I've got monkeys on my back, you know like people trying to cop a free ride - general freeloaders!
2007-01-25 00:20:00 · 9 answers · asked by Stu 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
the amount of true friends that i have i can count on one hand.. and they tent to be people that i grew up with.. but i have many other people i like... i just know who are the ones who i could depend upon... there is no problem with knowing other people.. as long as you know where you stand.
2007-01-25 00:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had one particular friend who was just like you are talking about. She was a nightmare - always in trouble, always dumping her problems on other and somehow managing to make everyone else feel guilty about how things were going for her. For example, once she claimed she had money taken from her house. Two of us had spare keys to her house and although we clearly had nothing to do with it, she really made us feel very guilty about it. I never understood why apart from me, her other friends seemed to change constantly. Then I found out it was because she had borrowed money off most of them. As soon as they said yes and gave her cash, she was gone - she stuck around in my life because I'd not given her any money but she could use me in other ways. So, when the time came that she did ask me to lend her some cash, I gave it to her, even though I knew I'd never get it back and I'd never see her again. Sometimes you have to cut people loose, whatever it costs you short term. Now you do it...you'll be glad that you did.
2007-01-29 07:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kickinkitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you need to ditch the monkeys.
Once they have gone try to find new friends. Try to be a little more choosy with who you class as friends.
People in your life should be put into 4 different categories..
Family-Self explanatory
Friends-People who respect you enough not to freeload
Colleagues-people you associate work with
Acquittance's-People you meet outside of work
You need to put people you meet into categories. Think carefully before you categorise people.
Don't let people walk all over you in the future. If there being Monkeys put them in there place. Have respect for yourself.
2007-01-25 08:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break - vacation or long weekend - and disappear for awhile, if you can, and then think about what it is you want in your life and make up your mind to stop being an enabler and letting people use you.
You're better than that.
You deserve to be happy and you deserve respect, and there is no reason why you should give people the power to abuse you.
Trust in yourself and be strong.
Learn to say NO.
2007-01-25 08:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by ghostwriter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doooo know and it makes thoughts spin. When will it end???
Ok take one piece at a time..off load it using the brown envelope.
Return to sender if applicable, if not, deal with it.
Next peice, make sure your door locks fit well.
The car is in proper running order and insured. Get yourself and your needs into proper running order. You have gifts and skills for yourself use these. XX good luck
2007-01-25 13:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by jupiteress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey buddy,just relax!
You may not agree but all the people in this world just wants to be ahead and in this process he uses every means,whether right or wrong.People are different from what they really look like.Nowadays,everybody just try to fulfill his means that's all.Nobody is ur friend,no one is ur relative.Every body do it for their own.This is the reality of life.
So my advice is only that stop thinking about others and prefer your family's wishes.Just be happy and make them happy too.
And for a change,start Yoga!!!It's really very effective!
2007-01-25 08:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by rahul r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the free loaders and get your self some new mates babe...go out to some where new or go on holiday or something,just so you can meet new people and forget about the idiots!!!!!!!xxxxxxxx
2007-01-25 08:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separate yourself from them and tell them that you're retired from free loaders and now you're moving on to enjoy your own life and you wish them well.
2007-01-25 10:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut loose and start again and find genuine peolple to hang around with..
2007-01-25 08:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋