5 month old jus started daycare!?

Question

jus wondering how much everyone pays for daycare. we are paying $125 a week. is that to much. she said its the best one in town and my daughter has been on the waiting list for 4 month. i didnt know daycare was that much....oh her first day was monday, and when i went to pick her up that evening, i went in the room and she was in the swing, she looked up at me looked back down., looked back up at me and almost jumped out of the swing. she was so excited and happy to see me. that jus made my day. thought i would share, she is my first child, never thought being a father would bring so much joy, never been any happier

Answer 1

It is amazing and wonderful being a parent!

The costs of day care will be huge, because when children under one year old experience more than 10 hours of separation a week from mommy, there are profound damages done to a child's social, emotional, intellectual, and physical health.

In fact, the latest round of NICHD studies show that dads get more disapproving of kids who enter care under one year of age, moms get detached, the baby's bond to mommy is disrupted, school problems start which will last up to 12 years of your precious daughter's schooling, the child becomes more aggressive, and the famil unity is weakened.

A human infant needs to be held almost all day - brain cell connections only form when an infant is held! An infant apart from mommy - this is medical research by Perry - has a brain awash with the stress hormone cortisol (Being away from mommy is an evolutionary danger alert situation!) which is devastating to the infant brain - your daughter will be at huge risk for depression and anxiety, plus research has found she'll likely find it very hard to cope with stress as an adult.

Also, the first year of a baby's life is when she forms her attitudes about life and trust. All day long in day care, she will want mommy and not have her. Your child will learn from this that no matter her efforts, she cannot get mommy to stay with her. She will learn helplessness. She will learn that mommy wants her to feel this bad. She will learn that mommy cannot be trusted, because when she wants mommy, mommy isn't there.

This is a terrible price to pay for day care, and the saddest part is - your daughter pays this price.

BTW, our sons recently performed plays at a series of day care centers - high class expensive day care centers. And it was appalling to see how the little children clump together, cling to each other in desparation. To see the kids constantly pulled from an activity they like to something the teacher has on her schedule.

The worst part was when the play finally started, I was standing next to a stack of papers. When I looked down at them, I saw they were a stack of the reports given to parents on what the child had done all day. And guess what - before the play started! the reports already said that the child had seen and loved the play!!!!!!

So, the loving reports of what the kids do all day are likely frauds. Like the whole notion of substitute mothers.

Answer 2

I pay $18.50 a day and my son goes 3 days a week ($55.50). I think cost has a lot to do with your location; it doesn't seem like too much to me. I do feel your pain with expense but it's just the beginning of a long stream of expenses from here on out. There are only two daycares in my town and this one is the best of the two. I had to enroll my son last November and we had to wait until mid-January to get in. The other daycare was the same way.

Yesterday was my son's first day. Like you I came in and my son was sitting in his swing. He's not one for getting overly excited but I am pretty sure he was happy to be going home.

Congratulations on your little one and good luck with daycare.

Answer 3

Sounds good for a daycare! I pay my regular sitter $20 a day ($100 a week) for watching my daughter in her home, full time. The local daycare was $32 a day for toddler, just went up to $34! (Infants were $35, probably a bit higher now, too.) I think it's a bit much, the only difference from my sitter is that they provide all food at daycare for my daughter, whereas I try to provide most for my sitter. The amount you are paying sounds reasonable to me for a regular daycare facility - especially for infant age.

Answer 4

Your lucky I pay $180 a week. Some of the other ones we looked at were around $220-$240 a week and those were not the best ones either. We found ours and like it, the teacher is a nurse so that makes us feel a little better. I hate having to leave her there though. I feel like I never get to see her enough. My little one is 3 1/2 months old. My first child to.

Answer 5

Hi I know the feeling. It depends on where you live. I pay $135 a week. The center I checked out ranged from $180 and week and the lowest was $100 a week. There was a center near the hospital that was $300+ a week. High rates for doctors I guess. I opted for someone at my husbands church. I had to put my daughter in at 10 weeks. Yes that broke my heart. When I pick her up in the afternoon she get soo excited and that is the best part of my day. She states at me and smiles. I wish I could stay home but I am happy to know I have her somewhere that really cares for her and spends quality time with her. I get daily reports on how her day went, her activities, it she coo's, number of diaper changing, number of bowels movement and the consistency of each and her temperament through the day in writing but they usually tell me when I pick her up. I try to visit her on my lunch as often as possible to feed her. They practically hold her most of the day. I am really happy with them. You can never put a price on what you pay in daycare. Never let price but quality be your motivating factor. As long as you placed her in a facility you like and feel will give your daughter the BEST care then tell yourself it is ONLY money. You will get some more. lol ...Congratulations on your bundle of joy. Nice to see some proud papa's out there. My husband is crazy about his little girl as well.

Answer 6

Sounds quite cheap. I pay $65 day & that is standard rate around here..

Answer 7

Simply check out the going rates in your area using http://www.daycarebear.com and you'll be able to better negociate the price you pay next time.

Answer 8

I think that sounds reasonable to pay. But your child is sooo little it breaks my heart that you have to leave her,although I do understand financial commitments make you have to work.