I've been married for a year now and have decided to not only keep my name but also keep the fact I'm married a secret (take off the ring)from work colleages in my office because the guys there a lot more willing to go out of their way for me if they think they've got a shot.My husband had a issue with it but he let it go.Now he's asking me to cut down on work hours because he says he misses me.How dare he try to interfere in my work life.What right does he have?
2007-01-24 22:55:46 · 25 answers · asked by Madison 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People like you shouldn't be married. Seriously.
Poor husband.
2007-01-24 23:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His problem my dear, is you.
He married a ,woman who cannot be bothered to act like she is.
Follow Up, I read your other questions and can only ask, Can you really be so shallow and selfish? These questions are invented aren't they. No one can be such a heartless golddigger to a guy who actually loves and cares for them can they?
Look here honey, trust is earned not given " just because". You have not earned much. In fact your boorish behavior has probably destroyed what trust you had. Are you looking forward to the day husband has had enough and throws your butt out so you can get his money?
2007-01-25 07:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are going down a deep dark path. Put that ring back on and be true to those men at work. You are married. Your husband has a right to expect you to respect him and your vows.
For as much as you don't like to hear this, you are wrong by treating him this way. He doesn't own you, but he is your husband. Treat him lovingly or give him up for someone else who can give him what he deserves.
2007-01-25 07:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by ME 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why exactly did you get married in the first place? He probably still has a problem with you being a flirt to get your way, he's just making up a different excuse to keep you away from work. Sounds like you have some commitment issues.
2007-01-25 07:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He has the right because he's your husband, and you made certain promises to him when you wed him. He probably thinks(knows, in my opinion; you sound like a tart) that you will take advantage of his generosity thus far to get some on the side. Be faithful(including wearing your ring) or be gone, tart.People like you should not only not be married, but SHOULD be drawn and quartered.
2007-01-25 07:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I would be upset if my husband was at work and not wearing his ring around other woman. He and I are proud of our marriage and each other. Work is 2nd to one another, we decided on that even before we got married. What is more important then the man who your supposed to be with for life?
2007-01-25 08:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by Ann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lets see. id ont think its him who has a problem. more like u. one he got married to u for a reason that being he loves u, n im guessin coz u love him. so wouldnt u want to show everyone u have the best man eva. two. u shouldnt lead ppl on especially by lettin gettin them to do favours for u coz ur a chick n they think they could get u, thats giving the rest of us chicks a bad name. u should be makin ur own way up in the workplace not using ppl. three. ur hubby does have the right to interfer wit ur work. maybe he really does miss u. honestly this realtionship wont last long n i dont think ur hubby should have to put up wit such crap. u neec counsellin or sumthing.
2007-01-25 07:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by MiSsY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is his problem?
I guess he just feels insecure that his wife isn't proud as punch to be his wife. If it were me, and my husband acted like a single guy to "get ahead" (no pun intended) in the office I'd be pretty bummed.
What right does he have?
Isn't he your husband and he misses you. While being a husband doesn't give him the right to control, surely it gives him the right to have his feelings taken into account. He misses you!
Seems silly to go to the trouble of getting married if you want to spend the rest of your life struggling to appear single. What's the point?
2007-01-25 07:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by SnowBunny 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
im recently married and there is no way i would hide the fact. i would expect my husband to comment on my work if i was doing what you are doing, he does have a right. i really think you should talk to him and tell him y you are hiding the fact that you are married. why dont you think about him and how he must be feeling
2007-01-29 04:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by donna c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has every right he is your husband.
You should wear your ring & stop trying to play games at the office & with your husband's feelings.
As a woman you are making us look bad trying to get an easier ride at work by displaying yourself as available to get attention, help, favoritism etc..Grow up
2007-01-25 07:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has a lot of rights to his feelings. He is your husband and has made a lifelong commitment to you. He has issues with being devalued as you appear single to the guys at work and then wonder why your loving husband feels insecure. I personally think your marriage is doomed as you went into it with such shallow values.
2007-01-25 07:03:09 · answer #11 · answered by friendly face 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋