My best friend Melissa and my boyfriend Travis HATE eachother. I dont wanna lose either one!
2007-01-25 01:11:03 · 9 answers · asked by Chelsea Lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sit them in a room and the 3 of u talk it out
2007-01-25 01:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should tell her. The majority of people wouldn't take that news well. Let her live her life and make her own mistakes. I suggest you tell her that you know him from High school and that you don't like him but you are happy as long as shes happy. If you give a negative add a positive comment like that. You could tell her you are worried she is moving too fast and that you don't want to see her get hurt. But whatever you do don't tell her that because she's spending so much time with him you feel like she's not spending time with you. That would probably make her upset. Your best bet is to keep quiet though. She will only learn on her own if you are right about him. Good luck.
2016-05-23 22:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why DO they dislike each other so much?
Does your friend Melissa think you will not be her friend or- be an ABSENT friend, if you start spending time with Travis?
Does Travis think he has to compete with her for your affections?
It is never easy being "piggy in the middle" but as long as you reassure each that you care for them and make sure that you divide your time between them fairly and transparently you need not "lose" one or the other.
If you did, I mean- if either DID "drop" you, then they are not worth the fuss anyway.
Just remember to be honest and fair and the rest will fall into place.
Best of luck
2007-01-25 01:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first things first:
1) Why doesn't Melissa like Travis? What is her reasoning? I ask this first because usually your friends will see things about a guy that they don't like - things that you can't see for yourself b/c you're blinded by being in love. You need to listen to her and observe his behavior yourself. She might be very right about him.
2) Are you still hanging out with her and giving her attention? I hated it when one of my girlfriends hooked up with a guy and stopped hanging out with me. Made me a little resentful towards him. I got over it with time.
3) Do their personalities clash? This could be the bottom line. If Travis is not treating you bad and you are still making time for Melissa, maybe they simply don't "click". This happens and unfortunately, you need to let them deal with it.
When my best friend introduced me to her boyfriend I thought they were the most mis-matched couple. They've been married for seven years now and I think the world of him. I had to mature and step out of the situation and watch their relationship grow.
I think that Melissa needs to mature a bit and step out of it. You also need to make it clear to Travis that if he has bad feelings towards Melissa he would be well-advised to keep it to himself if he wants to keep you, or work it out with her. This sets some ground rules right away that blood is thicker than water.
You aren't very likely to throw away a "bff" relationship for a dude, are you? If you do then you were never "bff", you were just "f".
Chin up, baby gurl - best of luck to you.
2007-01-25 01:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by redslippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that the boyfriend is a temporary part of your life. Your BFF will be a part of your life forever. Spend time with them separately. Don't try to push one off on the other.
2007-01-25 01:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by bookfreak2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell them anything. Just be urself, ur bf shldn't get u involve cos he hates ur bestfriend and so does ur bestfriend. Just dun get involve in their affairs bt u can try to solve the problems between them...otherwise let them be. That way u won't lose either one and they both shld respect u.
2007-01-25 01:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have to,if your best friend is a best friend she will get over it and if your boyfriend is true than he will do the same.talk to them and if they don't like each other tell them not come around at the same time.
2007-01-25 01:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by peered1964 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the relationship that you have with your bf seperate from your girlfriends. That way you can plan time to spend with both of them at different times.
2007-01-25 01:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have to lose either one/
if she is really your best friend she wouldn't leave because of your boyfriend.and if he really loves you he wouldn't leave you either.
tell them both that because they don't like each other there is no reason for them to get you in the middle.
2007-01-25 01:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋