Acting cool with my husband...?

Question

This is a continuation of "Will acting cool make my husband want me more?" question I posted earlier.

Yes, I have tried talking to him. Beleive me! A lot.
Yes, I have made it very clear to him that I love him a lot
Yes, we live apart because he chose to take up a job in a different city right abt the time we were having a bad time.
I am taking the "cool" route because I have worried abt this so much, cried and fussed abt it so much, it bring me down and my parents along with me.
He seems to be trying to make things ok with me... he also said that he was still afraid of getting close because it means complicating his life. Some crazy logic.

Answer 1

Quit trying to act cool for him ! forget it. If he said that getting close to you means complicating his life, then something is very wrong. I can feel my blood pressure rising just thinking about that. You should be pissed off ! Why are you going nuts trying to be cool for him? There must be more that you arent sharing with us. He chose to take an apartment in a differant city, and doesnt want to get close with you again. Take the hint.

Answer 2

I was okay with the question until you said he was afraid to get close because it would complicate his life. You are married! It just might be time to let this one go. He seems to be not interested in anyone but himself. I am so sorry to say that. He moved away, you live apart, you have done everything humanly possible but he still won't commit. What does that tell you? File for divorce, see how that changes things. If it doesn't then find someone who will love and respect you. You cannot go on like this. It is wrong. I wish you the best of luck and remember to stay strong and positive. You did nothing wrong, it was him.

Answer 3

So you all are living seperately I assume because of occupational duty on your or his part. This is very hard and can be very dangerous to a relationship. Living seperatly can really show you what your relationship is made of. It's so easy to forget about the other person and shift your priorities when the person's not there to remind you . So, I'd say that the best thing to do is to have a serious talk with him. Let him know how you feel. A married couple should never resort to games. It only asks for trouble.

Answer 4

Two captain can never sail one ship, if your husband is hot and you are cool that is how it suppose to be. i cherish your desire of being cool and trying to exhibit good habits to him despite the fact that he is wrong. the problem is that he does not want to admit to his wrongs. even if he has taken a job outside the city, communication is the strong house to every relationship, hence he is not interested instead he is telling you that getting too close to you will mean complicating his life. Dear, there is something fishing, probably he is married to someone else. decide on what to do, issuing a divorce or separating from him is a personal decision. take care

Answer 5

You need to face the fact that your man has found someone else and is not coming back to you. He said that he was afraid of getting close because it means complicating his life. That is a man telling you that you are getting in the way of him and someone else being happy. Move on and find a man who doesn't cause you so much grief. Thank you and good luck.

Answer 6

sounds to me like you both need to grow up! Marriage is not a game where you act cold or hot. Marriage is a commitment to stand with another person Thur what ever life throws at you. You both are playing games of the heart the most dangerous kind because one or both of you are going to get hurt. I think the reason he said he was insure if he wanted to complicate his life with you is very obvious by the behavior that you are exhibiting right now!

Answer 7

Marriage is hard work, get busy!!! Being cool is soooo uncool...