If someone told a lie about you and everyone beleived it and you were getting treated badly because of it how would you react? Also knowing that this person doesnt care less that they are doing this to you and there is nothing you can do to make people believe you. How would you cope?
2007-01-25 01:24:46 · 23 answers · asked by mel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would confront her but she has lied so much I actualy think she believes it herself . This has become such a problem that I get abuse in the street in front of my children. It has definately taught me how much damage lies can do.
2007-01-25 01:46:49 · update #1
I would stay far way from that person in the future!
2007-01-25 01:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, the levels that some people stoop to to get attention! The person that is lying about it is trying to get attention and she is definately getting it.But what she doesnt realize is.. the attention she is getting now is only going to cement what people think about her later in life. They are going to remember her as the person who lied to get what she wanted.. not for being a good person. The people that are believing her are just robots!! I so dislike people that believe every little juicy bit of gossip and dont have viable braincells of thier own to make up thier own minds!! What ever happened to people using thier grey matter and deciding for themselves what is right or wrong. If all these people have chosen to believe a liar then there is nothing you can do about it. YOU know what the truth is.. YOU know this person is lying.. and as much as it hurts to be persecuted for a wrong you havent done.. you just have to suck it up and realize eventually these people will come to understand what this other person is like by her own actions. When they come to you later on and whine that she is starting crap with them and lying about them... you will have the satisfaction of knowing that everything in life comes full circle. It takes a bigger person to back away. I wouldnt give them the satisfaction of knowing how much this all hurts you. Go out and make new friends.. because obviously the circle of friends you had were not true friends if they could so easily be swayed by this person. If they were true friends they would have gotten both sides of the story and not just believed her. Go out and make new ones.. but this time be a little more selective on your choices.Go for quality friends.. not quantity. I would rather have one very best friend then have a bunch a fly by night friends. Keep your chin up...
2007-01-25 01:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by aurora1963_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, my mother gave me loads of advice on topics like this, so I'll pass it down to you.
Throughout your entire life there will always be someone who will try to one up you, be jealous of you, belittle you, etc. It's the way things go, but knowing that these things will eventually happen gives you the upper hand. You have to rise above other people and their insecurities. All that will matter when it's said and done with is what YOU think og YOURSELF. You know the things being said about you are untrue and that's what counts. Don't let everyone around you who is believing the rumors determine your worth.
I know, it's a lot harder to do than it is to say it. Believe me, I was in your positions a million times in high school, but by being the bigger person and not stooping down to someone else's juvenile level I respected myself more and also found out who my true friends were and who was down on that childish level with the one who started the rumors.
Be strong and good luck.
2007-01-25 01:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some very nasty people out there, I had this happen to me. You can either ignore it, because at the end of the day its just hearsay not fact, or challenge it but you might end up in a fight and come off worse. Alternatively try laughing it off. The worst thing about rumour is that noone will have to guts to do it to your face when you might have a chance of denial. I guess theyre just laughing and pointing behind your back, so that makes it just hearsay and crap. Lifes too short you could try a few loud exclamations of 'Lifes too short or get a life' flick a few V's too!
2007-01-25 01:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by John S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point trying to confront a b*tch like her. Where do you live that people hurl abuse at you in the street, it has got to be in essex somewhere.
I know it seems a long way off but all the fuss will die down soon. I hope you have learnt from this.. be careful who you trust with your secrets because those secrets can get twisted until there's no truth ever in them.
2007-01-25 01:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront this person in front of all. You may be bricking it but believe you me they wont be expecting it. If you show weakness it will keep happening for the rest of your days. Its not about being hard its all about the bluff! Who enjoys humiliation? You walk away looks like youve got summet to hide. Im not the most confident person but it does come better with experience and age. Good luck and its not the end of the world. would like to knoe how you got on
2007-01-25 01:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if every body believes it then they couldn't have had much respect for you in the first place, when people are nasty to you tell them you know it's because of the lies they have heard and say that you have no time for people who are so quick to believe what they hear. I would be so mad I would confront the liar and expose them for what they are in front of all their friends, there must be something you have to prove you havn't done what they are saying.
2007-01-25 01:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
through grade school I had the same problem. If you over react, then they will keep doing what they are doing, but if you ignore them then they will quit. Then, I did not have any friends, because of the lies, but now I have a lot.
2007-01-25 11:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by gods_child1123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would confront that person.I would not back down! I have a backbone not a wish bone!I would tell them how immature and insecure they are,and if I ever hear anything else ,they have been warned.No one likes a bully.They only do it because they lack self-control and esteem.
2007-01-25 01:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are lying, the truth will out eventually. I wouldn't be too bothered about it unless it was tangibly interfering with my life, job prospects, etc. If it was causing me problems and I could prove it was a lie, I'd get myself and lawyer and sue that person for slander.
2007-01-25 01:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me a while back theres nothing u can do really but let it pass they will get over it move on to the next person. just try not get upset about talking to friends works welljust hang on in there it will all be over be4 u know it
2007-01-29 00:10:15 · answer #11 · answered by jcathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋