My husband and I have been having problems for more than 5 months now. Things have improved since then but he still doesnt touch me and the fact that we live in different cities doesnt help either. But. it seems like he is trying. I have been pursueing him all along and made my love very clear to him. I want him to want me and that hasnt happened to me, yet.
So, I'm changing tactics and acting cool and letting him make the calls to me and being casual. Dont know how long I can keep this up. But do you think it could work?
2007-01-25 00:29:44 · 11 answers · asked by Doll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I think it could work, but I am afraid it won't. I wonder why he married you as it doesn't sound like he loves you. Why are you living in different cities - of course that doesn't help to put it mildly.
2007-01-25 00:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by sick-ovit-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you all are living seperately I assume because of occupational duty on your or his part. This is very hard and can be very dangerous to a relationship. Living seperatly can really show you what your relationship is made of. It's so easy to forget about the other person and shift your priorities when the person's not there to remind you . So, I'd say that the best thing to do is to have a serious talk with him. Let him know how you feel. A married couple should never resort to games. It only asks for trouble.
2007-01-25 00:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, your the only one who truly knows your husband. Most guys don't like playing games and it seems as though you are on the verge of playing one. If your husband isn't acting like a loving and devoting husband should (time and space doesn't matter), then its time for you to explain to him that either he makes an effort or its over. Seems to me that the distance between you guys is too much for him to handle. It may be time to see a therapist or even divorce. Just know that You are a wonderful women and you don't need to be chasing any man for any reasons. When a man is truly into you he'll do all the chasing himself.
Good luck and take care!
2007-01-25 00:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't touch you, and you live in different cities. Could the reason why he doesn't touch you be because you live in different cities? Unless his arms are several miles long, how COULD he touch you, if you live in different cities?!? People need touch and companionship. Acting "cool" will keep your husband emotionally distant. What you need is physical closeness. So, move back in together and start acting like you're married.
2007-01-25 00:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, act cool. Don't come on to him. And to keep yourself under control, just keep reminding yourself of the big pay-off. Most men want what they think they can't have. Simple as that. Don't be cold toward him, just don't pursue anything sexual with him. If he brings it up then just act like " eh, whatever " until he throws you on the bed and kisses you a few times. Then you can totally let go!
2007-01-25 00:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by Snow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe but I am one to shoot straight from the hip. I would spend a nice evening with him and tell him no playing games that you love him and want to know what is bothering him. Sometimes we go through dry spells that we just don't want to make love but we need to keep our partner posted. Last our heard mind reading is a Myth. Good Luck
2007-01-25 00:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can work. It did for me. He had kind of lost his libido and turned me down a lot. Once I turned him down a couple of times, instead of agreeing even when I wasn't in the mood just to make him happy, his libido went back up. I used to be one of those doting wives who daily pulled a double shift trying to work and prepare a woderful meal every night for my husband and do all the housework. We had all sorts of problems when I was like this. Then, I started saying stuff like, "I'm too tired to cook, how about a pizza?" "Leftovers tonight, I don't feel like cooking". "Let's fix our own suppers, I'm not cooking tonight". He cooks now on some of his days off, helps some with the housework and treats me with much more respect. Guys still like a little bit of a chase after they are married. Trying too hard to please them can be a turn-off.
2007-01-25 02:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can not say for sure.
You can try it but, make sure he knows you still care about him.
He could take this as your have turned off to him by acting a different way.
Good luck
2007-01-25 00:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because you are changing who you are which is never a permanent solution.
Living in different cities is usually too much of a strain on any marriage.
Best of luck.
2007-01-25 00:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
show him the real u, and if u act thats not gonna last long.
2007-01-25 00:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by kudos_009 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋