I have been dating my fiancé for 3, he loves me but I’m tired of the relation and don’t like him anymore, but my parents wont allow me my siblings don’t like my idea of breaking away from him
2007-01-25 00:37:07 · 29 answers · asked by elijah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's your life, your future. If you are not in love with this guy, DO NOT marry him!!
2007-01-25 00:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by finallyfree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not go ahead and marry him. I've been in a 11yr relationship and sometimes in longterm relationships you need space. Right now, you probaly need space from him, so you can have some time away to see if you miss this person thorn in your side. I think you would appreciate this great guy you have put 3yrs of your life into. And then, I think you will be ready for your lifetime commitment.
2007-01-25 08:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by nyoka m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take control of your life, cut off this relationship and move on. No one can live your life but yourself. Your fiance will thank you for it once he is over the hurt. Why spend money on a wedding when you are a unhappy bride, just because eveyone is telling you to stick with the relationship. He will find someone in the same way you will find someone more compatible with you and what makes you happy.
2007-01-25 08:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hell with what everyone else says ! They arent the ones that will have to live with him for the rest of your life. And if you do make the mistake of getting married, then its really going to suck, 6-10 yrs from now, when you finally decide to get divorced, or cheat on him, or he cheats on you, or you have children and now have to handle that on your own. Better to bail out now, while their isnt alot at stake. You already spent 3 good yrs of your life, you arent happy, why waste another 5 or more.
2007-01-25 08:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by Carlitos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if you are not happy! Tell him and walk away gracefully. If you marry him and not happy it is only going to lead to a quick divorce and why go through that when you really don't have too. Do not stress yourself out anymore beyond this engagement.
You family is not marrying him, have to sleep with him, have his children, clean his house, be his backbone etc. to him so this is not a decision that they have a right to say anything. B tru 2 u!!! Good luck and keep me posted!
2007-01-25 08:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 12 years of marriage I really don't like my husband anymore either. Once the love leaves than you should at least have contentment and at least LIKE the person you're with.
If you don't LIKE him anymore before you even get into the marriage, I wouldn't advise marrying him at all.
Separate for awhile and see if your feelings change.
2007-01-25 09:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing you dated for so long. No! You should definitely not marry him, especially to make your family happy. You are the one that has to spend the rest of your life with him; if you don't like him, it would be a miserable life. You only get one, and you might as well try to be happy!
2007-01-25 08:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by nessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the pressure here, but you will never be happy until you get away from him! What matters most is your happiness, not everyone elses. It is your life, your marriage, your choice. NEVER enter into such a commitment with someone you do not love whole heartedly! It will only end in divorce and that if nothing else can be expensive!!
2007-01-25 08:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by reneestoy1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT marry him! You don't need to put yourself into a situation that's bad from the beginning.
Your parents and/or siblings have nothing to say in the matter. This is between you and him.
2007-01-25 08:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him anymore, you shouldn't marry him. Things will just get worse in the future. Say you do marry him, have kids and then realise yoy want to break up. Your kids will be shocked and most likely feel very sad.
Do it now before it's too late.
2007-01-25 08:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by x-Cool Girl-x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant marry someone your not in love with and because your parents and sibling don't want you to. It's YOUR life and you have to live with your choices and if your not happy with him then break it off. Why waste your time and his. You can't live your life pleasing your family. Take control of your life.
2007-01-25 08:43:39 · answer #11 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋