your money and make new friends.

Answer 8

she's not really a friend, because if she's your true friend, she doesnt have to say nasty things about your job offer. i have the same friend also who treated me that way.

Answer 9

still be friends but it's obvious what is going on here.
she is jealous.
she never thought you'd get hired into the same position.
no sense losing your friendship over it though.