my husband, Phil, would like to know?
2007-01-25 01:17:41 · 49 answers · asked by sally s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been told nothing changes when you get married!
Apart from the fact you have less sex! And your entitled to open Phil's mail!
2007-01-25 01:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by Totty D 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately, the original idea of what of Marriage is suppose to be has been lost and corrupted especially in this modern world of instant gratification. Marriage originally was intended as a medium for procreation. To provide a structure for having children. But the question remains, what is a marriage ? When is a man and woman married ? Is it when you say "I do" witnessed by priest ? Or Is it the law and paper say you are so ? Okay, you might be ceremoniously married or legally married ? But Are you married to the person in Heart. In Mind. In Soul. Are you the soul mate ? Are you one in interest, in spirit ? Just as your face and you are inseperable ? Marriage is the union of two souls. The act of copulation is but the outward expression, the physical union of what is happening internally. In the heart mind and soul. Then shall the 2 become one. When 2 become one, that is what Love is all about. Therefore the question of divorce in some cases is immaterially because even without the legal divorce, the heart mind and soul is already dead. For perhaps, there was never a union or a meeting of the minds. And The heart and the soul. Perhaps there was never a marriage in the first place.
Adam fell into a deep sleep when Eve was form out of His rib. What then is the meaning of deep sleep. The theta wave of consiousness. Adam was att the deepest level of consiousness when Eve was formed. A part of him became alive. His deepest consiousness became alive to be with him physically on earth. Thats what marriage is to be. Both person entwined as one. But unfortunately again, being the logical rational, thinking individual we have lost even the how to live the life at the core level. Dont even think about marriage. The union of 2 souls.
2007-01-25 01:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is hard and should not be taken lightly. If you have any doubts don't do it. Things do not change but get amplified by you always being together. Little habits that you may have found cute now may drive you up the wall. I honestly think that a lot of people are pressured into that next step and having that fairy tale wedding to complete their lives. If you can honestly say that you can love and take care of someone at their worse (like God forbid they get in an accident and you have to bathe them and take them to the bathroom) if you can say that you would be prepared to do that because you love them so much then I think marriage is great.
2007-01-25 02:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by nm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If in your marriage, if you and your husband are both being unselfish, and putting each other, and each other's feelings and needs before your own, I think the marriage can flourish. If you go into it with the right attitude, marriage can be very fulfilling. Am I saying that marriage is easy, absolutely not. It's hard work.
But I believe Marriage is all that. And for a couple to have a family I believe that it's esential. Call me old fashioned, but I think to have a family a couple must be married first. Because sex before or outside of marriage is wrong. Sex was created by God to be between a husband and wife after they are married, not before.
2007-01-25 02:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband Phil should be answering this. Marriage is a life sentence of being confined to another human being. It has legal compensation I guess to make sure that some people commit to it. ( A commitment to the institution ) of marriage. Doesn't that sound like something crazy? Sorry I am a little bitter today.
2007-01-25 01:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2015-02-04 02:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an amazing journey but one must learn to use every tool at their disposal to keep it from faltering...even in a marriage where love is strong, outside forces can "test" it's validity...goals must be similar, and respect must stay in front at all times...this doesn't mean you have to be each other's clone or even believe the same faith...it can work if caring remains mutual and the marriage never starts to make one or both feel shackled...
2016-05-23 22:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phil sounds like he has a quirky sense of humour!
My other half is my best friend so yes, it's everything it's cracked up to be and more.
Treat each other you way you need to be treated and you can't go wrong...and always keep the door's to communication opened, always!
2007-01-25 01:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it's done right? You should be cracked up with Happiness. Overloaded with Loving Life. Have Emotions of Joy, heaped on you, every day of your Life. Especially with someone who deserves it. like you! Respect yourself. Phil will take the hint.
2007-01-25 01:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no marriage is not all that. marriage doesn't insure much, means very little to some anymore in today's time, with today's morals. marriage is what one makes it. but i do not think marriage guarantees u won't ever have any problems in life, or that u will always be loved, and respected. could get this and much more from a relationship really.
2007-01-25 01:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋