scared and too overprotective with my kids?

Question

my kids say im drowning them ive lost a nephew and niece to a house fire few years ago,and then in august lost another niece,she was hit by a car my heart is broken im so angry ,mad a god and cant get past it sometimes i think my family is cursed,i cant take no more loss,how can i lighten up on my kids but let them relize im just being a mom.im sooo angry and cant get past these deaths they were just babys

Answer 1

I would suggest seeking help you are in terrible pain from all your losses. Small wonder you smother your kids. Get yourself help and consider getting some help for your children.They are probably as traumatized as you are or worse

Answer 2

I'm very sorry for your losses. Losing loved ones is so hard. I don't believe there is such a thing as being to overprotective nowadays. Look at how things are in the world. Your kids are probably having a hard time with the losses too. Sit down and talk about all of your feelings with each other. Let them know what you're scared of. Always let them know how much you love them. When the time comes to give them some freedom, get them cell phones if you're able. To make yourself feel better, call them as often as you like. They'll understand. You'll feel better and they'll still have some freedom. I'm truly sorry for your losses. Don't blame God. God also gave you your children.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry for you. I can't imagine losing 3 children I love. Please don't be angry at God. He's the One holding those children close to Himself now. They will never have to suffer any pain or trauma ever again. Be angry at Satan. He's the prince of this world and he is the cause of so much of our suffering. It's what you do with your pain that determines your life's path.

It's totally understandable that you are overprotective of your kids. But remember, God is in control and you can only do so much as a mom. You can be wise and not let them play in the street, but ultimately they belong to God. You have been appointed their mom while they are on this earth and your job is to raise them the best way you know how.

My saving grace has been prayer. I'm having to let my own kids go a little more all the time. Two of them are teenagers and they want their independence. Someone once told me if we do our job right as parents, we'll work ourselves out of a job. In other words, we are supposed to help our children learn how to be independent and live on their own. It's not easy because it's like cutting off pieces of your heart.

May the Lord comfort you and bring you His peace.

Answer 4

I understand completely how you feel, believe it or not. I lost two children when I was younger(in my twenties, I am 45 now). The only child I had left had asthma, very sick, in and out of hospitals his entire life. I was very overprotective, and often upset him by it. I was also mad at God, and scared to death that I would lose him(my son), too. You cannot control destiny, just be sure to let your kids know you love them, and take care of them the best you can, while letting them live and grow.

Answer 5

You must first get over the god thing. If you believe in god, then you need to let go and have faith. I do not believe in it, so I must get through those types of horrible things without a crutch. Try reading Kahlil Gibran's "The Prophet". It may help. And here's a good quote for you...
"A ship in the harbor is safe, but that's not what ships were built for"

Answer 6

God is good . Life and death is in the power of your words and your spouse. I have 6 kids. Ages 18 to twins 3yrs. I speak no negatives to them or about them . I teach them . To obey me , if not there is a chance of injury or dead. I have no fear because you can harm your children with that believing. God doesn't have control .If he did, then everything would be perfect. If you think you have a curse , Say , remove this from my bloodline in the name Jesus, amen . I agree. GOD BLESS

Answer 7

Sometimes we take death 2 hard even though we know clearly tat we will also leave 1 day. Dont put your stress on your kids, its not healthy 4 all of u. Talk 2 your kids abt your stress if they r old enough 2 understand. If not, seek professional help.

Answer 8

i think of particularly circumstances it is ok to be keeping yet no longer for stupid little issues.... my son is two and a nil.5 and likes to be outdoors playing together with his pre college pals and that i dont techniques yet somebody issues he does has me scared like mountaineering on partitions and issues like that.... yet I also have a chum who's 3 12 months previous daughter isn't even allowed to play interior the returned backyard incase she falls or possibilities up grass stupid little issues like that yet on my sons 2d birthday i for my section observed how undesirable she became as her daughter became no longer allowed a marshmallow or a lollipop incase she chokd the undesirable lady became sitting there crying because of the fact the different babies have been having exciting eating sweeties..... from my attitude i presumed that became very unfair like she is almost 4

Answer 9

You are trying to deal with massive amounts of trauma due to grief alone. You can't do it and the anger you feel ... and rightly so . . . is coming out "sideways" i.e. projected onto your kids.

Take the cue from your kids saying they are drowining ... you are as well. See a professional and/or talk with a trusted, non-fundamentalist non-right-wing pastor.