my boyfriends dad keeps trying to kiss and touch me when we are alone?

Question

I have slapped him around the face told him to leave me alone but he just laughs at me.
If I tell my dad he will go mad and probably hurt him .

Should I tell him??
I am 17

Answer 1

LISTEN TO ME!!! YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR DAD!!! THIS ISN'T RIGHT!!! IF YOU DON'T TELL YOUR DAD THEN YOU NEED TO REPORT IT TO YOUR LOCAL POLICE!!!!

Answer 2

I would break up with your boyfriend and seek another one. If his Dad has such a strong attraction to you then he probably won't leave you alone even after you and your boyfriend get married. Even if he did stop trying to touch you or kiss you he would still maintain his lustful thoughts about you. Would you really want that? As far as telling someone, I wouldn't. This will only provoke anger with other people possibly getting hurt. Had he gotten any further with his behavior, perhaps I would get the police involved. But do not tell your boyfriend or your father. It will only cause grief. You might want to check with your boyfriends past girlfriends to see if they had any similar experiences. It could be that he is much more than a dirty old man. I hope you will heed my advice. Good luck.

Answer 3

This man sounds like a pervert. I don't know how serious you and your boyfriend are but I would probably stop seeing him because if you guys start having kids then Grandpa sounds like he might abuse them. Get away from the situation, talk to your dad and tell him that you want to report it to the police and child welfare. Listen to me, make sure someone that can keep your dad calm is with you when you talk to him because you don't want him to get in a fight with this bozo and go to jail! The authorities will handle it and there will be a record on him in case of any future incidents. I'm sorry that you have had this experience but be proud that you are going to make sure that he won't scare or hurt anyone else and that he will get help.

Answer 4

Well first of graduations for having a great relationship. Okay so I think that maybe you should invite your boyfriend over to your house with your parents permission. Then introduce him to your parents i am pretty sure your mom wont mind because it seems like she wants you to get a boyfriend. Then later on when he leaves depending on how everything went you can tell them your going out with him if it went bad you should just let them know you like him and they might just start to accept it. I'm sure if you tell your sister and brother about it they wont make a big deal about it or they do you can bargain with them so they wont tell on you that way in school you guys can hug and flirt and kiss and do what you want. I am also very glad that you to are not thinking of having sex you should really wait into you are truly ready for that. Well I hope this helped and I hope everything works out for you two. Take care and good luck.

Answer 5

Well, it looks like it is agreed that you should tell someone. What about your boyfriend? Is the pervert married? If so, perhaps you should tell both the boyfriend and his mother. I don't know if what he has done so far is illegal, but perhaps you should ask the police. In the meanwhile, stay away from the father, never be where you two are alone.

Answer 6

Do not be alone with this man.

Sadly you are considered to be just out with the "age of consent" median so you are classed as a woman able to consent to sexual advances from older adults.

Slapping him is not the answer. Besides which he could, if he were so inclined, make something of it. Assault. As you are of an age. Well- I assume that you are in the West where the median for AoC is 14-16...?

Advising him that you do not wish for his advances would have been your only avenue but now that it has gone too far you must avoid being in the same room with him to avoid a repeat.

Having said all that I am a woman and I remember those type of advances at your age. Looking back on them now I felt incredibly vulnerable because, just because someone says you are "of age" doesn't mean that you FEEL differently about the "parent" of a peer (whether your boyfriend or any friend) and his behaviour toward you.

Had it been me, I would have told my parents. Probably my mother as she is my confidante and sort of "guru" in the ways of women. She would have discussed it with my dad and whatever action they took would have had to be alright with me.

As a PARENT of a 15 year old girl I would like her to tell me if something like that ever happened to her. And I would also tell her dad. And her dad would kill the man concerned. :-P Sorry- I am being flip here. I do not mean to be- what I am saying is that your parents are your family and they love you. They are not going to do anything someone who hurts you doesn't deserve.

You see- whatever happens to this man it is NOT YOUR fault!

Remember this as the KEY issue here: NOTHING to do with this is YOUR FAULT.

What he has coming to him will come to him.

As they say: "What goes around, comes around."

Do not consider keeping quiet either- right action is called for and taking advantage of you, his son's "girlfriend", 17 years of age when you have asked him to desist is wrong on very many levels in our society.

So- talk to one or both of your parents at once. Sit them down and ask them to CONSIDER YOUR FEELINGS about how they handle it as well.

You are an adult now (welcome to the responsible world of Maturity and do not despair- not all fathers are ogres!) and you need to be heard as well.

And because you are an adult you have rights. The right to choose who touches you (well you had that right anyway!) and to be considered in any action about this concern of yours.

Please let us know how you fare!

Very concernedly,

A Parent

Answer 7

Yes, you definitely should tell your own father, and your boyfriend, and the police, as this is unwanted sexual attention from your boyfriend's father. That man doesn't believe you will make trouble, so go and make plenty of it for him, and don't let anyone tell you it's not worth getting into - if it stops him molesting other young girls, it's very much worth getting into.

Mind yourself, stay strong.

Answer 8

Yes. There is no reason to hide this - your boyfriend's dad is completely at fault here and needs to be stopped before he does anything worse. However, when you tell your dad, tell him you want to report him to the police, and that he mustn't go and hurt this bloke, otherwise he'll just end up in jail as well.

Either way, tell or don't, your relationship with your boyfriend has to end. You can choose to just stay away, if you like.

Answer 9

You need to tell someone immediately, your dad and your boyfriend. One day he just may not stop.

Tell your bf as well, so if for any reason you and him are no longer together, another girl will not be subjected to the same thing.

Answer 10

tell ur dad then tell ur boyfriend this is not on who does he think he is u r his sons GF he needs to know the boundries but i feel if u just tell ur BF then he,ll prob beleive his dad over u his dad could make up a whole story to make him look innoccent at least if u tell ur dad and family then u have the s,port of them and lets face it if u came on to him u would,nt go running to ur family and BF trying to make him the bad 1 u prob just be shame faced so keep ur head up tall and tell the world what a creep this man seems to be

Answer 11

Of course tell your dad but have you told your boyfriend? That too is a must if he trusts you he will know you are telling the truth.