I used to be a big party girl- until I found out I was pregnant. I automatically quit smoking and drinking and concentrated on the health of my new unborn child. People had no problems with it because after all I was pregnant.
While I have drank a few times after having the baby- I found that I dont like drinking. I dont like the way it makes me act, nor the way I feel in the morning. I will have a glass of wine at home once in a while- but I dotn get drunk.
People always try to get me to go out; and I tell them I dont want to go get drunk- and ask if we can do something else. Like go to the movies and they think IM boring now.I would rather stay home with my husband and child. Why do you need alcohol to have a good time? I learned that I dont. So what should I tell them when they ask me to go out, and they dont like I dont want to drink exuse?
2007-01-25 00:48:18 · 13 answers · asked by Tbay56 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I gave up booze 10 years ago. Hooray!
You are making very positive changes in your life. People who don't respect your choices about how to run your own life are not your friends. You need to find new friends, like other parents.
2007-01-25 00:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by sudonym x 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them taht you are a mom now, and the things have changed .You must be a serious person, now, with responsabilities , because of the child.I never drunk more then a half of glass of wine , but having a child of 9 , I cannot drink , it makes me feel difficult , If I drink a half of glass of wine .Fathers can drink since the world , but not too much , but a mother is a mother is the one who carried the child inside , she must always be ''awake'', and watch the child .Sometimes my child got fever in the middle of the night and it happened that God awaked me and see.What could happen if I was drunk?
So tell the people that you are a mom and you don't drink anymore, and that you preffere orange juice ...or a finger of beer with a grilled beefsteak, and that is all..And tell them that it is gorgeous to be a mom...I have other problem ...the problem that other parents don't use to educate their children .And my child is finely educated .For them ,it is enough that their children know ...math and others..like this.
2007-01-25 01:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can always go out and not drink and still have fun. I am not a drinker but have been know (in my going out days) to be the life of the party regardless the best part I remembered everything the next day. If you just want to stay at home and not go out with them at all just tell them you already had plans for that night (romantic evening with the hubby, or no baby sitter) Good luck!
2007-01-25 00:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go out with them wherever they want to go, and then just get something non-alcoholic. That's what I do. I don't drink very often, because I have a very sensitive stomach, and alcohol will usually make me ill. That doesn't stop me from going out, though. I'll just order a coke. OCCASIONALLY, I'll tell them that I'm not in the mood to go to a club or a bar, and I'd like to go out to dinner or to a movie instead.
2007-01-25 00:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them that you are not into the drinking thing anymore...and that if you DID go out...you would regret it tomorrow when your baby needs you! so...add a little humor...and tell them to go have fun! one day they will understand.( i suspect there may even be a touch a of envy in your new life....the drinking scene gets old, and eventually if we are healthy, we move on) in the meantime...make it a point to get together with them for other reasons...have them over to watch a movie, or go out to lunch.
the thing is...you life has changed and will NEVER be like it was before you had the baby. so...dont feel guilty. be a good friend but first and foremost be good to your family and yourself! :)
2007-01-25 00:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by dali333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still go out with your friends, just don't get drunk, have a soda or water. Then you'll have a lot of fun, because you can laugh at them when they get drunk. Or if you don't want to go out, tell them the truth even if they don't like it...they should be able to accept your answers if they are your friends.
2007-01-25 00:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jay's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!!!
There are too few of us around who have made that choice not to drink. Or even to prefer our spouse and kids over the bars.
There is no easy way of saying "no" to your friends. But if you do, it will pay off in a better life, longer, healthier, fuller life.
2007-01-25 00:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as you, except I obviously was never prego. I just don't like drinking anymore.
Do what makes you happy. Find a new circle of friends, there are plenty of people out there who think just like you.
2007-01-25 00:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by Stephen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people give you a hard time they are dumb. You shouldn't have to make excuses. Say I don't drink....then
I care about my body
I care about my soul
I don't want to turn into you with your full of stupidness
I'm the freekin designated driver you idiot
my friend just got a DUI and cost him 6grand
you could go on forever...but misery loves company and bars are full of miserable people.
2007-01-25 00:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by loujitsu1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have too drink if you don't want to, that is your personal choice... Just be honest and tell them the truth if they don't like it well too bad.... Good Friends will understand and not pressure you.... Good luck.
2007-01-25 01:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by J Lo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋