I have been engaged for over a year and now I don't know what to do. We have been fighting well arguing a lot more than usual. It seems like we fight over anything and everything. Recently one of my best friends said that my fiancee made a pass at her and i was reallyl upset, but then she took it back and said it was a lie. I just feel so insecure. Any advice???????????
2007-01-25 01:09:07 · 8 answers · asked by angleyez_18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you feel insecure, you have to build up your confidence and really have a talk as to whether you want to get married. Perhaps he did make a pass at her and she said he didn't to keep the friendship with you. If you are having second thoughts and arguing at all, you should not get married until you get those things resolved whether by solving the problems or letting the relationship die and moving on to look elsewhere for love with someone you don't argue with.
2007-01-25 01:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many fish in the sea. If you are having second thoughts, then listen to them. Don't marry just because you are engaged, that makes no sense. Plus it seems as though your friends don't like him either after making up that nasty lie. Maybe it happened maybe it didn't. I would not like a friend that did that to me. Maybe she wants him? I don't know. All I do know is that you should not go ahead with the marriage until all the kinks are worked out. Break the engagement and see what happens next. Good luck.
2007-01-25 01:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't even trust the man you are going to marry? You've been fighting because you believed a lie from a friend over your fiance. You don't have to end the engagement but definitely wait a couple years to get married. See if this is even going to last before wasting time, money and energy on a bogus wedding.
2007-01-25 01:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you need to do is have a break from each other. Not a complete separation but a month or two apart to decide what your feelings really are. In that time you don't see other people because you aren't separted you are just deciding what your feelings are toward each other to see if the relationship will work. Just an idea. Don't leave it until its too late. Good luck
2007-01-25 01:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by shellhiggs07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he isn't the right person for u, if your fighting now, marriage will just make it worse, marriage will not bring u closer to this person. need to pay close attention to your intuition and what it's trying to tell u. he probably did make a pass at the girl, but he spoke to her and probably asked her to rescind her statement. don't marry this man, i too felt something was the matter when i married my ex, my intuition screamed don't do it, but i failed to listen, so i spent 10 years of my life, with someone that never loved me, and in the end cheated and left me responsible for everything. so maybe u need to rethink this whole thing, as love is not suppose to be like this.
2007-01-25 01:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with you fiance and tell them how you are feeling and why... Honesty is the best policy. If you feel unsecure then do not get married and if you feel you cannot trust him then let the poor guy go before you marry him as after marriage it will be alot harder to let go and it would only get worse for you. If i were you i would slow it way down with him and even break up if i had to.
2007-01-25 02:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with someone should not be a battle ,life is to short
{been there done that.} If you can't get along now ?Marriage will only make it worse , If your fighting has become physical even once. GET HELP AND GET OUT, it will never get better. Be safe Be Happy
2007-01-25 01:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're ready for marriage.
2007-01-25 01:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by myobsessionisyoualways 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋