I have recently broke off a 6 yr relationship with my childs father b/c of his irresponsible behavior, lack of financial contribution to the household, marijuana smoking, and mental abuse (physical once). I was open and honest that I no longer wanted to be with him and that I was seeing someone else. Financially he cannot afford to go immediatly and I wonder if ever. Lately he is verbaly abusive ex and threatens to punch the new guy, being overly nice, showing up on my job to ask (stupid) questions, trying to go everwhere I go. I reinforced I no longer wanted to be with him, but he says while he is here he is going to prove his love for me by doing all the things he should have done. I have been thinking of getting a restrainging order. I know it gives me temp custody of our child, and forces him to move out, and no contact. However since there is no outright violence will i be able to get one. My name is on the lease, I have kids, and I don't see him leaving willing soon.
2007-01-24 22:54:13 · 4 answers · asked by nene 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
First. I am sorry you find yourself in this situation, and it will probably get worse before it gets better, but IT WILL GET BETTER as long as you stick to your guns and don't back down.
The first thing you need to do, is protect yourself and your child (children) by getting out of the apartment NOW. He has been physically abusive before, and might do it again. If you want to pack up his things and tell him to get out, you have the legal right to do it. Your name is on the lease so it is your apartment, not his. However, if you are worried about physical abuse, this IS NOT the best way to go. This will cause a direct confrontation and should only be done if police are present to help you enforce his removal. You best bet, is to talk to the lease holder (whoever you are renting from) and ask them if you can get out of your lease, and explain why.
Step 2: If you are living in a new place, and the ex shows up there, or at work, Get A Retraining Order! This behavior is NOT love, it is STALKING, and it is illegal.
Alternative step 1-A: If you feel that he is harassing you at work now, tell your boss that your ex is harassing you (don't keep people in the dark, you MUST tell them that he is harassing you!). Then the next time he comes in to bother you, call the police and get a report on record. This will help with the restraining order later.
Whatever you do, get away from this guy as quickly as possible. Pack your things and get out!
2007-01-24 23:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by Yo, Teach! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
. Ask him to leave as your are the legal holder of the lease .He has no claim on the property because you are the tenant,he was only the lodger.I am sure you could do something of this nature but it would be expensive ,stand your ground involve the law if you have to.Report him to the authorities if he is still consuming or smoking substances.
2007-01-25 07:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a battered women's shelter in your community or a women's advocacy group? Go to them, they will walk you through the process of getting this guy out of your home and life.
2007-01-25 08:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"simply", yes you can.
2007-01-25 07:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋