Child adoption for gay couples?

Question

Haven't kids got enough on their plate negotiating the trials of life without getting adopted by a couple of gays. Is anyone thinking about the kids here and the psychological damage they could suffer as they go through school etc. just so gays can get their way?

P.S. I'm an athiest and I never even mentioned paedophiles, so why is religion and paedophilia being brought into it?

The_Truth: I used the word gay to encompass both, I haven't discriminated against women.

Answer 1

My own view is that evolution produced a parent unit that was fit for survival, it is composed of the the characteristics of one woman and one man. This split was a necessity of genetic evolution through sex.

I don't think it matters a jot, in the third millenium, who or what provides those beneficial characteristics, as long as they are available to the child.

Nowadays we like to think that we all aspire to a personality consisting of both male and female characteristics.

So let's stop thinking with our genitals.

Answer 2

I disagree. I'm heteosexual and my aunt is a lesbian and her and her partner raised my cousin just fine. He's now 34 yrs. old married with children and works and a personal trainer. He was never confused about his sexuality. Children needs good, loving homes. There is nothing wrong with a gay couple adopting children as long as they are ready to be parents. This world is filled with many kinds of people and I think it wonderful to learn that in a nurturing environment such as the one my cousin was raised in. I think your question is bigoted and without foundation. I have also gone to school with lots of kids who's parents were gay and no, no one teased them. They would receive no more psychological damage from being raised with a gay couple, than they would from someone who descriminating against a gay couple. Like um. . . .you!

Answer 3

Think of it this way:

There are more children available than couples willing to adopt.

Would you rather a child languish unloved with no one to care for him/her?

I know several couples of gays and lesbians who would make better parents than my spouse and I. Not to say we're unqualified, but you would understand.

Consider this: A lesbian couple is very unlikely to divorce. Put aside your notions that all lesbians or gay men have as stormy a relationship as Melissa Etheridge or Ellen DeGeneres. That is simply not the case.

But if it were, how often are heterosexual couples putting kids through the wringer when they divorce? Even adopted kids get wrung that way in a heterosexual divorce.

Children who are up for adoption just deserve a loving home. And a loving home MUST be better than a foster home or an orphanage. Don't you agree?

OPEN YOUR MIND SO YOUR EYES CAN SEE!

Answer 4

Again, the asker of the question assumes that you shouldn't expose kids to anything that might get them bullied at school. There's a three-pronged response to this, which is:

a) Kids shouldn't be bullied. If they are, then there are mechanisms in place for both child and parent to use.
b) Kids who bully other kids for having gay parents are what we term 'bigots' and are typically raised by 'older bigots.'
c) By your logic, disabled children should be excluded from schools because other children may be cruel to them.

So in answer to your question, you are a bigot.

Answer 5

To me it does seem a little bit desturbing but at the same time two guys could do a better parenting job than some parents in normal circumstances. However a member of my family is gay but i know that he doesnt even agree with it. so who know's.

Answer 6

If the religious business enterprise is working the provider, they have each and every top to elect the type of individual who is going to undertake the youngster, as long because of the fact the dad and mom giving up the youngster for adoption understand those standards. they might elect to offer the toddler to those with purely brown eyes, or particular religious ideals.

Answer 7

I can vaguely accept a couple of gay women bringing up children - after all, say what you like, at least it's in their very nature - but as for two gay men, then sorry, it's a definite no-no. Message ends!

Answer 8

No one cares about the rights of the children, or of their deceased parents. Maybe an easy way to decide this is to set up an adoption agency where people can WILL their children in the event of their death to be adopted by gays and leave all the other kids to be adopted as now; see how many kids get left with the unbalanced families.

Is this also the 'thin end of the wedge', they are more worried about the rights of queers to adopt kids than they are about the kids they are supposed to be looking out for! What is the next stage, the right of other discriminated sectors of communities to adopt......like paedophiles?

Change for the sake of change, not to make anything better for the poor children concerned. I'm not saying queers should not adopt, just that I would want my kids to go to a balanced family if my wife and I died.

Answer 9

Don't you think it would be worse to remain in care? There are not enough people adopting as it is, why reduce the number?

From your wording you seem to be opposed to a male-male couple but not to a female-female couple. Why is this?

Answer 10

Why should being adopted by a same-sex couple cause psychological damage?

There are many children who have been brought up by one of their natural parents and his or her same-sex partner. Are you also suggesting this is damaging to a child?