i've hadto talk care about myself at a young age so i think i can handile it pretty well.!
2007-01-24 22:48:46 · 23 answers · asked by amy a 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Adoption will make some couple who cannot conceive very happy and you could pick who adopts. You may be able to handle it, but financially it will be very difficult, unless you have a large support network of friends, my guess is most your friends are in school.
2007-01-24 22:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mt ~^^~~^^~ 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I have heard many people regret that they got an abortion down the road but if you place the baby for adoption and have a great relationship with the adoptive family then when you are ready to meet your child or get pictures and letters the child will be there. The child shouldn't have to pay with its life when you could choose adoption. I know it can be tough, my cousin had an abortion and she has been depressed about it for over a year. I hope ya make the right decision. Good Luck :-)
This is our story :-) We are hoping to adopt a child of any race or gender, infant to 10 years old
http://www.ourjourneytoadoption.blogspot.com/
http://www.ourjourneytoadoption.blogspot.com/
2007-01-27 21:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by stitch604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you are feeling. I am a young mother myself and faced the same questions. You need to look at all the facts. If you think that you can handle it most likely you can. I will tell you one thing about keeping baby, you will mature very fast and you may look at your friends (and fellow school mates if you are still in school) as inmature. This is one disadvantage of keeping baby. But you need to look at how you may feel in the future if you don't keep baby. Personaly I would have regreted it till i died. There is also a chance with having abortions that the lining of your uterus could be scarred. With every abortion the chance of miscarriage in future pregnacies increases. You also need to look at how you will meet your needs and the baby's needs. You also need to consider the father. He may say he will stick around but in all my experiance ( i went to a school for young moms) they don't stick around. cover you butt with that one. Get an agreement in writting so if the worst does happen you are prepared. Remember the saying Plan for the worst and hope for the Best. This type of decisions requires thought and the ability to listen to your heart. The most important thing is to NOT allow anyone to infulance you decision as YOU are the one you has to live with it. This includes parents and boyfriends. Also take everything with a grain of salt, alot of the things you will hear are not true and are just ment to influence you decisions.
best of luck
2007-01-25 18:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh christ.
Listen, dont ask anyone whats best for you. Just because some people are so opposed to abortion they think you have to carry a baby around for 9 months, put your body through living hell and then get rid of it?
I'd like to see them do it.
What people dont understand is just how hard pregnancy is on a womans body. You gain weight, your stomach stretches, your feet swell, your breasts leak, youre moody, irrational, when you give birth, you can tear apart your sex organs. Do you know what an anal fissure is? Its when your butt hole rips. Your vagina can do the same thing. That, and giving birth is the most painful experience ever. And, youre going to poop in front of your doctor.
Do you REALLY want to do all of this to yourself? I'm not saying abortion is the answer, but dont you think that if you do put yourself through this, you might as well TRY to raise the child?
And the whole thing about "couples not having enough babies to adopt "? Also not true.
Over population is destroying this planet. Not global warming. Not pollution. Over population.
40, 000 children (full grown live children) die every day. Our wild life reserves are rapidly declining. We are over capacity, and it is literally destroying the earth.
Who cares about peoples moral, religious objections?
The hard truth is that having a baby contributes to the problems in the world. Theres plenty of kids up for adoption, it just takes a long time to go through it. A child WILL destroy your body. And, most importantly, youre not ready, If you were ready, you wouldnt ask anyone else.
In the end, dont listen to me. Dont listen to a single other person. Its your body. You can do what you want with it, and no one will think any less of you.
2007-01-25 07:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by mettophobic 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
hi, i would personally give the baby up for adoption. if you don't think you could raise the child yourself, then there are a lot of people out there that would be able to give your baby a great life. i don't think abortion is the best route to go. this should be a last resort only if there is something wrong with your baby that would seriously affect it's quality of life. the most important hing you need to do is find some help. this is a hard decision to make alone and you need support, be it from friends, doctors or family - (if you have any). i wish you all the best of luck. maria X
2007-01-25 07:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by frost7216 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Only YOU can answer the question. Some very serious questions to answer: can you give it up once you have it (think about it), might you always wonder where he/she is afterwards? No going back into someones life easily. The father has to consent too you know. He could still go to jail for underage sex.
The threats of going to hell and all..forget them. I don't see them asking to raise the baby themselves! Or paying.
You have no idea of the time, money, efforts of raising a child. Especially at 14. taking care of yourself is one thing, a whole separate thing to add a baby who 100% needs to for food, clothing, safety, medial care, attention.
Think about it. And go on birth control or use a condom.
2007-01-25 11:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
Decide between adoption or keeping it.
Don't get an abortion, if you look up abortion on the web you would decide not to to it!
Im a proud mother of two little ones 3yrs and 8mths and it has been very hard but i wouldnt change it!
It sounds like your not bothered in what to do, so keep it !
Like you said, you think your be able to handle it pretty well!
You have made this little baby, carry the pregnancy on and love your baby when he/she arrives
Good luck in what you decidex
2007-01-25 06:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by cgiggler3010 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No you should not resort to abortion. If you can take care of yuor child it is the best. If you do not want to bring up your child, you should offer this child to some other couple for adoption who could not do conception due to one reason of the other. I think adoption is very easy method than to bring up a child. Good Luck.
2007-01-25 07:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
abortion is sad but i think it's alot bette then adoption. The kids will grow up feeling they are unwanted and will live a miserable life. Let's just say some of them will grow up feeling sad. Abortion is harsh but the fetus / baby won't feel anything and if I think it's the best solution for any unwanted pregancy. You would have to have the abortion early though not when it's like 7 months.
2007-01-25 09:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by 525 B 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you got pregnant and you don't want the baby I would suggest keeping it until full term and when you have the baby at least give the baby up for adoption, Im not down with the abortions.
2007-01-25 06:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by echc 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You sound confident & positive so i would say follow your heart. You will get many answers to this question as it is a very controversial issue, however you should only do what feels right in your heart & don't feel pressured by other's opinions & arguements. My personal experience of having children is wonderful & i'm also a single parent.
2007-01-25 07:02:39 · answer #11 · answered by Mishell 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋