im not virgin and have been with my current bf for 6 months. cant work out y im rele comfy wit him. we have trouble getting it in and then its pain all the way. so frustrating.
2007-01-24 23:33:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
tried lube and a lot of foreplay but still didnt work. he is bigger than my previous but it also hurts when he takes it out.
2007-01-24 23:43:24 · update #1
completely comfy with my bf and we both love each ove. were both getting upset n frustrated with ourselves.weve tried many diff positions but we cant even get missionary right.
2007-01-24 23:53:16 · update #2
yea we can achieve orgasms with out penetration
2007-01-25 00:31:39 · update #3
You could be suffering from something called Vaginismus. Look it up or go to a sexual health clinic or GP.
2007-01-25 00:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Yasmin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think jaja remarks are along the right lines. I would also say that if you're doing something that hurts then stop doing it at least for a while. Maybe the worry of sex going wrong is now causing stress that leads to the problem. What you could try is giving each other orgasms through non penetrative activity such as massage and oral sex so that you get pleasure from each other without the pain. Only have penetrative sex again when it becomes irresistible and not when you're thinking "Well I suppose I'd better try and get it in but its going to hurt". Good luck.
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Well it seems like you've tried most things on the love making side. You say that you can have an orgasm without penetration. Can he enter you when you've just come? At one time my wife would only come during oral sex and then I would come inside her afterwards. To tell you the truth it was very shortly afterwards. Today we have a fabulous sex life and I'm happy for anyone who is having even half the fun that we are. Maybe there is a medical problem but its not possible to tell in a forum like this. Look at the various advice that every one has given you and see if anything looks helpful. It sounds from what you've said that you really love and care for each other so I expect you'll be able to work something out eventually.
2007-01-25 00:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by alan P 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are not sure if you are really comfy with him, then maybe your mind and body not letting you get excited enough to naturally lubricate. If this has not happened with a previous partner, maybe this is why, but I would be seeing a doctor, just to make sure there is no medical problem, we women can get lots of little problems that can make intercourse uncomfortable, and better to be sure that alls ok, as maybe frustrating as the trouble is, you shouldn't have continuous pain having sex.
2007-01-24 23:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by jaja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say whether the pain is vulval, vaginal or deeper inside, and lube will not help all of these. There are a lot of things that can cause sex to be painful, and it can be painful in all of these places. If you're not sure then go and see your doctor because it can be a symptom of an underlying problem.
2007-01-25 00:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by greenbean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u r upset somewhere deep inside,or u guys are not making it out the way u think abt 'it' in ur fantasies!!
It is not only physical but emotional too ,try to talk it out with ur bf the way u like to cuddled or kissed or the way u want to make love.Enjoy urself and have protected sex.
2007-01-24 23:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by mrs A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, virtually each and every woman is going by this whilst this is there first time. i comprehend i did and harm besides too. i actually cried myself too because of the fact it harm lots. It took me three times to experience happy with the sensation of intercourse. It hurts because of the fact this is a muscle that hasn't been used and now this is been got here upon. like each and every muscle that hasn't been used it takes somewhat for it to experience ok whilst this is been used. i advise maybe doing some greater foreplay next time. i'm hoping this helped.
2016-11-01 05:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by arrocha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, if you've tried plenty of foreplay and extra lubricant perhaps you should think about getting checked out with your dr? There could be any number of other things causing your prob. Most dr surgeries have a woman dr who you can specifically request these days.
2007-01-24 23:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by serephina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U said u had sex before with ur last bf's. And this time u said it hurts, well the asnwer is ur recent bf has a big "****" and don't worry u'll be used on it after many attempts. Is my answer correct?
2007-01-24 23:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by petty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try it somewhere you are more relaxed. I had this problem with an ex-gf and went tried it at different places and eventually it worked out....try letting him finger you for a while so your vagina expands a little bit then try sex...
2007-01-24 23:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by eonetiller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try using some lube. Sounds like you are too dry.
2007-01-24 23:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by OriginalBubble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋