my parents beat me and would probebly make me aport but i mean its not he's or her falt it's mine and the dads falt!
2007-01-24 23:04:38 · 16 answers · asked by amy a 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Being beaten is terrible I feel for you i really do 14 is very young to fall pregnant but these things happen if your parents will be abusive to you then it not worth risking the health of your un born baby!! where are you staying at the moment are you safe!!
No one can make you have an abortion thats entirley up to you!
if you need a chat drop me a line at pledgesophie@yahoo.com
Babys change everything and supporting that baby is the most important thing now... but maybe your folks wont react the way you think they will!! Good luck :)
2007-01-24 23:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by sophia1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Amy. You don't give enough information for me to be able to give really good advice. I will try though.
You ask "should I go home?" does that mean that you are not currently living at home? If you are in a safe place and you are being abused at home then it is possible that you should stay where you are. Much depends on the answer to that question.
If your parents actually "beat you" and if you are actually afraid of what will happen if you go home then it is not the best thing to do. If you are not in a stable place now you should contact Child Protective Services and talk to someone. If you don't want to do that for your sake then do it for your baby. Your baby needs YOU to be in a safe place.
You sound as if you do not want to have an abortion. If that is the way you feel, even at 14, no one has the legal right to force you to do so and there are people who will protect your right to carry your baby to term. No one at CPS will force you to abort your baby.
Much also depends on how far along you are. Have you had your pregnancy confirmed by a doctor? Have you had any prenatal care? At your age prenatal care is very, very important and you need to see a doctor as soon as you can. In the meantime, do not smoke, drink or do any drugs, even legal ones.
There are social service agencies that exist just to help someone in your situation. They are only an 800 phone call away. Make it clear to whoever you speak to that the environment at home is not safe. If you do not make that clear they might unknowingly try to get you home without realizing that it is not a good place for you.
Please do call and talk to someone. You have options, you can live somewhere else during your pregnancy. There are adoptive parents that would be willing to take care of you during your pregnancy if that is what you want.
Keep your chin up and hang in there. Make some phone calls. You do not have to go home if you are afraid. Then again maybe if someone else talks to your parents they might not react the way you think they will. If they have abused you in the past you do not have to go there.
Feel free to write to me if I can help.
Blessings to you
Lady Trinity~
2007-01-24 23:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
if they would harm one hair on your head or any other part of your body you need to find someplace else to go!!!!!!!!!!
talk with your teachers or guidance consular at school they can find you a safe place to be where you can finish school and have your baby if that's what you want to do, if your parents would beat you then they have no place telling you what to do with the baby!! and weather or not you have a abortion you don't belong in a place where you have to fear physical punishment for things you have done, (the only justifiable reason to hurt another person is if they are about to hurt themselves or others!!!)if you need help finding help email me and I can do some research to find some safe places for you. I know in this aria there is the Shaw House and Manna's Kitchen that are always willing to help people out when they are in trouble
2007-01-24 23:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your parents beat you then hell no you shouldn't go home. But since you are a minor you do need to go to the cops or call Cps on them or something. Especially if you have any siblings that could also be in danger. Hope everything goes okay for you, sweetie.
2007-01-24 23:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by Texas Chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it may be hard but its your choice to keep the baby. if they try hurting you or forcing you i would leave congrats and best of luck. it a wonderful experiance. i recommend that every women expierances a child but i do say this its alot of work and cut your sleep time in half, even 1/3 sometimes...i wouldnt go home in your situation...ITS NOT YOUR FAULT. dont blame yourself.. the baby part yes but getting hit no
2007-01-24 23:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by miraclebaby_2006 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, go to social services...or better yet..go to the policwe station, explain the whole situation and that you WILL NOT have an abortion and that you have no safe refuge. They will help you out and do so legally. You should also qualify for gov't ***'t with your baby so you aren't all alone
2007-01-24 23:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by fade_this_rally 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
YES it is yours as well as the father's fault. BUT you were BOTH BIG enough to take on this task (SEX). So now be big enough to step up and take care of business. I do believe that you should go home and fess up. I myself do NOT believe in abortion, but this is not my place to have a say. BUT I do think your parents should have a say as it will be them supporting this baby as you yourself are still a baby and are not able to provide for this baby. Sorry. I do wish you the very best of luck in your situation.
2007-01-24 23:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes you should go home - you will need your parents to help you and your newborn child. To be blunt, at 14 you do not have the needed resources to take care of a new life.
Additional thoughts -
You know your family situation better than anyone else, it would be best if you had the support of your parents but if the situation between you and them make this impossible then you should seek outside help (Social services, Teen Pregnancy Groups, etc). Some parents would put their differences aside to help their own child, others on the other hand may react completely out of scale and make the situation worse.
Don't risk your health and that of the baby, but if at all possible you should still try to have your parents involved and seek their help.
2007-01-24 23:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Sabrina S 2 · 1⤊ 6⤋
Social services would come with you to talk to your parents in order to prevent any physical abuse and rage. Therefore, definitely get their help.
Also, considering your age and how little you know about life and how much you have to learn and live, i would suggest abortion right away but the decision is yours.
Good luck....
2007-01-24 23:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by Incognito 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
She is 14 people! 14!!! How on earth could she have a baby that young?? Sure being a mother is a wonderful thing but so is having a childhood!
Are you all that bloody thick?
2007-01-25 00:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by Blue 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋