i've been with her son for about a year 1/2 now she was fine with me until now she thinks all im after is his money but im not and my boyfriend nows it! she says im lying and i not allowed to see him and even his brothers have admitted they ahve tried splitting us up on more then 1 occasion. i dont no what i have done wrong to deseve this i this i just had his baby but he was still born so we are all very emotinal atm i dont want her sympathy i want her to see im not as bad as she thinks i am i love he son to pieces and i not going to let he stand in our way but i dont want him to looose his family because of me and i dont want himn to choose becausre it isnt fair. what can i do to sort this out before its to late?please hep
2007-01-24 22:42:16 · 15 answers · asked by mel x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its all mother-n-laws not just you
2007-01-24 22:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by renja27 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, the decision is yours. You're the only one who knew if ur lying or not. If you're thinking that having u in his life will loose his family, and which u don't want that to happen as what I've said u'll be the one to decide it. But for me, if u really love the guy and ur willing to take the consequences, follow ur heart! Later on his mom will like u, i'm sure shes not a numb she has a good heart and soon u'll know that all the mom wants good for their children. But mind you if the guy is a mamas boy, can't decide for himself I'm telling you u dont have a good life together eventhough they are rich.
2007-01-24 23:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by petty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to give an honest answer as we haven't met. I don't think it is her business to interfere if you and your boyfriend love each other. I have had a similar situation in my life so I could say it's just them being protective of their son and being very judgemental in the process. Just stay focused on the love you share with your b/f and talk about your concerns to him but don't rubbish his mum to him as your b/f won't like that and two wrongs don't make a right. She will eventually see that you both make each other happy and he won't lose his family because of you, that's being too critical on yourself. Time heals everything and you might need to show his mum that you are a great person by example. My sympathy on the loss of your son. ((hugs))
2007-01-24 22:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by friendly face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to stand up if he wants to be able to run his life depending on his age it is time for mommy to let her bird fly . I am not saying he only needs to stand up for you but his whole life. We mom's have a bad habit to protect are young no matter how old they are if we feel like they are going to be hurt in any way we step in . You could try talking privately with his mom explain you love her son and respect her give your answers and questions to her with respect and frimness If we see you as a strong woman we are more likey to change our minds about you - Just a view point from a Mom of boys
2007-01-24 22:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by k®ì§ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some mums just won't like there son's partners regardless of who they are. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you have both found strength in each other to move past this.
Maybe she holds her son on such a high pedestal that nothing you do is going to be worthy for him. It's frustrating and tricky but all you can do is love him and care for him and be kind to her regardless how hard it is.
Mother in laws...Grrrrrrrrr
Good luck.
2007-01-24 22:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Venessa M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a dirt bag! I dont know how old this boyfriend is but if hes not old enough to be beyond their control kick his weak *** to the curb.
I dont know what makes families like that but there are some out there that are trash and I dont care how much money they have.
I wouldnt worry about all them your the one that needs time to heal from the hurt and let that family be dammed . I say , " Good Ridence to them all and that mother too.
2007-01-24 22:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by lovie12346 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its not about the money...its about a complex that thinks that no one will ever be good enough for her son. Your BF has to be strong and has to choose to demonstrate his love by sticking up for you (and himself) to his mother or live by his mother's rules over his life. He chooses his mother...than it would never work out for you. He will compromise you out of his life in time.
2007-01-24 22:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by Laughing Man Copycat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should just do what you think is right, i mean, you dont have tho care about his mom. you love her son, and thats about it, thats all that matter. if i were you i wont care i mean, this is my life! this is your life... so, I think, you just have to show her that you're not looking for his money! and show her that you love her son!! Good luck!
2007-01-24 22:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Katrin 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you invite her out do lunch and tell her that you feel tension from her and you'd like to understand why. Tell her your exact feelings for her son. Unfortunately, that's all you can do. If she doesn't like you it's her loss.
2007-01-24 22:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you explain her what is your problem,first you marry him
that is safty.you meet her with his son and explain her what is your problem.where is your parent you? told your
parent what is your problem they cure the bad situation.
2007-01-24 23:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋