how do you get over a friend that has died?

Question

i had a best friend when i was 5 years old. I'm now 16 years of age and still find it hard to cope with. She ment everything to me, but unfortunetly she died from meningitis. i didnt get a chance to say good bye because she died so suddenly in hospital. i couldnt face going to her funeral because i didnt want to believe she was gone. i feel like a piece of me is missing.
if you have been in this situation please tell me how you managed to deal with it.

thankyou

gemma

Answer 1

You don't ever get over a friend that died. Ever.

You hold on to those memories and cherish them. You celebrate the life of your friend by being the best person you can be to others and to yourself today.

Have a good cry when you need to, but don't let the 'it could have been me' hold you back from living.

Most of all, understand that she would have wanted you to be happy. She knew you loved her, regardless of what you never got to say.

Answer 2

I have lost many friends by the time I was 18. Some to fire, other to illnesses beyond their control. I am thankful for my faith in GOD because I know that I will see them again. My grandmothers' death was the worst and I still haven't gotten over it. I just think off all the fun we had and remember the good times. We all have to die and if you look at it as the end, then it's so sad. I pray that you will find a peace in knowing that we will all be united with our lost loved ones' and this life is not all there is. Good luck and GOD bless.

Answer 3

Hi sweetie, my situation is different to yours as mine was my nephew, she suddenly died in a car accident 6 years ago when she was 18yrs old. This came as a shock for all the family and it has been very hard. You have to accept she is gone, she is probably looking out for you from the kingdom of heaven. You have to be strong as life carries on. God Bless you.

Answer 4

i actually just had a friend pass away dec 12th and i just found out like 2 weeks ago. it was very hard to deal with. he died when the vehicle he was in crashed into a wall and caught on fire immediately. i cried for days and then i just realized that he cant come back and that he'll always be with me wherever i go. you can talk to her now anytime you want....thats what i do! I'm sorry about your loss and i hope you can get through this. Take care sweetheart.

Answer 5

I lost a friend at 5 years of age too. He was my idol. He died as a result of a car accident. I didn't go to his funeral either. As the years went by I would go to the cemetery and pay my respects to him. I know that helped me to let him go. You honor her. As I did him. Cherish the time you had with her. Find a way to pay your respect and let her go.

Answer 6

Try making a little memorial on a shelf. With pictures & candles & angels etc. Thats what I have in my home for my dad around his urn. Sorry for your loss. I hope this helps.

Answer 7

Sometimes time takes care of this. Because you have been dealing with this for a long time, I suggest to be counseled by a professional.

Answer 8

You never get over it. You just learn to deal with it. The pain fades over time. Just know that some day you and your friend will be together again. Rest assured that she will be one of the first to greet you when it's your time to pass over.

Answer 9

She would want you to live your life to the fullest!!! She till lives in your heart so you still have a piece of her right there in your heart. be happy knowing she is ok now. and she 's looking down on you every day. i no it hurts but it will fad. good luck

Answer 10

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