My fiance of two years and I share a car so I pick him up from work. Yesterday i got there a little early only to find him chasing a female co worker around slapping her on the ***. I am sure this is not the first time. I have been respectful to my man and don't go around getting my *** slapped by other men. Now when I ask him if there are lines that we don't cross with other people he wont answer except to say of course there are. I don't want an open relationship if he's gonna sleep with other people I would rather do the same but not be with him (guiltless sex). What is the answer here?
2007-01-24 23:43:48 · 11 answers · asked by newyorktilson 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey girl.. i don't think it's fair. He obviously doesn't give back the same respect you give him. And I've been in that kind of relationship and it rarely ends in a fairy tale. 100 % trust is needed in a couple. He tells you that there are lines not to be crossed but he crosses them. Sorry but if he feels like it's OK to slap some girls *** that's cause she's letting him do it. Now the question is " do you trust him? ". On the other side slapping a a*** doesn't mean he's sleeping with her but if they both feel comfortable enough about this situation, this is where you ask yourself the questions. What was her face like when he did slap ed her? Was she smiling? seemed upset? did she have a bad look on her face.? You deserve the respect that you give to him and him slapping that girl on the bum doesn't give the respect back to you.
2007-01-25 00:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may have been just kidding around, but, I don't think I'd like my husband doing that either. I would be really uncomfortable with that if I saw it. You obviously have some suspicions about your fiance. Have a serious talk with him about what you saw and what lines can or cannot be crossed. If you still don't get a satisfactory answer then I think you should call it quits with him.
2007-01-24 23:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by mjm52 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if his behavior is something you cannot tolerate you must tell him,,some women mind,some dont but to deny how you feel wont help you,,be honest about what you are prepared to take and let him know he is to expect the same from you,it was probably nothing but for this/these women it may be something and even though he may not mean anything by these actions they may come back to haunt him or worse,,cause trouble in your relationship,,if he wants you to be happy he will respect your wishes and to be honest ,it isnt too much to ask that he keeps him hands to himself,,,,,ask him bluntly if he knew you were watching would he have behaved the same,,if the answer is 'no' then he knows his actions are wrong,if however he says 'yes',,you and he are in for some tough talking.
2007-01-24 23:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So he says there are limits but has none?
C"mon, honey. You know the answer to this one. He's not being faithful or truthful with you. I would examine your life carefully before taking any kind of vows with this man. He won't change after marriage unless it's for the worse.
2007-01-24 23:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ande 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a 1 line answer wud be "Goodbye".... but to be honest, u may face difficulty in choosing wat to do.. aint it ? obviously havin a relationship for 2 years aint a joke... but Ms. , facts r facts.. there 'IS' obvious consent from his coworker to make him slap her ***... i dont think he wud like to see ur *** slapped by someone else... plus.. i think ur 'fiance' draws his lines way beyond urs...
Relationships r built upon Love & Trust.. the basic ingredients... when they dont exist, then wats the point in havin one at all...
hope u Good luck...
Adios
2007-01-25 00:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do women always jump to conclusions about men cheating?
Talk to him about the incident. If his answer is acceptable and you trust him, there is no problem. If you don't trust him, you shouldn't be engaged. If you don't like his answer, tell him to stop. If he doesn't, then you know what to do.
The answer in one word is: communication.
2007-01-24 23:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drive off and let him walk his *** home. He's got the energy for it.
2007-01-25 00:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy has is a cheater. i am so sure he has done something with that girl because why else would he feel comfortable sexually harrassing her at work. i say leave him and find someone who will treat u better.
2007-01-24 23:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider the open relationship!
2007-01-25 00:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure if i would say slapping some other chick on the *** is cheating... i definatly would be pissed if i saw my bf do that.. id probably be like wtf was that all about? and tell him i was upset..
but other than that i dont' think i would do much about it..
2007-01-24 23:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋