where do you go from there?After being given the cold shoulder for 6 weeks I'm tired of it.I spend most of my time at work so I don't have to deal with his crap.I'm not apologizing and he won't let it go.Should I just leave?
2007-01-25 00:46:29 · 38 answers · asked by myobsessionisyoualways 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love him but I'm 27 and have the world at my feet.I'm not waiting around for anyone.
2007-01-25 00:50:10 · update #1
What I did has nothing to do with cheating.
2007-01-25 00:57:06 · update #2
I'm sorry to hear that you have zero respect for your husband. If you hurt him terribly, you should be sorry and promise never to do it again if he care about him at all. For his sake, I think that you should leave so that he can find a wife that will love and respect him. This will also give you the freedom to do what you want without putting him through anymore anguish.
2007-01-31 15:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are a selfish money grabbing low life... no matter how many times you re-word this question you will still be scum... you admit you married a millionaire in another answer, so a few days off work when your mother in law was KILLED in an accicent would not of dented your bank account... so you did not HAVE to stay at work to close a deal, you also admitted you stayed just because you wanted all the glory,,
you are selfish, self centred, evil, money grabbing and heartless
at 27 you may think you have the world at your feet... but in 50 years time you are going to be alot older, alot more twisted, alot more bitter and ALONE thankfully
you deserve NOTHING from anyone... grow up and get yourself some help for your selfish heartless cold evil ways
2007-02-01 10:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by merrpet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what this is all about but, from what I've just read, you sound like a very self-centred person! In my opinion, he deserves much better treatment then he is receiving right now.
I just read your previous question and I'm totally amazed at how cold you really are. If you change your attitude completely and be the loving, supportive wife that your husband needs and deserves, I'm sure your marriage will survive but having said that, you have shown no remorse and therefore, you really need to let this guy go so he can move on and find the love, loyalty and compassion he needs.
2007-01-25 00:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First thing i would do is be honest with him and tell him how I was feeling,,, If you really do not love him and cannot be sorry for what you have done then seek counseling and help for you and for the marriage. If you are never going to be sorry and change and would only hurt him again you need to look at yourself and see why you feel this way and are not wanting to change and be a better wife to and for him in this marriage. If you dont love him and want out then leave and let him start to move on with his life without you... I feel he deserves better then this kind of treatment.
2007-01-25 01:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well that is kind of hard to say, seeing as how you didn't say what ti was that you did that he is so angry about. If you had an affair, I would say that he is justified in his anger. If you went and got your nails done and didn't tell him first, he is acting pretty childish.
So given the wide range of "transgressions" that you may have committed, it is hard to give a good answer.
I can offer this though. The two of you, if you choose to stay together, need some counseling. This is no way to deal with a problem, and it definitely shows some immaturity on his part in dealing with problems. Again, depending on what happened, it may show some for you as well. The two of you need to find a way to communicate and work through problems if you plan to make a life together.
****After reading the other posts, I see what you have done. You don't feel sorry about that? You can't understand why he is upset? It is NOT him that is immature in this relationship. It is YOU. How would you feel if your one of your parents died and he didn't care enough to come home and support you through that?
You need the counseling. His anger is clearly warranted.
2007-01-25 00:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by Steve H 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You may be 27 but the world is at nobody's feet. If you can't compromise and see that he has feelings just like you then maybe he deserves better. You are obviously ashamed of what you did because you won't even tell strangers what it is he won't forgive. For better or worse, remember? Or was that just so you could have your pretty wedding. People need to REALLY grow up and start realizing that marriage is more than just a jazzy wedding, a pretty dress and a honeymoon.
2007-01-25 00:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should leave, but not because there is anything wrong with your husband.
I read your past questions. Your priority is yourself. You should not be married. When you are married, your priority, number one, is the strength of your marriage. You ignored that when your marriage needed your attention and instead focused purely on yourself and your career. Not only that, but you refuse to see why this was a problem.
The only reason your husband is still with you is because he either loves you or simply doesn't know how he would live without you. Unfortunately, you don't seem to love him and he already practically lives without you.
Go away. Stop asking your questions on here. Almost everyone here (and probably EVERYone who is married) thinks you are grossly in the wrong. 50,000,000 yahoo answers can't be wrong.
2007-01-25 01:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW ! That's a biggie, no matter what i felt about my mother in law (i love her by the way) I would be standing side by side with my husband, I would be sharing his pain, even if they told me at work i was out of a job if i didn't show up, i wouldn't think twice I'd be gone. I think you should stop directing your anger at him,he's dealing with enough emotional trauma, take a quiet moment to yourself and REALLY reflect on the situation, stop thinking of your own feelings for a min and place yourself in his shoes. Hes just lost the woman who brought him into the world and has been a part of it from that moment on,he needs comfort from the woman who's supposed to be part of his world now till his /her death.I think you have done him a great injustice in forsaking him at a time when he needs you most,and even if you intend leaving you still owe him sincere apologies.My heart goes out too him if he still loves you and you do decide too leave that's a whole lot of heartache to handle all at once.
2007-01-25 02:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by jennybuttins 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends what I have done, if it is something petty then he would eventually get over it. However, it is was something like cheating, kissing another man, flirting outrageously with another man, or something along those lines, and you really do not feel sorry for it then perhaps it would be time to go your separate ways. I am not judging but if you have cheated or betrayed the trust then I would not be expecting him to forgive you any time soon without an apology.
2007-01-25 00:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just sit him down and tell him that you love him but that you are not putting up with the treatment. It is making your life unhappy. Tell him how strongly you feel and say that if he cannot come to grips with what happened the marriage is over. If he knows how strongly you feel then it's up to him to decide if he can get over it or not and the consequences of his decision. Wish I knew what you did to make the guy angry for 6 weeks but then I'm very nosey
2007-01-29 16:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋