Hubby is very stressed about a work situtation. He's normally not one to stress, get worked up or upset unless it's something that is big. He is my rock. The one who calms me when things are overwhelming. Which is often. I'm the worrywart. So now my hubby needs me and I don't know how to be strong and be his support system. I end up in tears because it breaks my heart so much to hear him this way.
2007-01-25 00:48:14 · 11 answers · asked by fiestyredhead 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's touching that you love him so much. And that is your strength. Hang in there, keep listening to him, and let yourself cry if you have to, but hug him, kiss him, tell him you love him, tell him you will be there for him whenever he needs you, and tell him that you believe in him and in his ability to handle this stressful situation. That's what you can give him, and that kind of emotional support will make him feel better.
2007-01-25 00:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just change the environment within the home so that it is stress free. The work situation is something he has to do on his own unfortunately. If you have a priest that you can go to that will come to your home to talk to the both of you, that may be a help to strengthen you. Just be there for him and listen to him until things get better.
2007-01-25 08:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stop and listen. Ask him open ended questions and allow him to answer. Continue to flow of conversation with him. Just silently listen.
Also, try and preempt his needs and do small simple things for him. A note in his pants pocket (snuck in when he is not looking) saying "I love you" or a note on the steering wheel of his car "be safe, I need you"
Finally, think about what calms you down and do the same for him. Just be compassionate and considerate and be there for him.
2007-01-25 08:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by bluebettalady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him and be an ear he can talk to and you will listen and be a shoulder that he can lean on... Love and honor him through this hard time and you be his best friend through this. Trust me it will make you closer and your marriage stronger. Do not worry because this will make him stress out and worry anymore... You need to be a calm place he can come home to and his confident source. Trust me on this one as it works.
2007-01-25 10:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should spend a few minutes praying, together silently. Dont have to say what your praying about, dont ask each other, what did you pray? Just let it go, put yourselves in the hands of the spirit, and have faith. What will be, will be. A door may close, but a window will always open. Just look .
2007-01-25 08:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by Carlitos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you are a religous person or not but if it were me I would as God for the strength. I think the best way is to talk to your husband and asking him there is anything you can do and just let him know you are there if he needs you. Sometimes just hearing that helps a person a ton!
2007-01-25 08:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by itsjustme12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being weak and whiny. You've been babied so long you literally don't know how to function now! Take things into your own hands for a change and figure out what you can do for the both of you. You are a disgrace to women hood.
2007-01-25 08:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is what the promise of for better or worse promise comes to play,you need to sacrifice your own feelings to be strong for him and vice versa,you might be hurt everytime he confines something that bothers him but you have to show a brave face for him,crying is okay its the best emotional release,as long as your there when he needs a shoulder to cry on, or some one to talk to when he needs one, thats what count in a relationship
2007-01-25 08:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray. I will pray for you as well. Just listen to him. It sounds like you are trying adn when all is said and done, he will appreciate it. Just listen to him and give him a hug. Make things as least stressful as possible for him at home. Good luck to you.
2007-01-25 08:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by jrhod263 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you can be strong by believing in him & waiting 4 him to tell u problems,Listen to him 4 a change..........
2007-01-25 09:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋