Wife spews out garbage when she’s upset. Almost like a psychotic episode. For instance last night she told me “When I married you I wanted all this out of life and you’re not giving it to me. I feel cheated. You’re very emotional abusive to me and play games. You need help or I’m going to leave you. I feel trapped and the only reason I’m staying is because I do love you and my daughter is glad to have a father now. I’m pretty numb and don’t feel like spending any time with you. I love you and wish you the best but if you want a divorce I don’t believe in it. You’ll have to do it but I don’t think this marriage is going to work out”. Come again???? Is this like pig latin girl’s used to use in middle school? I told her well how can you feel trapped? You can leave anytime you want if that’s how you feel. For some reason she can’t. If I felt that way, I’d be gone. After topping it all off, last night in bed she tried to get close to me and I was like “Um I really am pretty numb myself right now so I think it’s best you give me some space”. She said to me “See here you go again you’re playing games with me. It will never change!” Anybody live with a woman like this? Is she just plain crazy or is there some sort of diagnosis for this? My thinking….borderline personality disorder.
2007-01-25 00:44:21 · 8 answers · asked by golf4everdude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She sounds pretty confused. Maybe she is not really getting to the bottom to how she feels. You guys need to sit down and really really have a honest talk if you can't by yourself then maybe with a mediator. She sounds like she really has some things she needs to get off her mind, but that was just the mumbo jumbo coating.
2007-01-25 00:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by MamaLady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is doing this because she is upset and sometimes as humans we get upset and say things that we dont mean and never would say when we are calm... This is only human nature... See if she is open to counseling with you and maybe even anger mangament classes and alof of men do the same thing she does too. She is not crazy she is just emotional and upset when she says things like this... She may have a personality disorder ... Go to her doctor with her and have her tested for it... Please do not give up on her and the marriage. Try working on it and through this with her and love her where she is at. I wish you the best.
2007-01-25 09:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible your wife has some psychosis, but it seems to me that she is trying to communicate with you and you are not trying to understand her. You need to pay attention to what she MEANS not what she says. You need to care enough to really understand. Put aside the defensiveness and stow the disrespect permanently. You need to zero into why she feels you are being emotionally abusive and allow for the possibility that she is right. Start being a husband and stop trying to be a psychiatrist.
2007-01-25 08:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by sick-ovit-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite obviously we have only heard one side of the story - yours !!! You could be giving her very good reason to be reacting like this to you ! She said she loves you so she obviously does and maybe she does not feel that love reciprocated by you ? Who knows !? But if you are so unhappy why don't the 2 of you go together to see a therapist and you may just be surprised by what you learn !
2007-01-25 08:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Tequila Sheila SA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old is she? Sounds like menopause, which can start in the early 30's. She needs a doctor, but good luck with that one.
2007-01-25 08:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i want to ask how old you guys are.......but i can't get an answer.....but she kinda sounds IMMATURE to me, she may be the one playing with u, but also if u promise things to a woman that have to do with he "future happiness" Let me tell u, .....us women don't forget!!!! guys don't really care about shyt like dat./....(well, for their convenience, but anyway,......!!) if you really want things to work out....for you family's sake, the do some couple's counseling......if that doesn't work then unfortunately u guys are not meant to be together......unfortunately shyt like dat happens.....be there for your daughter no matter what.......she's most important here, if there's "hostility" between MOM & DAD....she's gonna feel it too.........and u want her to grow up in a safe and affectionate home, so that when SHE grws up, she can have positive relationships.........EVERYTHING THAT WE DO, REFLECTS ON OUR CHILDREN........godd luk, peace! one!
2007-01-25 09:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by piragua2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her into therapy, fast!
2007-01-25 08:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if i were you i would talk to her and encourage her to see a therapist
2007-01-25 08:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋